MeaganS Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Dd8 has Turners Syndrome, diagnosed 2 years ago. Often associated with that are congenital heart problems. 2 years ago they did an echocardiogram to check, and noticed some problems that they said we'd need to keep an eye on and to come back in 2 years. From our research, we thought these were minor problems that might require some simple surgery as an adult. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I scheduled dd8 to get her scan a few months early because we are moving (in 2 weeks!) several states away and didn't want to worry about referrals until we settled. At her appointment, we saw a new cardiologist who informed us that her heart has gotten worse and according to the latest info, she needs fairly urgent surgery on her rapidly dilating aorta. He said her specific problem is very rare in children and she was the subject of the weekly meeting of cardiologists that they have at our hospital to discuss difficult or interesting cases. They all agreed with him. So now we are faced with the realization that our asymptomatic daughter needs serious open heart surgery from very specialized surgeons. The cardiologist doesn't feel comfortable with anyone at several really good nearby hospitals performing this particular surgery and it looks like we're going to end up at Mayo. Which is several hours from our new home. In the meantime, I have to coordinate our move, selling our house, and am moving ahead of dh with the girls by a few weeks. I'm about as stressed as I've ever been in my life and I'm very worried about dd8. I've had to deal with problems with her before but never anything life threatening. This problem isn't going to go away. She will continue to have problems even after surgery and will likely need more surgery in the next decade and throughout her life. I hate that my dd isn't healthy, but at the same time I am SO grateful we caught the problem. This usually goes undiagnosed in most people until it is too late. I really pushed to have her diagnosed with TS at 6 which led us to look at her heart. Her pediatrician just thought she was short but I knew something wasn't right. And we just happened to be scheduled to see this specific cardiologist who told us that he is one of a handful of doctors who knows enough about this issue to recognize the danger it is in her case specifically. We are also blessed because dh got a signing bonus with this new job that will cover any cost we have with this and we aren't going to have a gap in insurance. It's not what we were planning to do with the money, but it is so comforting to not have money be a stress on top of everything else. I feel like God is guiding us, but I still worry. I think this is just a vent. I am at home today, painting the bathroom and just needed to talk to someone about this. Usually I am a very emotionally even, independent person but this has me struggling. If you're a praying person, please keep her in your prayers. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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HSmomof2 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 ((((Hugs)))) What a difficult and stressful situation. Praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 That sounds SO intense. Even just reading it practically wore me out. Good for you for advocating so hard for your daughter and making them look at her heart, and it sounds like the treatment plan is a solid one, if very stressful. One thing at a time mama! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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FaithManor Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 ((((HUGS)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Laurie4b Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 :grouphug: Praying that dd will come through this with flying colors! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 That's a lot to take in all at once! Try to take it one breath at a time. Big hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Praying for your daughter, family, and you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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displace Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Hugs. Can you maybe pause the move to stay where you are and get the surgery there? I would hire packers and movers if you haven't. I would fly in support (grandparents, etc). Look into hotel rentals near the hospital if you'll be far away. :(. So sorry you're going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mbelle Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Prayers/good vibes and lots of :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Holding you and your family in the light. Lots of hugs. Nan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MeaganS Posted May 17, 2017 Author Share Posted May 17, 2017 (edited) Hugs. Can you maybe pause the move to stay where you are and get the surgery there? I would hire packers and movers if you haven't. I would fly in support (grandparents, etc). Look into hotel rentals near the hospital if you'll be far away. :(. So sorry you're going through this. We actually are blessed to be having movers. In fact, dd is scheduled for a sedated mri for the same day they will be here packing. Even her mri is complicated. We've already decided to hire people to do some of the projects too. So it could be a lot worse. Our family is very supportive and want to help. I can call on any of them at any point and they would come. We're saving that help for the actual surgery though, since they all live at least a day's drive away. Also, our church here is stepping up and even our new church is on board to help. Edited May 17, 2017 by Meagan S 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Praying here! You must be so scared. :( :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Oh my goodness! I don't know what else to say. Thankful that you had the tests done when you did and that the dr caught it now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 :grouphug: My thoughts and prayers are with you. Vent away. Also, you're doing the right thing going to the best surgeon you can. I am familiar with one of the top pediatric hospitals in the world, and those pediatric heart surgeons and their teams are amazing. They do things that are unimaginable ten to twenty years ago. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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PrincessMommy Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I'm stressed out trying to find a house and move. I can't imagine adding a major health crisis into the mix! Prayers and hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Mabelen Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Oh, my goodness! Praying for a good outcome. Praising you for your emotional strength! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Please check on staying at the Ronald McDonald House. Here is a link on the process in Rochester. You can get on the wait list, then get a referral from the social worker at the hospital. If you can get in, it will save a lot on hotel bills. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 I am sending hugs to you and prayers to your dd. I am so glad you caught this and that she is going to get the best care. I love all the support that is surrounding you. I want to just come on over and help you with everything. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Praying for you precious dd and you whole family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Holding your DD, your family, and all of the doctors and nurses who will treat her in prayer. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 You are in my prayers for sure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 So sorry. This is hard to,take I know. ((((Hugs))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kfamily Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 That is so much! Praying for you tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 (((((Hugs)))) and prayers for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Saying prayer for excellent surgeons, that all will go smoothly and she will recover fast. Also that everything else falls into place. I am sorry this broke in over you so close to a move. One day at a time...sometimes one hour...Hope you have the support of family and/or friends nearby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monica_in_Switzerland Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Thank God you are in a position to receive good treatment without undue burden, but I am so, so, so sorry your family has to go through this. My prayers are with you all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Moving (the getting ready to move part) is one of the worst stressors I've had in my life and I cannot imagine having to add on what you are facing to that. Many hugs and good thoughts to your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Adding prayers and support that all goes as well as it can. I'm glad you have good support from family and your churches. May God give you wisdom and peace as you deal with it all. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mama. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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