Rose in BC 1,651 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 We lost in court. As of Thursday this week we are no longer legal guardians of our 16 year old ds. We are devastated. It boiled down to his wishes. We learned at his age his wishes supersede ours, even a 16 yr old with significant special needs. It made no difference that the very fact that he wanted to "divorce" us points to his Reactive Attachment Disorder. It makes no difference that my husband and I were not identified as being bad parents. I feel like I've run a marathon. Thursday my body felt like it had been physically pummelled. Today I'm just tired. The stress hasn't helped my fibromyalgia. It's painful to think about good memories. It's painful to think of the bad times. Apparently the decision is reversible but contingent on him. Of course I know we are still his parents. Actually it still feels unreal. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mom in High Heels 5,799 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Danestress 5,157 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 ((((Rose)))) I have no words. I wish I could give you a hug. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ethel Mertz 2,481 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh Rose. You've all been through so much. Hugs to you and wishes for the peace that passes all understanding. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Margaret in CO 25,858 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bettyandbob 17,679 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
sunflowerlady 1,789 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Liz CA 18,584 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Don't really know what to say, except all I would do now is pray for God's protection on him. One day he may return when he realizes the unconditional love you have for him. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fraidycat 10,930 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bobbeym 792 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry Rose. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AlmiraGulch 12,248 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
QueenCat 9,141 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Rose :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J-rap 16,768 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Wow, I'm so sorry! Doesn't make any sense to me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mirth 280 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I don't know how emancipation works but I know I would be heartbroken. I'm sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Florida. 53,752 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh :grouphug: Rose :grouphug: . I've been following your situation for a year and was hoping for a better outcome. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alessandra 5,542 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I knew from the title that your post would be sad, but I didn't expect such a heart-rending decision. Do you have any kind of visitation or other rights to contact your son? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Starr 5,927 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh Rose, I'm so sorry! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ThisIsTheDay 4,876 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, Rose, every mom here is grieving with you. So sorry for this outcome. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Denise in Florida 1,084 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 hugs and prayers Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FO4UR 9,270 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Amira 30,575 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry, Rose. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherwith4 4,175 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I am so sorry. I wish I had some words. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Cinder 4,992 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
QuirkyKapers 478 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine what you are feeling right now. Devastating. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PrincessMommy 12,326 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Prayers for you and the family. Prayers for your ds - because he still is your son, no matter what the state says. Take care of yourself Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Corraleno 34,542 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh my gosh, Rose, I'm so so sorry. I hope someday he realizes what he has given up and comes home to you. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rose in BC 1,651 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Thanks for all your kindness. He has said he wants no contact. I have to believe that won't be forever. He does respond to texts from my extended family so he hasn't cut all ties. Adoption councillor told us in her experience RAD kids don't usually see the light until they're young adults. I don't know exactly where he lives but social worker in contact with him said I can send letters etc through her. We had to sign a paper. I couldn't stop crying as i recalled signing for his adoption so many years ago and such a happy occasion. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Χά�ων 13,998 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kimberly in IN 231 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry! I wish I had some wise words to offer comfort. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
melbotoast 1,673 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jrn 367 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :crying: I am so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jen500 1,349 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm sorry! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Seasider 16,309 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 (((Rose))) You and he remain in my prayers. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Garga 26,345 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, what horrible news. Your poor little heart. I can't even begin to imagine. Sweetie I am so so sad for you. So so sorry. I hate this news. Terrible and devastating. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anne in CA 8,658 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 To say I am deeply sorry just is not deep enough. Oh, I am sorry, though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mumto2 34,123 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scholarly 102 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rose in BC 1,651 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 You know, if it wasn't happening to us I wouldn't believe the things we've experienced. I feel like a made for TV movie. I keep thinking back to all things we could have, should have, would have done differently with our poor broken boy. But we didn't know how broken he was. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mama Geek 2,464 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rosie_0801 38,031 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Homeschool Mom in AZ 15,977 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 So very sorry to hear that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ipsey 2,047 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 My heart goes out to you and your family, Rose. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MistyMountain 2,619 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. I hope to hear a happier update down the road. I know this must be hard. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MarinesWife 293 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Im so sorry! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mandylubug 5,254 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jean in Newcastle 174,632 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I am so so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
freeindeed 1,016 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 ((Hugs)) I am so sorry. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eagle 3,059 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so very sorry Rose. :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hikin' Mama 3,592 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 So very sorry. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KayT 54 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 So sorry Rose. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.