# AlmiraGulch

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1. ## Eclipse Safety and Idiocy

My school district supposedly bought glasses for all the kids, but then oops! A bunch of them aren't certified. So the solution at DD14's high school is to let everyone outside to watch, with glasses, except the freshman. Ummm....ok? They won't let the kids take their own to school. She's staying home tomorrow.
2. ## Finding the balance between keeping teens informed, but avoiding stress and pessimism

My youngest two are 13 and 14. The 14 year old is prone to anxiety when they don't understand things, when they don't feel like they have enough information, and when they have to fill in a lot of blanks on their own. Fear of the unknown is worse for her than open, frank discussion. So that's what we do. It works for our family. I can see, though, how that wouldn't work for others.
3. ## A Math Problem....

Oops! I should have said "equation," not "formula." And I also must be more tired than I thought, because I'm only following about 1/2 of what you said. I should also say that I do this sort of calculation nearly every single day, but today it's as if it's completely foreign. I think that's a perfect sign that I should go to sleep! :-)
4. ## A Math Problem....

Say you have a total of \$1,000,000, which represents revenue. Now say you have two buckets of widgets, or revenue streams, that add up to that toal of \$1,000,000. Bucket A represents 65% of the volume and Bucket B represents 35% of the volume. So, theoretcally, you can easily figure out how much of the \$1,000,000 is coming from each bucket, but the "widgets" in each of the two buckets are not equal. So... Let's say that the widgets in Bucket A provide 30% more value than the widgets in Bucket B. What's the formula for figuring out how much of the \$1,000,000 should come from each of the Buckets, given that Bucket A is 65% of the volume but represents 30% more value than Bucket B, which is only 35% of the volume?
5. ## New Gilmore Girls (SPOILERS!)

My sister and I both complained about a bunch of stuff to each other in these four, and were a bit bitter about some of it. haha Then we talked about it all again yesterday, and I like them more now than I did at first. I never liked Rory, and that hasn't changed. What a selfish, whiney little thing she has always been. Blah. Emily's story line was my favorite, for sure. I need to watch them again.
6. ## New Gilmores (with veiled spoilers?)

I watched all of them today. I hated the ending. Really? That's how they're gonna leave it? Really?!? Sigh.
7. ## If you own a Samsung toploader

Great. Just what I need in my life. Thanks for sharing.
8. ## Kalua pork in instant pot was a huge hit......what sauce do you like?

I make this frequently. I don't use the liquid smoke, but I do add the bacon and also sautee some onions before I add the meat and water. I like it with BBQ sauce, but I also like it just plain...no sauce at all.
9. ## Is there ever a time to just let a healthy cat go? WWYD? (UPDATE in post #54)

I've worked directly with no fewer than 1/2 dozen no-kill shelters, and they are truly no-kill ,and do not move to kill shelters. Ever. That's why it's so hard sometimes to find placement, because they rely on fosters quite a bit to make room for new residents when adoptions are down, and they'll only take so many cats into a facility. But I have never once experienced a no-kill shelter that transferred to a kill shelter. (I'm not doubting what you've heard, just saying that in all of my direct work I've never experienced it).
10. ## Why has flying gotten SO expensive??

Yeah, I won 't be booking yet, for sure. It's just crazy how expensive it is! We're excited about it, though. It's a completely different type of vacation for us, as we usually do something caribbean. I just used sky miles to buy 5 tickets to NYC, so my mileage account is a bit depleted. I'm hoping to have enough built up again to cover at least a couple of the tickets, but we'll see. The longer I wait to buy, the more miles it takes for the tickets. Catch 22.
11. ## Why has flying gotten SO expensive??

Yes, I've considered that, and it's still under consideration, although not likely. Like I said, I fly a lot, so I'll be monitoring flights and prices before I purchase. Unfortunately, we have limited vacation time, so spending more than 5 hours driving from Salt Lake City, for example, is not really something we're likely willing to do, particularly after flying for 4 hours to get to SLC in the first place! Also, none of the airports in driving distance from my home will be a cheaper origination point, either, as most of them would connect through Atlanta anwyay.
12. ## Is there ever a time to just let a healthy cat go? WWYD? (UPDATE in post #54)

I love cats. I have always had cats. I will always have cats. Mine have always been and will always be exclusively indoors. I have volunteered at cat shelters many times over the years. I gave my senior cat subcutaneous fluids for the last 3 years of her life. I am a cat person. All that to say.....if you're certain there isn't an underlying medical condition, either find a no-kill shelter to take the cat (which isn't always easy because they are often full), or have him euthanized. It is no longer a healthy situation for your family or for the cat. Pets should enhance your lives and you theirs. Right now, you're barely tolerating him (understanably so) and he knows that, so he's not happy with you, either.
13. ## Why has flying gotten SO expensive??

I fly often, at least 3 times a month, for work, and I book my own travel. Ticket prices vary wildly, but generally speaking if you're flying a route with a lot of competition, the flight will be cheaper. I'm about to book a flight from Atlanta to Pensacola to Jacksonville to Atlanta. Cost? \$1100. You read that right. It's just that hardly anyone flies into Pensacola, so that's the big kicker for me. I'm also looking at flights from Atlanta to Jackson Hole, Wyoming. It's not until next June, so I'm not booking, just looking. I have to buy 5 of them, and it's about \$1100 each or so right now, because there aren't a ton of flights into Jackson Hole. That one hurts, because it's on my own dime instead of company money! Anyway, I can also go today and buy a flight to Los Angeles for less than \$300. Major hub to major hub is what makes the difference.
14. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

Amazing. Yes. As for the bolded, you're spot on. She actually has said on many occasions that she just doesn't see color. That has never sat well with me but I couldn't figure out why. You hit the nail on the head. She certainly does not judge others based on it, and truly strives base opinions on content of character. But the color blindness thing, to me, takes away part of a person's identity. This post, and others, may help her understand that. Thank you.
15. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

This is what I've been trying to say, and failing. Thanks for this.
16. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

This. Yes. Thank you. For the record, she does understand completely that her experience is not that of others. She just seems to think that it could be the same if people just lived that way and stopped separating themselves. What she's failing to see is that people aren't separating themselves, they're being separated because of the way they are being treated by people in power. And she GETS that people are being abused by the powerful, but can't seem to make the natural extension to the last part (that people are oppressed and separated because of the powerful, not that they separate themselves and so oppression and separation is the result).
17. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

She isn't proposing anything. She has an opinion, but presented with logical explanations and evidence she is not opposed to changing it. That's why I'm asking. I think she's more of the "why can't everyone just be who they are and stop separating themselves so vocally" mindset. That's my interpretation, not what she has said. I don't know why, but I simply cannot find the right words to explain to her "Because it doesn't work that way." That's why I'm here. Smart people and all.
18. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

NEWT did this? Holy crap. I must go find this.
19. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

No, I don't think that's what you mean, just that it's how that argument in general feels to me. Hope that makes sense. I think my response to your question, though, is that it isn't that the minority groups (big generalization here) don't want to be seen as less-than. They want to be able to celebrate their differences and cultures and uniqueness without being oppressed because if it. For example, we have Oktoberfest to celebrate German heritage. We have Greek festivals. We have Irish parades. Italians proudly profess their Italian-ness (yes, I made up a word), even on t-shirts, but there is no negative connotation, generally speaking, associated with those things. I realize there used to be, per your first post, but no more. It's all very mainstream. So it seems to me that those that are currently suffering from at the hands of the majority are striving to get to the same place that those that carried the burden previously have gotten to. So...how do we do that? I have no idea, truthfully, but ignoring the transgressions won't make them go away. It'll just make it more comfortable for the majority.
20. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

I hear what you're saying. It's basically what she's saying. I just don't think that it's possible to do that as long as the oppressors continue to oppress, and I don't think that people should have to give up those identities to "fit in" (my words, paraphrasing my interpretation of some of yours). That rings to me of "gay people should act less gay" or "Black people should act more White." I don't believe that's your intent, mind you, but that's how it sounds to me as a general rule, and it feels....gross.
21. ## Spin/Off of Lt. Governor Thread: Help me articulate this, please.

On more than one occasion, someone I'm very close to, who generally understands the scourge of systemic racism, and the power of her privilege as a white person in this country, has expressed a sentiment that I can't properly rebuke. Meaning, I don't agree with what she's saying, but I don't know how to properly articulate why I don't agree. Can you help me? The viewpoint in question is that racism persists because everyone "others" themselves. She doesn't understand how we can ever move toward unity when minority groups continue to have civic leaders that highlight them as "other." So, Gay Pride, NAACP, Black Lives Matter, etc. My explanation usually says something to the effect of when members of marginalized groups are no longer marginalized in society (insert any number of examples here) they will no longer feel the need to raise awareness (simplified, but that's it in general). Her response usually is a "yes, but if they would stop going on about it and just live their lives, and we could all just be people, they separation would just naturally dissolve." I don't know how to properly communicate the message, but I'm sure many of you do. Anyone care to jump in?
22. ## Dinner in the Sky

Absolutely not. Even if the price weren't so ridiculously outrageous. Not a chance in hell. No way. I cannot believe how many of these dinners are sold out!