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  1. She needs to be close to people who will physically and emotionally support her. If she is isolated, I'm assuming that is the tip of an icerberg. She is being abused. Financial abuse is typically involved every time. Assume she does not have access to any real money, even if he has it. A good friend can help make some calls on her behalf. Call around for Center for Prevention of Abuse in either her area or your area. Call and ask them about legal aid lawyers, financial help, etc... If she thinks she might keep the home, she needs a center in her area.
  2. My mom did some horrid things, leaving us homeless and unemployed in the middle of the court process. She published a book, a memoir, about what a wonderful Christian woman she is less than a year later. She uses my name and stories about me in the book without my permission. I never signed. It was published anyway. If anyone here knows how to rectify that without being able to afford a lawyer, I'd love to know. I am currently estranged from nearly all of my family. I'm highly tempted to write my own "Mommy Dearest" in response to her memoir. All that said, you really cannot trust even your mom. Be prepared for your siblings, ghost on you too. Some have come back around since I stabilized with a home and a job. But I saw what they are. They are no longer welcome back in my life. (I never asked any of them for any kind of help but I think they were afraid I would...or maybe they didn't want to feel guilty knowing what trouble I was in and not wanting to help...Christian morality and cognitive dissonance...) Emotional health is a BIG deal! She needs to sleep. Drink water. Eat a banana every day. Eat very well. Exercise. Be as healthy as possible before shit hits the fan.
  3. Figure out a lawyer first. Alimony will not be an issue to even worry about if she doesn't have a lawyer to secure her rights. Child support may not even happen. Elective Income Reduction is a thing men do to avoid paying child support by working a part time min wage job during the court proceedings. Then after child support is set, returning to real work. Modifying child support takes a lawyer...which you cannot afford if you are not getting alimony or child plenty of women are left absolutely penniless even though they SHOULD be getting alimony and child support. Unless she has a friend or family member to help her transition, she could be screwed. Figure out her support system. If she depends upon her parents or family to help (in any small way) she needs to have back up plans because even parents will throw you to the wolves. In my experience, when the caregiver suddenly needs caretaking she is no longer a valued part of the family. Where are her kids going to stay while she goes on job interviews and works those first few weeks before being able to afford childcare? Where are they going to live? If she keeps the house, how is she going to pay the bills? Trust no one. Squirrel away money, yes. Much of the advice assumes she can squirrel away thousands before he leaves. If she doesn't have access to that kind of money, alimony is a moot point because she won't have a lawyer. The court system runs on money.
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    I can still convince the littlest to do a bit with me. Happy Phonics. Building with Cuisenaire Rods. Read alouds and oral narration. Congrats to you for a happy retirement from a job well done! Self-educating is a great idea. I may follow that lead.
  5. I have a middle schooler who hates ps. She has always been a self-starter. I think she was 8/9 when I started giving her a list in our homeschool to work independently for the most part. Then she is plunked down in a PS where they micromanage everything. Not to mention, she has read every single book they used in class. The teacher learned not to call on her for literature lessons b/c she would have a great deal of fun spoiling the book for the rest of the class. Life situations changed though, and I cannot be home with her even if she is capable of doing 90% of the work independently. It sucks. She is a gifted artist and writer. She is getting mediocre lessons in those areas. Her LA teacher has noticed that she has some unique skills, but that doesn't mean she gives her different work. So, there is that. Sadly, she is resentful about my putting her in school, so our relationship is sunk either way...for now at least. It sucks!
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    Kitchen Table Math


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    Set of 3. Excellent condition. Gently used. $45 ppd for the set of 3. Book 1: Ages 2-8 Book 2: Elementary School Math Arithmetic Book 3: Elementary School Math Beyond Arithmetic


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    MP Literature Student Study Guides. New. Never been used. I would like to sell these as a set of 10. $60 ppd. Lassie Come Home The Hobbit Dangerous Journey King Arthur The Door in the Wall Robin Hood The Wind in the Willows Heidi Farmer Boy The Blue Fairy Book


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    Gently used. Excellent condition. $12 ppd.


  9. A mix of low carb and IF and fasted cardio helped me pull off the last of the baby weight, about 30lb. I found that exercise makes some carbs a requirement. Getting those carbs from fruits and veggies helped me, basically going grain free. I fasted from 6pm until after I did an hour long stroller walk, usually 8 or 9 am. Then I usually had eggs & cheese and a fruit for breakfast. I like IF. Timing it can be tricky. You really have to think about your own schedule, not someone else's. The bottom line is calorie intake. If your goal is to stay in calorie deficit, then your goal is to time your calorie intake so that you are not too hungry to sleep or work. IF can help you stay in deficit without feeling like you are starving all day. It doesn't work for everyone though. Some people do much better eating small snacks every 3 hours. The benefit to that is you "train" your stomach to digest a small amount at a time. Overeating binge for a 'small meal every 3 hours' person looks like 800 calories, not 2000 calories. Less damage is done when you do splurge because you just get full fast. Personally, I've experimented with a lot of diets, and I do best when I just decide what foods I will and won't eat. (Banana? yes. Muffin? no. Natural fruit sugar? yes. Refined sugar and flour? no.) Then plan my food around my day. Fruits are best consumed before and after exercise because carbs are used for energy and muscle repair. If I were IF, I would plan a large meal with plenty of fat and protein right before the fast. I would plan cardio right before breaking the fast.
  10. Hello everyone! I'm back. Some of you will remember me as 4blessingmom. Some of you know I went through an ugly personal time for a bit, thus the name change and staying off the public forum for a while. Things have calmed down. I miss chatting about everything from toenail fungus to the societal implications of a history curriculum. No one else irl is this much fun. :lol: I'm decluttering too. We are no longer homeschooling, and I have all these books and currics that no one irl can appreciate. iykwim I need to rehome them somewhere they will be loved and used and cared for. Parting with them is sweet sorrow, made sweeter knowing they are going to someone who will be happy to use them. How are the kids doing? Oldest will be 15 at the end of this month. He is a freshman at a great high school, one of the best in our state. He is my severe dyslexic, and he is staying at level with his reading. :hurray: His writing...ugh...he still needs intensive tutoring with writing. He's doing great in school though. All that Miquon, Singapore, copywork, narration...yes, and yes. Oral narration saved his back-side, especially as he works with dyslexia accommodations at school. If you have a struggling reader-writer, increase your oral narrations. (I'm still throwing advice around like confetti. I can't help it. :laugh: ) 7th grader hates middle school. She got caught reading To Kill a Mockingbird in class. Her teacher just told her not to read it aloud to the other kids. :lol: 5th grader made a very smooth transition into public school. He makes me look like a wonderful HS mom. (Have another cookie...) Really, he is just a smart and sweet kid. My youngest is now 5. :crying: She is at an awesome preschool. I'm really very happy with what they are learning and how. She is my miracle baby who started life with an hypoxic event and brain damage, but she has not had one developmental delay. In fact, she is so very verbose that I wish I could filter. Her big siblings wish the same as she tattles on everything they say and do....sometimes to complete strangers. I am teaching music at a private school. I love it. I've been doing community theater. (I was in My Fair Lady as about 6 different 'extras,' I sang in the Latin Choir for Hunchback of Notre Dame, and I played Sally Simpson in The Who's Tommy. Those were all in 2017. I've made good friends in the theater. I'm thinking about future auditions. It's a blast!) I am pretty busy these days, but I am curious about how everyone here is doing. I hope to pop in from time to time.

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  12. Mine HSed from the start, and just completed tgeir first year of ps. Honestly, ps was thrust upon on us because of divorce. If it were solely up to me, I would HS again. Positives: It was some stability with safe adults while I was dealing with legal crap and practical emergencies. They did cover some decent skills and content, and it was a departure from their norm and so held some interest. It was a venue for making friends after moving to a different town. Negatives: Some skills stagnated, and others backslid. Writing!!!! Across the board, I am disappointed with writing. Some of their friends have been a drain on them. (!!!) It isn't that i feel the need to shelter them from the world. It's that some of their friends treat them as peer counselors and they are burdened with problems that they are too young to carry and have no power to fix anyway. There was stress involved with LDs and the IEP. PS offers less by way of living content. I was pleasantly surprised there was some, but it is slim. Logistics. That sucks!!! The details of getting them there with all of the crap they need is draining. I have not made a final decision about next year, but ps is most probable. Academically and emotionally, it is not my first choice.
  13. Dancing Bears Happy Phonics No other LA seatwork except for pulling words from HP for spelling practice and/or copywork.
  14. I always did history, science, and literature (read alouds) together. Your older two are close in age. Doing them together makes sense. I used SOTW with activity guides for history. My favorite science years were spent using Delta Science in a Nutshell kits amd utilizing the library as we went, using science as a point for learning library and research skills as well. (very little planning) Quite frankly, with another child coming up and an ld like dyslexia at play, you need to consolidate your time. Also, your oldest will have to get used to working independently. That is part of homeschooling. It's the reality that is not displayed in the catalogues. But, that independence is the greatest strength of many homeschool students. It's not a bad thing. I would not recommend changing things to accommodate her desire to have you there at her side the whole time. If you decide to do things together, give her independent work outside of family lessons. have time to work on getting your dyslexic reading amd writing independently. That seems daunting when he is 9. This is where the lion's share of your extra time needs to be. Everything that came naturally to your daughter will need explicit instruction and repetitive practice for your son. We all do the best we can. No room for momma guilt in the schedule. ;)
  15. Occasionally review spelling rules. Copywork and dictation will be more productive than spelling lessons.
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