Rose in BC Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 We lost in court. As of Thursday this week we are no longer legal guardians of our 16 year old ds. We are devastated. It boiled down to his wishes. We learned at his age his wishes supersede ours, even a 16 yr old with significant special needs. It made no difference that the very fact that he wanted to "divorce" us points to his Reactive Attachment Disorder. It makes no difference that my husband and I were not identified as being bad parents. I feel like I've run a marathon. Thursday my body felt like it had been physically pummelled. Today I'm just tired. The stress hasn't helped my fibromyalgia. It's painful to think about good memories. It's painful to think of the bad times. Apparently the decision is reversible but contingent on him. Of course I know we are still his parents. Actually it still feels unreal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 ((((Rose)))) I have no words. I wish I could give you a hug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh Rose. You've all been through so much. Hugs to you and wishes for the peace that passes all understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunflowerlady Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Don't really know what to say, except all I would do now is pray for God's protection on him. One day he may return when he realizes the unconditional love you have for him. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobbeym Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Rose :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Wow, I'm so sorry! Doesn't make any sense to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirth Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I don't know how emancipation works but I know I would be heartbroken. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh :grouphug: Rose :grouphug: . I've been following your situation for a year and was hoping for a better outcome. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I knew from the title that your post would be sad, but I didn't expect such a heart-rending decision. Do you have any kind of visitation or other rights to contact your son? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh Rose, I'm so sorry! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, Rose, every mom here is grieving with you. So sorry for this outcome. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 hugs and prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry, Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I am so sorry. I wish I had some words. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine what you are feeling right now. Devastating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Prayers for you and the family. Prayers for your ds - because he still is your son, no matter what the state says. Take care of yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh my gosh, Rose, I'm so so sorry. I hope someday he realizes what he has given up and comes home to you. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 3, 2014 Author Share Posted May 3, 2014 Thanks for all your kindness. He has said he wants no contact. I have to believe that won't be forever. He does respond to texts from my extended family so he hasn't cut all ties. Adoption councillor told us in her experience RAD kids don't usually see the light until they're young adults. I don't know exactly where he lives but social worker in contact with him said I can send letters etc through her. We had to sign a paper. I couldn't stop crying as i recalled signing for his adoption so many years ago and such a happy occasion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry! I wish I had some wise words to offer comfort. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melbotoast Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :crying: I am so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 (((Rose))) You and he remain in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, what horrible news. Your poor little heart. I can't even begin to imagine. Sweetie I am so so sad for you. So so sorry. I hate this news. Terrible and devastating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 To say I am deeply sorry just is not deep enough. Oh, I am sorry, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholarly Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 3, 2014 Author Share Posted May 3, 2014 You know, if it wasn't happening to us I wouldn't believe the things we've experienced. I feel like a made for TV movie. I keep thinking back to all things we could have, should have, would have done differently with our poor broken boy. But we didn't know how broken he was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 So very sorry to hear that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ipsey Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 My heart goes out to you and your family, Rose. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MistyMountain Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. I hope to hear a happier update down the road. I know this must be hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarinesWife Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Im so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I am so so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 ((Hugs)) I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so very sorry Rose. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 So very sorry. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KayT Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 So sorry Rose. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I'm so very sorry--what a terrible loss. I can't fathom the grief or the hurt. My prayers will go with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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