Thank you all for your thoughtful replies, experience, and advice. It does help to know we’re not alone. To answer some of the questions above; I don’t believe she has any learning disabilities. She has never been screened and maybe I wouldn’t know what that would “look like” but I’ve also never had any of her other teachers at co-op, writing class, or even at her preschool many years ago express concern. She has never struggled with her schoolwork and she has performed very well on standardized testing every year. So far, school and learning has mostly come easy for her. I feel like I am appropriately challenging her though. I don’t necessarily feel like more difficult work is what she needs though? We met with her counselor today and she spoke with each of us separately and gave me some ideas to try. Next week, we will meet together. I think she does realize I’m serious now about school, and also realizes I don’t want to; I would be doing it not because it’s the easy way out or because I want to. It would be last resort. And I know she doesn’t want to go either, so maybe things will improve. We will see. Thank you for the books suggestions. I’m going to check those out. For those who have said they have/are experiencing similar behavior/challenges, (((hugs))) Thank you for sharing your experiences with me.

I hope it’s ok to post here. I have “lurked” for years but never really posted. I’m at the end of my rope with homeschooling my very strong willed DD10 😓. I honestly have never truly considered sending her to school but I think I’m getting there. She doesn’t want to go to school. But I don’t know what else to do. She is so smart. And she can be very sweet and lovely, but school is becoming a nightmare. She can be great while we are doing something she enjoys; at this point that is pretty much the read-aloud we do together or cooking. As soon as we switch gears, it’s arguing, disrespect, mouthiness, backtalk, yelling, etc. She has to have the last word. It has to be on her terms. If she doesn’t want to do it, watch out. She is also very easily distracted and keeping her focused/on task makes me the “bad guy” as well. I feel like I have tried everything; more structure, less structure, more sleep, giving her freedom to choose the order we do things, adjusting consequences, severely limiting electronics. I try to talk with her calmly, reason with her. She cannot be reasoned with. It seems primarily to be a problem with me and specifically with regards to school. We had almost no problems over Christmas break. She does not push things with her dad like she does with me. But honestly with his work schedule he’s just not around as much and I’m the one who bears the brunt of everything. We started counseling about 2 months ago because of some of these issues. Her inability to manage her emotions scares me sometimes. It definitely seems out of the realm of normal tween mood swings, starting puberty etc. She is so intelligent but she’s also 10 and seems to think she is on the same level with me. I do not think she respects me. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells with her all the time. I don’t want to say the wrong thing and set her off. Just typing it out sounds ridiculous. 😕 She mostly does fine with other adults. She can be loud/outgoing/bossy in groups but disrespect hasn’t really been a huge issue. We have been part of a co-op for 6 years and she dances twice a week so she is used to some degree of classroom setting. Relevant background info: she has always been homeschooled, she has an older brother, 14, also homeschooled (although he did go to school for K and 1st). She is intensely aware of him and what he’s doing and whether it’s “fair.” He gets to do more because he is older and honestly we don’t have issues with him homeschooling so he does have more freedom (sometimes he sleeps later, sometimes he goes to study with a friend etc). He gets his work done. Even if he’s still working at 6 or 8 pm. I don’t have to remind him or stay on top of him. And just in general, he is a teen and has more friends/activities and she is jealous of that. But she does have outside activities (Girl Scouts and dance and church activities). She has one close friend; she had 2 other girls she was close to for 5 years but one went to school and the other kind of moved on. So I know she is struggling with friendship. She is not very much like most of the other girls at our co-op because she is so extroverted. This year she has been hanging with the boys there more than anyone. I don’t really know what I’m looking for. Advice/commiseration/hugs welcome. I don’t know what to do anymore and I feel like homeschooling her is breaking my spirit 😢 I also feel like a failure. We have a good homeschooling community but I just feel alone in this.

This is the Stanford Achievement Test.

So in the 2nd question, what is the answer they are looking for? :confused1: I guess cubs? I guess where I'm confused is hugs could also be a plural of the noun hug, yes?

This is our first year testing my 3rd grader and I am using BJU on the advice of some other homeschool moms. I got the materials today and I have some confusion concerning the "Word Study Skills" questions. Example: the "er" in teacher is the same as the "er" in helper, faster, or bigger? The "s" in writes means the same as the "s" in hugs, yes, or cubs? DS, DH, and I all disagree on what they are looking for! We are coming from A Beka for language arts and my 7th grader has always tested extremely well (at co-op). I am 35 years old and college educated and so is my DH lol. Is this really that complicated? :confused1: What is your take? My daughter has not seen the materials and I won't be sharing any of this with her prior to test time but I was trying to familiarize myself with everything beforehand and this was on the first page.