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  1. I’ve had one molar implant for 10+ plus years and not a single issue. It wasn’t cheap, but I love it.
  2. Several of my dearest friends are Autistic. None of us knew it at the time, but I think our shared interests and shared Autism drew us together. Some of the people who annoy me the most on this planet are Autistic... My social skills are okay, not great, but people making social errors that *I* notice can really set me on edge... I’ll try to be kind, but I’m not going to be thrilled, especially if we don’t have much in common. So yeah. Being open to Autistic friends is great, but not a magic solution to all friend issues.
  3. RE marriage and ASD: it just depends. I think the level of social deficit really makes a difference. Also the social needs of the other partner. I’m actually more social than my not-ASD husband. But he is geeky and introverted and we gladly spend hours quietly sitting together on the couch with our own laptops... This kind of marriage would not work for everyone! It works for us. I know other ASD marriages with varying levels of success. And yes, I’ve seen it be very difficult. That experience is real, but there can be other outcomes depending on the individuals involved.
  4. Lials math textbooks are used to teach elementary and high school math to adults. Used versions are very inexpensive on Amazon. Very straightforward. I don’t know if they would get him where he needs to go quickly, but it’s something to know about.
  5. If he is hypermobile, I would look into Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. It’s so common with Autism. I have both. Mine is fairly mild, but it’s just another thing that explains so much about me.
  6. Everything you described sounds like Autism to me. Especially Public Speaking. *Lots* of Autistic Adults enjoy public speaking. Delivering a monologue, perhaps on a favorite topic, is much less socially nuanced than meeting six strangers at a BBQ, right? You say you don’t want to bring it up, because you don’t want him to think something is wrong. As an Autistic adult, I’d really encourage you to reframe how *you* feel about this information. “Isn’t this cool, Autism really explains so many parts of who you are, and who I am. I’m so glad to have this new understanding! You were so right, the store really is overwhelming! You are such a great kid, we love that you have found a subject to study that you enjoy and that taps your strengths! Lots of Autistic people have excellent visual-spatial skills, I bet you do too!” Don’t feel bad if being positive about it doesn’t happen right away. It’s a lot to process. But truly, it isn’t bad news. It’s just explaining a difference that was always there. Since you are thinking about it a lot, may I suggest some memoirs about late diagnosed Autistic women? Cynthia Kim, Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life Cook O'Toole, Jennifer, Autism in Heels: The Untold Story of a Female Life on the Spectrum Katherine May, The Electricity Of Every Living Thing There are several Autistic women here on the forums, please feel free to ask questions.
  7. I was trying to answer “The Who Can Afford a $750,000 House” question, and also the “Could We Live in Seattle On One Tech Salary” question. The “How Does Everyone Else Afford It” question is completely different. Seattle has a $15 minimum wage, which helps, but only so much. I know daycare workers who had 2 hour commutes on public transit from Tacoma or Gig Harbor. Or lived with their parents in a house the family bought 40 years ago. Or tiny rent-subsidized apartments and zero savings. It’s brutal.
  8. Dual income households. Lots and lots of couples make $200,000+ in Seattle. Two tech salaries or one lawyer, one tech... Given the costs of housing (and daycare!) it doesn’t feel like an enormous amount of money. (A very nice solid amount, but not enormous.) But I know plenty of single income families too. Live a bit farther out, or buy a condo, or rent. And you don’t have to go that far out. South King County, like Burien, Federal Way, or Renton, has listings for small houses under $400,000. You can get a two bedroom condo in East Bellevue for under $400,000. I know $400,000 is still a big number, but doable with a $100,000 tech salary. Edited to add: I don’t want this to sound like a “Let them eat cake” in South King County thing. I have friends, family and coworkers who live in these cities. Was just in Burien for a kids birthday party last weekend.
  9. I don’t know if Microsoft is mellow, but it’s *way* mellower than Amazon....
  10. We moved to Seattle for BigTech and loved it so much we stayed. (You guys are really hard on this town!) Green, beautiful, more reasonably priced than San Francisco. Seattle proper is very liberal, but the surrounding suburbs each have their own feel. (You want evangelical Christian homeschoolers, we have them!)
  11. What are your community college options like? Could she take a class or two to provide some social in addition to homeschooling? I would be choosy and only take a great class with a great prof. She needs a positive experience.
  12. Definitely looking for a passionate deep dive into language arts with accelerated kids. They don’t start until 2nd grade, so we have time (just starting K.)
  13. My mom is slightly more subtle but pretty much the same. You are allowed to get sick, and allowed to need time to recover. (I still feel guilty whenever I take a sick day too.)
  14. I found it really helpful to make a list of the diagnostic criteria and brainstorm with other adults (Dad, Grandma, teachers...) about possible symptoms/behaviors that could fit. It helps you think outside the box a bit, which I needed with a girl. (Oh yeah, drawing pictures of Princesses every single day *is* a repetitive interest...) This way I came to the meeting armed with anecdotes and ready to engage.
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