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Suzanne in ABQ

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    Somewhere in the mountains, east of Albuquerque.
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    Music (singing, teaching Kindermusik, bell choir, etc.), BUNKO, sewing, home decorating
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    16 year homeschool veteran, Domestic Engineer, STEM camp educator, Volunteer extraordinaire

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  1. Elixir Boutique Chocolates is a local chocolatier who makes delectable, beautiful chocolates. Each piece is like a tiny work of art, almost too pretty to eat, but eat them. You'll be so glad.
  2. Well, it's been awhile (Ds was 11 when we did the therapy, and he's 22 now), but I'll remember what I can. Ds had trouble reading and writing. He could actually read words just fine, but not more than three sentences (a short paragraph) at a time. He would get rather exhausted and then angry, and just refuse to do it. The same would happen with writing. He could only write a sentence or two and then he'd just stop. I remember doing the strength test that Dianne Craft has in the Brain Integration Training (BIT) Manual, where you press down on the child's outstretched arm before having them read or write, then do it again after they read or write a short paragraph. My son was quite noticeably weaker just from the effort he was putting into those particular tasks. The Circle-8 crayon activity and the physical, cross-body exercises in the BIT Manual helped with these things. After six months, he no longer complained about writing. He'd just do it. He could read easily as well, though he never really became an avid reader. (He did read all four of the Eragon books!) Ds also had behavioral issues that, in part, may have stemmed from the high dosage, long-duration antibiotics he had when he was little. They left his gut void of good bacteria, and overgrown with yeast. I gave him several supplements recommended by Dianne Craft to promote good bacteria, boost his nervous system, and get rid of yeast (probiotics, fish oil, Vitamin E, Primrose oil, and grapefruit seed extract). He took them every day for several months. I also limited his sugar intake. This, coupled with high protein snacks to even out his blood sugar (he was hypoglycemic), made him more cooperative in general. (I learned about all this from the Biology of Behavior CD's) I hope this answers your questions. I don't think my ds would have been cooperative earlier. He had to be old enough to understand why we were doing it, and how it might help. Like gardenmom5, I also had to set aside some of the academics to make time to focus on the therapy. That may have helped as well to get Ds to cooperate. These fun activities took the place of long reading and writing assignments. We also did 45 minutes of flashcards every day because he was 11 yo and didn't know them yet. Going on in math was going to be impossible without getting those facts under his belt. So, for several months, we did therapy, math facts, read-aloud (taking turns), science experiments, and various un-schooling type activities. I'm so glad we were home and I was able to focus on his needs like that. He's out on his own now, college graduated and self-sufficient. It was uncomfortable to just "stop" doing school for those months, but going on with full academics was impossible. The time we spent doing BIT was time well spent. Note: You may be able to incorporate just some of her ideas into your son's day. Maybe he'd be more cooperative if he read the Manual himself, so he could understand it, and took it on as his own responsibility.
  3. I don't know how old your dudeling is, but I did a bunch of Dianne Craft's exercises/games with my son when he was 11, and it made a HUGE difference in his ability to do just about everything. The exercises are focused on crossing the midline, which requires information to pass through the corpus collosum. It took about six months of daily practice (about 15-20 minutes, 4-5 days a week), and it was worth every second. Some of the activities are done sitting (drawing the alphabet in large format over a sideways figure 8 (infinity symbol) with a crayon, to get tactile experience crossing the midline while saying and writing the letters over and over. Some of the activities are done standing (eg. marching with knees high, touching each knee with the opposite hand while looking at various corners of the room). It's fun and silly, and everyone can do it together, so it's more like a fun game. My son was resistant to practically everything I asked him to do, but he willingly did these activities every day. I also followed the advice she shares in the "Biology of Behavior", which is on audio CD, and gave him supplements and simple diet adjustments to help his mood and coping functions. Visit (note the double n's in her name). You can read about some of her philosophies on the website (she also offers courses for professional development, etc). But if you click on the "Where do I Start?" tab, you find a document that leads you through check lists that will help you narrow down the type of glitches that are making things hard for dudelling. From there, she lists options and resources specific to his needs. I highly recommend the Brain Integration Manual (even though it's expensive). I have the 2013 version, and I'm happy to share information from that, but I'm sure the 2020 version is more current, and probably easier to navigate. I used several other right-brain learning techniques and resources as well, to help him with math facts and spelling, but not until we got the brain integration and dietary stuff figured out.
  4. Depends on how many drivers there are. I think $50-60 for the semester (or twice that for the year) would be a reasonable amount, but I'd split it among the drivers. $50 per driver seems a bit excessive if there are several drivers.
  5. I'm a big advocate for the Oxford comma, but as others have said, there are times when it just doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. This is one of those times.
  6. I'd guess either she's playing scientist (testing her hypothesis that perhaps Santa is Mom/Dad), or she wants more than one thing, but she doesn't want to ask for too much, so she's spreading it out. Another option is that she's just seeing things advertised, or talking to friends, and the power of suggestion is causing her to change her mind or add to her list. FWIW, We never told our kids to believe in Santa. When they would ask, we'd just turn the question back to them with, "What do you think?" We could see their mind milling over the options, realizing that if they said he wasn't real, he wouldn't be. They had the power to keep him alive, or let him go. Eventually they let him go, but we let them each believe as long as they wanted to.
  7. I'm in almost the same exact situation as Homeschool Mom in AZ (7.5 and 9 year splits between my first two and my caboose, who is now 14), except that I'm 10 years older (I'm 56). When my second went off to college, and I just had the youngest at home, I felt very lost, like there was more of me than I needed, so we got a Japanese exchange student for the whole school year. That cured me. :o) By they time she went at the end of the school year, I was ready to have just the one. I started volunteering when my older two were in high school, and after our exchange student left, and my youngest started going to school, I really kicked things up. I am currently on the boards of five non-profit organizations, well, three very active non-profits and the parent association at school. The other two boards aren't very active. I also mentor a robotics team, and drive carpool and do costumes for summer opera camp and drive 14yodd here, there, and everywhere. Every once in awhile, I have a free day, but they're few and far between. Don't worry about it. Vacuums don't exist for long. If you have empty time, you will fill it. If you want to plan ahead and start taking some classes for your dream future, go for it. If you want to start a side business that you can grow later, as your life allows, go for that. If you want to donate some time and talent to a worthy cause, they will love to have you. You will not be twiddling your thumbs; I promise.
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  9. Youngest dd started at 9 1/2, and started using OB tampons right away. She still likes them best five years later. I like that they open out, like a flower, instead of getting longer and bulkier. They're perfect for young bodies. Also, there's no applicator, so one less thing to deal with.
  10. I use plain Orville Reddinbacker in mine. After popping, I salt it and drizzle on a little real butter.
  11. I loved Mr. Rogers, but like MissLemon, I watched him on the sly. I had four brothers who teased me incessantly. Everyone in my social world seemed to mock Mr. Rogers (imitate his speech and mannerisms). But, I found him peaceful and predictable, and I liked that. We were latchkey kids, and I watched TV every day after school. Mr. Rogers was part of my line up (along with Zoom and The Electric Company).
  12. I never purged their room *for* them. I always did with them, side by side. It was too overwhelming for them to do by themselves. Long before Marie Kondo made it on the scene, my kids and I were pulling all the stuff from around the walls, under the bed, stuffed into the corners, and piled in the closet, and making a huge pile in the middle of the floor. Then, going through it item by item to determine what to keep, what to toss, and what to share with others (via donation to the thrift store). They were probably 12 or 13 (depending on the kid) before they could do it on their own.
  13. I like the light idea. There could also be something else he's doing that's triggering his sneeze reflex. Perhaps there's a dust on the pill that he's inhaling, either just before or as he's swallowing, that's getting up into his nostril or pharynx and triggering the sneeze. He could try drinking a bit of liquid and inhale deeply and exhale right before he puts the pill in his mouth, then concentrate on *not* inhaling with the pill in his mouth. It could also be psychosomatic, and something he could teach himself not to do by practicing with a non-medicinal pill-like something, like a little candy of some sort (mini-M&Ms, or Nerds, or something else that's the same size as the pill). If he does it over and over, perhaps he could train his nervous system to ignore the trigger.
  14. My 14yodd LOVES hugging and cuddling, and she's the best hugger I've ever known. When we've had a tiff, she recovers and we mend our relationship by cuddling. It's easy with her. She hugs everyone, often. When her older brother was a teenager, he went through a "don't hug me" phase, and it really affected. Now that he's older, and he's willing to hug her, she's soooo happy! It would really hurt her, I think, if I didn't hug her. (In fact, I should initiate it more). 22yods isn't a hugger, at least not with family. He's a "social hugger", if there is such a thing. He'll hug his friends as a greeting, as did most of his friends growing up, through high school, etc. But he doesn't hug within the family, beyond a big hello when we haven't seen each other in awhile (he lives out of state). Still, he NEEDS touch. His choice is back rubs. I've been giving him back rubs since he was little, at bedtime, and in church (to keep his wiggly self calm). He still wants me to give him a back rub every time that I'm with him (which is only about 10 days a year these days). We're gonna see him at Christmas. I expect he'll give us each a big hug when he arrives. I'll give him a couple back rubs, and he'll hug whoever is present when he leaves. 23yodd hates touch (sensory processing issues). I only hug her when she initiates it, and it's sort of like hugging a spider. She's taller than me, and thin, and it's evident she isn't really comfortable hugging, so we don't. I show her love in other ways. I like hugging squishy people more than lean ones. Dh isn't a hugger, neither is anyone in his family, I don't think.
  15. Either comment on its own could easily be taken at face value, but both comments together seem to indicate he's fishing for a bonus. I'd probably hire him one more time, just to see if he does it again. If it's a pattern, I'd probably cease my business dealings with him. I really don't like when my employees guilt trip me, even when (especially when) they are friends of my family members. (I had similar circumstance with a friend of my mom, who was cleaning my house. The lady no longer works for me.)
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