Reefgazer Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for your family's loss and your sister's difficult death. I am glad you got a chance to see and speak with her, though. Update: My sister, Nicole Monique McCoy (Spring), died at 2:09pm on Friday, January 20, 2017 surrounded by family and her best friend, Carmen. She was unconscious from the time I got to her, but during that time, she did come up a little bit three times because she was choking on her mucus/saliva. Each time she opened her eyes, unseeing but I saw she was in there, just not fully. I held her hand and talked to her during those times. One of the times, I told her the nurse was coming to help her and she nodded. Then I told her I loved her and she nodded. The nurse came in and suctioned her and while she was, my sister held up her finger as if to say wait a second. I asked her if she wanted the nurse to stop for a second and she nodded. The nurse stopped and she put her finger down. Once it was all done, she fell back into unconsciousness. On Friday, her best friend came back from a vacation and drove madly from Charlotte to see her. She arrived and spent time with her. I though it would be a great time to go to my parent's home to take a shower and get ready for Shabbos (Shabbat). My mom and I got about 2/3 of the way home when I got a phone call that we needed to come back right away. I turned tail and sped back. We got back within five minutes of her death and said our final goodbyes. We made the phone call to the Bahai elders and they showed up in 30 minutes to unload the suitcase they prepared for the washing and preparation of the body. That took about 40 minutes and then the funeral home came to pick up my sister's body. I escorted her out of her room and left as Shabbos was on its way. I got home with ten minutes to spare. Pre-heated the oven, threw the salmon in the oven, took a shower and came to light candles. My sister's last gift to me - I wasn't stuck in the hospice but got to go my parent's home and have time with them. My sister's funeral is Sunday at 2pm at Westminster Gardens in Greensboro NC. I would honored if any locals want to come. May we only share happy times. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen A Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I'm sorry for the loss of your dear sister. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Very sorry for your loss. So glad you could be there! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I am so sorry, Yael. May her memory be for a blessing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 :grouphug: So sorry for your loss! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I am so sorry Yael, and so glad you could be there. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 :grouphug: Sorry for your loss. Glad you could be there with her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 So happy you were there in time and got a few moments with her. I'm so sorry for your loss and will be keeping you and her family in my prayers. In case anybody is interested, here are some of what Bahais believe regarding death. Abdul-Baha was the son of the founder of the Bahai faith. He was a quite prolific writer and from what I remember those that came into contact with him when he came to the West in the 20s? (maybe before) were quite impressed with his character and eloquence. I seem to remember him being homeschooled too, with very little formal education. (I took a Bahai mediation course about 10 years ago.) "“To consider that after the death of the body the spirit perishes,†‘Abdu’l-Bahá has said “is like imagining that a bird in a cage will be destroyed if the cage is broken, though the bird has nothing to fear from the destruction of the cage. Our body is like the cage, and the spirit is like the bird…if the cage becomes broken, the bird will continue and exist. Its feelings will be even more powerful, its perceptions greater, and its happiness increased…â€" 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister. But I am so glad that you made the trip when you did. I'm sure your presence was comforting to her, even if she couldn't express that to you. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss, and your family's. I hope the funeral provides some means of comfort and that your family can draw strength from and give strength to one another. I'm glad you were able to say goodbye...even though it must have been a difficult time. (Yael) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to spend time with your sister though. (((hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I am so sorry, Yael. May her memory be for a blessing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss. What a treasure to have gotten to be with her. Wishing you peace in the days ahead. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TCB Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 So sorry for your loss. So glad you were able to be there with her. Praying for peace for you and your family in the days ahead. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 (edited) I'm so sorry for your loss. Edited January 23, 2017 by TranquilMind 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 I am sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 {{Yael}} I'm so sorry for your loss. I am glad that everything fell into place for you to be with her. Praying for you and your family during this time. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss Yael, and so glad that you could be there for your sister. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawyer&Mom Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 What a fascinating family you have Yael. I am so sorry for your loss. May you cherish your memories of your sister. I hope the funeral goes smoothly and provides comfort to you all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AprilTN Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. I'm sorry for your loss, April. May your mother rest with the saints. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. Prayers being sent for both Yael and April. May the good memories sustain you both in the coming days. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 Praying for you, too, April. So sorry for your Mom's passing. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted January 26, 2017 Author Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. April, I am so sorry your mother passed away. May you and your family know sorrow no more very soon. I want to thank everyone for their prayers, well wishes, and advice. I am back in Boston and getting back to my new normal. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILiveInFlipFlops Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry to hear that your sister passed away, but I am happy that you were able to get there before she passed. I wrote about my hospice experience on a previous page, I was the one sitting with my mom (who was receiving hospice care) as I was typing a response. Sadly, my sweet mother passed away on Monday, Jan.23 at 11:00am. I am heartbroken. I am sending out thoughts for peace and healing for your family. I'm so sorry, April :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I am so sorry both to Yael and to April. May your hearts find peace. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 I'm sorry, April 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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