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  1. These threads are so predictable. Obvious misinformation is posted as a gotcha, OP is corrected with facts, OP digs in/attempts to gaslight/gets defensive instead of learns, OP finally claims to have something else to do/has no stake in the issue and disappears from conversation. Every.single.time.
  2. My son's university has a gaming society (club). You can bet a good deal of his fellow computer science students will be joining. Lol eta: DS dismantled his entire gaming PC to take with him to university— overseas. 🙂
  3. Yeah that’s possible. Many of the parents are professors; the kids definitely have access to a wider education than just during school hours.
  4. 1. Yeah, I can imagine. 😞 2. Honestly, I can’t know. I mean, his friends who went to the local public elementary that he graduated with went on to Ivies and similarly top tiered universities. In high school several of them took math courses together at the local LAC. In middle school same kids were allowed to take higher maths at the high school when they were in junior high. So it does seem the opportunities were there, and that the elementary and junior high were able and willing to work with advanced kids to give them what they needed. 3. She’s lucky, I’m sure you know that. There’s not much of a homeschooling community here and the few things we found didn’t translate into friendships or connections. Finding a homeschooling tribe would have been incredible.
  5. When we started homeschooling, we had recently moved from an urban city to very small, isolated community in Eastern Canada. To say the school was not prepared for DS is a massive understatement; they were hellbent on making sure he was not given resources to meet his needs. Poor kid spent his entire kindergarten year “learning letters” despite reading chapter books at home. He literally came home every day and begged to get to learn something, begged to get to do math. Yeah, it wasn’t a good fit. Bringing him home then was absolutely the right choice, if tough on him socially. We moved to our current community when he was 8. I honestly don’t know why I didn’t give the elementary school here a close look, didn’t think to ask around. He was involved in sports, knew lots of the kids he would later be good friends and academic peers with in high school. Still, we were ostracised a bit as homeschoolers, never really accepted by his friends' and teammates' parents. Probably they thought we did it for religious reasons, which isn't popular here (and not why we homeschooled, obviously). I don’t think any of us really talked about our reasons, but if I had I might have realized there was space for him to thrive in the public school here. The opportunities were here, I just didn’t know it at the time. (We did, however, specifically choose this community for the high school, where we always planned to send him) As for how he felt about homeschooling, it was always his choice so I guess he liked it, but he also never talked about it with anyone unless pressed. As he got a bit older and could do things like volunteer during the day, I know he appreciated the opportunity, but he didn’t fully take advantage of the flexibility we had. It’s hard to say how it influenced him—for sure he *continued to love to learn* which was probably my primary desire, but given the person he is I doubt even middle school could have sucked that out of him. 🙂
  6. I’m at an age and place in life when I’m starting to reflect on various life decisions and how they have affected me as an individual. Even as a teenager I promised myself I would always live with intention, and therefore without true regret. To do the best I can in the moment and all that. In that light I think I’ve succeeded. It’s impossible to know what might have been had I chosen different paths, known how to understand and honor myself fully, or had access to language that might have allowed myself more freedom. But since I didn’t have those at the time, can I truly have regret not taking paths I didn’t know were available? It’s weighing on me heavily at the moment. As for homeschooling, I had never even heard of it before I starting exploring educational possibilities for my precocious young child. Homeschooling is not an ideology to me, and not an undertaking I have actually ever recommended to anyone; it was simply an option that seemed better than the dismal situation we found ourselves in when DS started school. We took it year by year, and maybe stayed at it too long. I enjoyed it, mostly, but it was hard work, mostly unappreciated and overlooked. I don’t think DS has any particular feelings about having been homeschooled, even though it was always his decision; he certainly loved his years at our public high school. Had I known when we moved here that he could have gotten a truly excellent, tailored education in our public system I likely would have enrolled him right away. Either way he turned out fine. I totally relate to the small world, though. It goes beyond homeschooling for me; it was a reality of getting married young and moving around the country for years, prioritising a single relationship over lasting friendships and other possibilities. Perhaps I could have not hidden a part of myself away for so long had I had a wider circle of influence. But that’s a regret for another conversation, not specific to homeschooling.
  7. Am I understanding correctly that you were issued a credit in error? In that case, I would call the shop, explain the situation clearly and let them resolve it as they will. Whenever I’ve been accidentally given something extra by a store and tried to return it, they have declined to take it back. It’s too much of a headache on their end, and the goodwill goes a long way (even if inadvertently).
  8. You might simply have better luck with European brands. We used to stock up on pants for DS when traveling because European sizes for his body type better. Actually, just yesterday we bought him several pairs—he was desperate for pants and we had no trouble finding him plenty in Dublin. I’d guess the internet makes acquiring pants from overseas fairy simple.
  9. @Lanny, I’m glad your daughter has the opportunity to travel around Europe during her semester abroad. My DS is in university in Ireland and I assume/hope he'll be spending his breaks doing the same. 🙂
  10. The summer I was nine, my parents sent my 14 yo sister and myself on a train from Rome to Munich, where we were to meet an aunt we’d never met before. My mother neglected to send us with any food assuming we would get some on the train, but the kitchen was closed and there was no food available at all. Sister didn’t mind as she skipped away to hang out with Italian boys who flirted with her, but for me it was a long and hungry ride. Glad to see ammenities have improved in the past 40 years! Lol
  11. Sending you and your DD ((hugs)). There are no words. 😞
  12. We aren’t allowed inside DS's on campus apartment due to covid restrictions. It's probably for the best because I’d have a hard time not taking over the organisation and decorating. 😂
  13. This won’t help OP yet, but DS18 is a size 26 inch waist (can sometimes get away with an extra slim cut 28 waist if there are drawstrings), 34 inseam. We find pants at Patagonia and recently at ASOS—they have some extra skinny cuts that fit him well. H&M sometimes has extra slim cuts in those measurements, and we’ve had luck with Decathlon especially for running shorts (they sometimes carry a XS in his preferred 4-5 inch shorts). Prana makes extra slim 28/34 but DS recently lost some weight and can’t wear them right now.
  14. We’ve been wearing KF94s sometimes all day recently (including flying overnight). Yesterday DS and DH wore their Enro masks instead and both declared them much less comfortable after a short while. Both found them to fit well for something like quick trip to a shop, but not for walking and trying to hold a conversation. We all find the Posh/Be Healthy KF94s so comfortable we literally forget we are wearing them.
  15. We are wearing (and rotating) KF94s daily right now. Is it advisable to throw out masks that have been in potentially higher exposure areas like airports, or given several days is it ok to reuse those? I had planned to toss them but I guess if HCWs are reusing theirs, maybe I don’t need to throw them out?
  16. https://edition.cnn.com/travel/article/france-us-travelers-restriction-covid/index.html
  17. Our house came with a disc with photos before the remodel/modernization. It wasn’t in the walls, lol, but a very cool bit of history that has been handed down from various owners. If it’s an old house, it would be neat to include any stories you know about the house. Ours was once used as a credit union—I can’t find any information about how but it’s a well known bit of history in the neighborhood. I’d love to know more.
  18. Ooohhhhh she’s adorable! 😻
  19. This is a useful site for checking each individual countries regulations. Be aware that just passing through can come with its own issues, and that things are changing fast. www.reopen.europa.eu
  20. Yes, this. We didn’t have to test to get into Ireland since we are fully vaxxed, but rules everywhere are changing fast. The Binax tests are approved by the US for return back home.
  21. We were able to buy at home kits straight through the airline and we got them in just a couple of days. It’s hard to know the “right” thing to do. Ordering them was a last minute decision for us, vs testing in a clinic before flying home.
  22. Sending you socially distanced ((hugs)). All of this sucks. 😞
  23. When I was growing up in the ‘70’s, my atheist parents attended a hippy Methodist church. They didn’t believe in the religion aspect (I don’t think many people did), it was just a way to meet people in a new town. I mostly remember lots of macrame, backpacking trips and guitar music. I stopped going when I felt like it, and they did shortly thereafter. They never would have forced me to go. DS has never been inside a church except to admire the architecture and art in various European cathedrals. I know I’m coming at it from a very different angle than you, but forcing a kid doesn’t seem like it would have the desired effect one might be attempting.
  24. My take? He should wear what he wants, and since he politely asked you to stay out of it, you should honor his request. If he feels that his suggestions are appropriate, then they are, full stop. Whether his choice conforms with what anyone else is wearing doesn’t really matter as long as he’s happy. 🙂
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