Popular Post Teresa in MO Posted March 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted March 6, 2017 It has been six months since my dh suddenly passed away. We married at 18 and would have celebrated our 39th wedding anniversary in June. I have never experienced a pain so deep. If anything, it's deeper now than when it happened. I feel as if half of me is missing. I have experienced what stress and anxiety can do to you both physically and emotionally. I have struggled greatly at times. I am just now thinking I might actually make it through this. So much has changed. I still have 2 dc that I am homeschooling. This has been a rough school year and we are behind. My dd is getting married in May and it is very bittersweet for all of us. There have been times on this board that people ask how they can be of help for families where someone has passed. The number one thing I would say is to be there for the months that follow. That is so important. I know we all get busy, I have been guilty of that in the past, too. There have been few friends and family that keep in touch with me. It has been so meaningful to have someone call or message me saying they were thinking about me or how are things going, do you need anything. I have been surprised though how few those people are. So, please just keep in touch. 59 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrulySusan Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 So very sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing ways we can help the people we know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: Hugs, Teresa. I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NikiSC Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm sorry and I pray that you can continue to just put one foot in front of the other. Thank you for the reminder of how to serve others. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kfamily Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm sorry. :( :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faithr Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I am so sorry. I think too it is ok to be "needy" and ask people to help you during the dark days. People do forget or get preoccupied and sometimes they just need to know what you need. I just sent up a prayer for you. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm so sorry, Teresa. :crying: Thank you for the reminder about staying in touch. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tampamommy Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: So sorry. Thank you for your words of wisdom to everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Teresa, I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is so, so deeply painful. And it doesn't stop at some designated time. Hugs and love to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: I'll admit to never asking, but you have been on my mind during the last 6 months and I've wondered how you are doing. I can only imagine how difficult it all has been, esp with a huge hole in your life. Thanks for the update and reminder. I guess part of what kept me from asking is not knowing if I would set off some painful memories or if it would be comforting. It helps to have your views on that. Take care. :grouphug: 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm so sorry. I remember reading the tribute your son-in-law wrote about your dh. He sounded like such a wonderful man! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I don't have any words, just hugs and support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Hugs Teresa. Thanks for the update. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom25girls Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I am so sorry. Thank you for taking the time and sharing your honest perspective. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 Oh dear! I'm so sorry that I "may" not have known. (there's so much activity on this board that it's hard to keep it straight sometimes). This is so sad. When my Dad passed away Aug 2015 a friend of mine who knew about it said she purposefully waited until a month later when, as time moves on and reality sets in, it would "hit" me. I thought that was very discerning. Hugs to you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 So sorry about your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: , Teresa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I am very sorry for everything. (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm so very sorry for your loss, Teresa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth S Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm thankful you were brave enough to share this with us today. My dear friend here passed the 1 year mark of young widowhood last week. Your advice reminds me to keep reaching out to her. Thank you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: It must be so very hard. I am sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 So so sorry Teresa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted March 6, 2017 Share Posted March 6, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss. Many hugs and prayers for comfort in your grief. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomsintheGarden Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I am so sorry, Teresa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 (Hugs). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I cannot imagine the pain. You have my sincere sympathies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjeepa Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I am so sorry. I can't even imagine what you are going through. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Thank you for checking in. Continuing to think of you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I'm so very sorry. Six months is so early still. Give yourself time. Take care. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 It is so hard when it feels like no one remembered or cares. Logically you know it's not true, of course. But sometimes those feelings of lonliness can overwhelm us. I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lori D. Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: Teresa and family :grouphug: So very sorry for your pain and loss. It's like the protective "numbing" shock at the time wears off at about 6 months, and everything is so freshly painful again. Praying people in real life will also come and provide those hugs and the much-needed support at this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 (edited) :grouphug: I'm sorry. I watched my sister go through grief as a young widow, and she had a similar experience. And even being that close, I've forgotten it somewhat over the years. I really appreciate that you took the time to update and to share that perspective. It's important to be reminded. I'm going to send a card to someone I know is still grieving today. Edited March 7, 2017 by sbgrace 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 :grouphug: So sorry you are hurting. I hope you find lots of comfort while you hurt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 Prayers for your aching heart. Thank you for the reminder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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