goldberry Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) UPDATE: Police have found her safe and my dad is heading over to get her. I need to go have a drink now... :sad: Positive thoughts please... I'm just sitting here a nervous wreck. My mom (lives in another state) was gone this morning with her car when my dad got up at 6 am. Her debit card was used locally at 7 pm. It was used 2 hours ago in a town she's never been to, about 1.5 hours south of where they live. She does not have a phone with her. My dad is going to the bank with the police to give them real-time access to her card activity. He is also worried someone may have taken her purse. The police won't issue a Silver Alert until they can verify her dementia diagnosis with her doctor, who is closed for lunch right now. ?? Ugh. Just trying not to panic. Edited July 19, 2017 by goldberry 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Jaybee Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry. I hope they are able to get on this quickly, and that she is found safe and sound. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying. I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying and sending hopeful thoughts your way! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I'm so sorry. Hope she's found quickly and that everything is ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeenagerMom Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Positive thoughts please... I'm just sitting here a nervous wreck. My mom (lives in another state) was gone this morning with her car when my dad got up at 6 am. Her debit card was used locally at 7 pm. It was used 2 hours ago in a town she's never been to, about 1.5 hours south of where they live. She does not have a phone with her. My dad is going to the bank with the police to give them real-time access to her card activity. He is also worried someone may have taken her purse. The police won't issue a Silver Alert until they can verify her dementia diagnosis with her doctor, who is closed for lunch right now. ?? Ugh. Just trying not to panic. The doctor needs to be paged for an emergency then if they can or would a local hospital have any dementia related records on her? Hopefully she is found safely soon. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I am so, so sorry. I hope she is found, I hope no one is hurt, I hope she gets the help she needs. Praying for you. That would scare the tar out of me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 The receptionist got back and was able to pull records so they went ahead and issued the alert. They are also checking with the last place it was used to see if they can tell if it was her or someone else using it. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Oh no, I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers to you and your family, and I hope she is found safe soon. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Twigs Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 So hard waiting for news, I'm sure! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying they find your mom quickly! :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Laura Corin Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Sending good thoughts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 How very scary! I hope she is located safe and sound very soon. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 many (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Sending positive thoughts your way. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 How scary! I'm glad they issued the alert. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Oh my! I'm so sorry. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I hope they find her quickly. We had a number of silver alerts for MIL. Time to hide or take away car keys, I think. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I'm so sorry! Saying a prayer for you and for her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Lanny Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I have my fingers crossed, and I just prayed, that they find your mother OK. I am puzzled, since the thread title says that she has Dementia, why and how she was still driving, etc. When I read the thread title, I assumed that she had wandered off from the house and wondered if she had a GPS thing on her so they could locate her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guinevere Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I'm so sorry! Praying! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Huge hugs!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Oh no. Praying. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ananda Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Dementia is so tough. My grandma had Alzheimer's, my grandpa had such a time trying to keep both her & himself safe. Best wishes. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 I'm so sorry, your family must be worried sick. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 I have my fingers crossed, and I just prayed, that they find your mother OK. I am puzzled, since the thread title says that she has Dementia, why and how she was still driving, etc. When I read the thread title, I assumed that she had wandered off from the house and wondered if she had a GPS thing on her so they could locate her. She wasn't as bad previously. She was at the point where she only drove during the day when my dad was home, to the local Kroger or Walgreens that she has gone to for 40 years. Those are both about 5 minutes away. She did not drive after dark, or anywhere else besides those two places. Occasionally to my sister's house, also about 5 minutes away. SUPPOSEDLY my dad was putting her car keys away at night, precisely to avoid this kind of situation. Obviously he either did not put the keys away or she found them somehow. We had talked to my dad and the doctor about whether she should be driving, but he felt that she was still okay within those parameters. The doctor agreed. That's the problem though, how do you know when they are not okay within those parameters anymore until something happens? We will obviously be having some conversations. The police just confirmed that it was her using the card at the last place, so that's good news. The police are being very helpful. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Fingers crossed and praying that she is found quickly and that she is AOK. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Oh, goldberry I can imagine how stressed and worried you are especially not being nearby. I'm hoping they find her soon and that she's safe. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Glad it was her using her card and that the police are being helpful. more (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying that they find her safely and quickly. Also praying that the conversation about getting her into a safer situation: either a GPS unit of some sort or a locked memory care unit in a licensed nursing home (not assisted living) goes well. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in OK Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying for her safety and that she's found quickly. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Praying she is found safe and sound, and soon. I'm so glad it really was her using the card. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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goldberry Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 They may have found her. She called home from a convenience store and they got the address, but she wanted to leave, "I need to get home!". The police and my dad are on their way there. Hoping she does not take off. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Hope they find her quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeenagerMom Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 She wasn't as bad previously. She was at the point where she only drove during the day when my dad was home, to the local Kroger or Walgreens that she has gone to for 40 years. Those are both about 5 minutes away. She did not drive after dark, or anywhere else besides those two places. Occasionally to my sister's house, also about 5 minutes away. SUPPOSEDLY my dad was putting her car keys away at night, precisely to avoid this kind of situation. Obviously he either did not put the keys away or she found them somehow. We had talked to my dad and the doctor about whether she should be driving, but he felt that she was still okay within those parameters. The doctor agreed. That's the problem though, how do you know when they are not okay within those parameters anymore until something happens? We will obviously be having some conversations. The police just confirmed that it was her using the card at the last place, so that's good news. The police are being very helpful. Hopefully the police can get the silver alert out to the towns on the route she seems to be taking. If not, start contacting the news stations yourself to try to get ahead of her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Sending good thoughts for your mother! I'm glad your dad and the police are making progress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted July 19, 2017 Author Share Posted July 19, 2017 The police have her. She was at a convenience store in downtown city area. My dad is heading that way. It's about an hour from home. Thank you for listening, hive. I was going crazy just sitting here. 43 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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