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I'm sorry for your family's loss and your sister's difficult death.  I am glad you got a chance to see and speak with her, though.

Update:

 

My sister, Nicole Monique McCoy (Spring), died at 2:09pm on Friday, January 20, 2017 surrounded by family and her best friend, Carmen.  

 

She was unconscious from the time I got to her, but during that time, she did come up a little bit three times because she was choking on her mucus/saliva.  Each time she opened her eyes, unseeing but I saw she was in there, just not fully.  I held her hand and talked to her during those times.  One of the times, I told her the nurse was coming to help her and she nodded.   Then I told her I loved her and she nodded.  The nurse came in and suctioned her and while she was, my sister held up her finger as if to say wait a second.  I asked her if she wanted the nurse to stop for a second and she nodded.  The nurse stopped and she put her finger down.  Once it was all done, she fell back into unconsciousness.  

 

On Friday, her best friend came back from a vacation and drove madly from Charlotte to see her.  She arrived and spent time with her.  I though it would be a great time to go to my parent's home to take a shower and get ready for Shabbos (Shabbat). My mom and I got about 2/3 of the way home when I got a phone call that we needed to come back right away.  I turned tail and sped back.  We got back within five minutes of her death and said our final goodbyes.

 

We made the phone call to the Bahai elders and they showed up in 30 minutes to unload the suitcase they prepared for the washing and preparation of the body.  That took about 40 minutes and then the funeral home came to pick up my sister's body.  I escorted her out of her room and left as Shabbos was on its way.

 

I got home with ten minutes to spare.  Pre-heated the oven, threw the salmon in the oven, took a shower and came to light candles.  My sister's last gift to me - I wasn't stuck in the hospice but got to go my parent's home and have time with them.

 

My sister's funeral is Sunday at 2pm at Westminster Gardens in Greensboro NC.  I would honored if any locals want to come.  May we only share happy times.

 

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So happy you were there in time and got a few moments with her. 

 

I'm so sorry for your loss and will be keeping you and her family in my prayers.

 

In case anybody is interested, here are some of what Bahais believe regarding death. Abdul-Baha was the son of the founder of the Bahai faith.  He was a quite prolific writer and from what I remember those that came into contact with him when he came to the West in the 20s? (maybe before) were quite impressed with his character and eloquence.  I seem to remember him being homeschooled too, with very little formal education.   (I took a Bahai mediation course about 10 years ago.)  

 

"“To consider that after the death of the body the spirit perishes,†‘Abdu’l-Bahá has said “is like imagining that a bird in a cage will be destroyed if the cage is broken, though the bird has nothing to fear from the destruction of the cage. Our body is like the cage, and the spirit is like the bird…if the cage becomes broken, the bird will continue and exist. Its feelings will be even more powerful, its perceptions greater, and its happiness increased…â€"

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I'm sorry for your loss, and your family's. I hope the funeral provides some means of comfort and that your family can draw strength from and give strength to one another. I'm glad you were able to say goodbye...even though it must have been a difficult time.

 

(Yael)

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.   

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am.  I am heartbroken. 

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken.

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

I'm sorry for your loss, April. May your mother rest with the saints.

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.   

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am.  I am heartbroken. 

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

 

Prayers being sent for both Yael and April.  May the good memories sustain you both in the coming days.

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.   

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am.  I am heartbroken. 

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

 

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.   

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am.  I am heartbroken. 

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

April, I am so sorry your mother passed away.  May you and your family know sorrow no more very soon.  

 

I want to thank everyone for their prayers, well wishes, and advice.  I am back in Boston and getting back to my new normal.  

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I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed.   

 

I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response.

 

Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am.  I am heartbroken. 

 

I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family.

 

I'm so sorry, April  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

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