prairiewindmomma Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Yael--I'm glad that you made it safely to see her. I've been thinking of and praying for you all often. It is a blessing and privilege to be with someone as they pass from one world to the next, but it can also such very hard work for them and you. ***much love and peace*** 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Glad you made it to see her. Praying for you and your family 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharpie Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: I'm glad you are able to be there. I wish circumstances were better. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 More hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Wow, changes in her so very quickly. I'm so grateful that you were able to get there and am continuing to pray for you. May the Lord give you strength to walk through this time with courage and peace. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 I'm so sorry you didn't make it before she lost consciousness. I hope that you are still able to provide comfort. Many hugs to you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinaPagnato Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 I've been thinking about you and your sister all day. Still praying for her comfort and sweet time with the family :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Praying for you and your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Still praying for you, Yael. Strength, courage, tenderness, and peace. Hospice may tell you that her hearing will be one of the last capacities to go, and you may get a glimpse into that as well. Use that to your advantage to interact with her in ways that she would have found meaningful or soothing. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 glad you were able to get there and spend time with her as well as being a blessing to your family. Hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Still thinking about you and your family and sending prayers + :grouphug: . 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) Update: My sister, Nicole Monique McCoy (Spring), died at 2:09pm on Friday, January 20, 2017 surrounded by family and her best friend, Carmen. She was unconscious from the time I got to her, but during that time, she did come up a little bit three times because she was choking on her mucus/saliva. Each time she opened her eyes, unseeing but I saw she was in there, just not fully. I held her hand and talked to her during those times. One of the times, I told her the nurse was coming to help her and she nodded. Then I told her I loved her and she nodded. The nurse came in and suctioned her and while she was, my sister held up her finger as if to say wait a second. I asked her if she wanted the nurse to stop for a second and she nodded. The nurse stopped and she put her finger down. Once it was all done, she fell back into unconsciousness. On Friday, her best friend came back from a vacation and drove madly from Charlotte to see her. She arrived and spent time with her. I though it would be a great time to go to my parent's home to take a shower and get ready for Shabbos (Shabbat). My mom and I got about 2/3 of the way home when I got a phone call that we needed to come back right away. I turned tail and sped back. We got back within five minutes of her death and said our final goodbyes. We made the phone call to the Bahai elders and they showed up in 30 minutes to unload the suitcase they prepared for the washing and preparation of the body. That took about 40 minutes and then the funeral home came to pick up my sister's body. I escorted her out of her room and left as Shabbos was on its way. I got home with ten minutes to spare. Pre-heated the oven, threw the salmon in the oven, took a shower and came to light candles. My sister's last gift to me - I wasn't stuck in the hospice but got to go my parent's home and have time with them. My sister's funeral is Sunday at 2pm at Westminster Gardens in Greensboro NC. I would honored if any locals want to come. May we only share happy times. Edited January 22, 2017 by YaelAldrich 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I am so sad for you families loss, but I am glad that you were all with her. :grouphug: :grouphug: ((((Yael)))) :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss, but glad you made it in time to be there with her. My thoughts are with you and your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bibiche Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry, Yael, but glad you were able to be there with your sister. You and Nicole and your family are in my thoughts. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :grouphug: I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad that you were able to spend this time with your sister. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraw4321 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad for you that you were able to go and be with her. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) My sister's funeral is Sunday at 2pm at Westminster Gardens in Greensboro NC. I would honored if any locals want to come. May we only share happy times. I'll be there in spirit - wishing I could be there in person. I'm sorry your sister's life ended this way and way too soon/young. Take care. :grouphug: Edited January 22, 2017 by creekland 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss, I'm saying a prayer for you this morning. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Mousie Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss, Yael. I wish i could be in NC with you today. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry. Thinking of you today and I wish I could be there to give you a hug. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss but so glad that you got to see her before she passed. ((Hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeLovePassion Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry. I am so thankful you went when you did. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this tender time in your life with us. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 It's a huge loss, but I'm so glad you got to be with her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss, but thankful you could be with her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so very sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Insertcreativenamehere Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so very sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss, but so glad you were there for her at the end. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILiveInFlipFlops Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :crying: I, too, am so glad you got to be there for your sister, and that she was surrounded by the people who loved her the most as she passed. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I am sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you had the chance to go and be there for her and your parents. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Thinking of you and your family today, Yael. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss, Yael. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 ((Yael)) I am very sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Hugs. Holding you in the light. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 For those few moments, she knew you were there and taking care of her. Sending thoughts of peace and comfort for you and your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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