BlsdMama Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 It is never, ever, ever your place to suggest maybe they shouldn't have more. And it never appropriate to suggest that maybe a miscarriage is God's way of telling you that. I wrote so much more, but trying to swallow the anger........... It isn't actually working, but trying. 32 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vonfirmath Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 *hugs* I'm sorry 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: I want to say I can't believe somebody would say that.... but sadly I know better. :grouphug: again, and I'm sorry for your loss. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Oh wow! I cannot imagine anyone being so rude! I am so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 It is never, ever, ever your place to suggest maybe they shouldn't have more. And it never appropriate to suggest that maybe a miscarriage is God's way of telling you that. I wrote so much more, but trying to swallow the anger........... It isn't actually working, but trying. Ahhh...really? Someone actually said that? That's awful and heartless. So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. some people need a filter stapled to their mouth. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 What? Wow! How incredibly rude of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 People can be so cruel and thoughtless. I'm sorry you bore the brunt of that today :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catalytic Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 (edited) Wow, that is horrible. I am sorry. Edited June 15, 2016 by Lecka Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. I can truly imagine; I have heard the most insensitive "reasons" why my baby died. People like to explain things in a way that suits the stories they tell themselves. But it sucks when you have to hear it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. That's awful. Some people just shouldn't talk. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 What in the world? My word, some people are heartless. I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MooCow Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 It is never, ever, ever your place to suggest maybe they shouldn't have more. And it never appropriate to suggest that maybe a miscarriage is God's way of telling you that. Word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am so sorry. For your loss, for the cruelty of other people, and that you are dealing with all of this during a crazy emotional week for our entire country as a whole. It's a lot to swallow back. Hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BusyMom5 Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am sorry that someone even spoke those words aloud, and also sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 That is just horrible. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 How horrible. I'm so very sorry someone so cruelly compounded your grief. (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okra Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barnwife Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am sorry you are dealing with this (both the miscarriage and people who should keep their mouths shut). Recently I took the 3 kids to the library. I always get grief about using computers for 2 of them. Anyway, as always, when I asked to be allowed to use 2 computers, I was given the 3rd degree. And librarian finished up with "well, if your family wasn't so large, you'd be able to use the computers." Did I mention that we (only) have 3 kids (full disclosure: we are expecting, but nobody IRL knows yet)? I didn't like that librarian before. That cemented my opinion. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 So sorry :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am so sorry. People are stupid. That's all I've got. I am so sorry for your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 If it helps, my priest reminded me once that righteous anger isn't a sin. You have every right to be angry. What a terrible thing for anyone to say.I hope you told them so, if you felt like saying something. Ugh. Or tell me where to find them, I'll tell them for you! Hugs mama. I'm so very very sorry about your loss of your child. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 (edited) People! I like to think most people don't 'think' before they speak. If they did, they would realize how horribly cruel, vicious, mean, and plain nasty their words are. My mother-in-law was one time accused of being selfish for having a large family. Among other things. There is no end to what people will say. I am so sorry. eta: typo Edited June 15, 2016 by Ishki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Jerks. :( How awful of them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am so sorry. I heard that several times from family (insensitive as they are) and from friends. It took me a long time to process my anger after my grief and I am no longer friends with those people. Hugs to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Wow. Wow. I am so so sorry you had to run into jerks while you are dealing with the loss of your child. What a horrible thing to say. Just a huge hug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am very sorry, Kelly. People are often insensitive, unhelpful, and downright rude. Prayers for you and this situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Huge hugs. It is so frustrating that people really can be that clueless as to how cruel/insensitive/ignorant/inappropriate their comments can be. I am so sorry you faced that on top of the miscarriage. What do you even say to something like that? :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: They're a big jerk! So sorry for your loss. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 That's appalling. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. I can't imagine dealing with first the loss and then the comment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry you experienced this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: So sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thessa516 Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 :grouphug: That's horrible. I'm so sorry for everything you have gone through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof4inco Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 It is never, ever, ever your place to suggest maybe they shouldn't have more. And it never appropriate to suggest that maybe a miscarriage is God's way of telling you that. I wrote so much more, but trying to swallow the anger........... It isn't actually working, but trying. I haven't read all the responses yet, I just wanted to say I'm sorry you are dealing with this. My mom said "It's still early, maybe something will happen" to me when I told her I was pregnant with my third son. He is my child with special needs, so that anger still comes up from time to time. I will never understand people who think they should say things like that... I wish you had left what you wrote, let the anger out. Maybe you did, I'll go read the rest of the thread now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 I am so sorry. People can be so rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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