Lucy in Australia Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I don't even know what I'm feeling :confused1: She has dementia, which has progressed over the last year quite significantly. She lived in a granny flat on our property for 17 years. She championed my cause when I decided to first homeschool our now 19-year old.. back when it was really weird. She was my best friend. Life is hard, sometimes. Fortunately, she loves God, and He has looked after her all these years and she knows, even with her dementia, that He will continue to do so. She was calm, trusting and accepting. Life is very hard, sometimes :crying: :crying: :crying: *UPDATE in post #43* 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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umsami Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. You are a wonderful daughter. You had her live on your property for 17 years. What a blessing for both her and your entire family. It sounds like you waited as long as you could because of the dementia, and didn't act until you had to. I am praying for you both to be comforted and for this new phase to be a blessing for all. :grouphug: 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I'm so sorry. I've walked down this road too. It's awful. It's so hard. Praying for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Hugs :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 many (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: I can't imagine. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 The whole aging parents gig is just so difficult. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Plenty of hugs from here. Can you visit often? That growing old part of life - the mandatory part - is so incredibly tough at times. :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MommaOfalotta Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucy in Australia Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 Thank you all.... I know there are many here who have been through this and worse :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merry gardens Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Hugs and prayers for both of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Hugs and prayers for both of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Many hugs to you, Lucy. I don't really have words for you, just a hug and a prayer for peace. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I don't even know what I'm feeling :confused1: She has dementia, which has progressed over the last year quite significantly. She lived in a granny flat on our property for 17 years. She championed my cause when I decided to first homeschool our now 19-year old.. back when it was really weird. She was my best friend. Life is hard, sometimes. Fortunately, she loves God, and He has looked after her all these years and she knows, even with her dementia, that He will continue to do so. She was calm, trusting and accepting. Life is very hard, sometimes :crying: :crying: :crying: :grouphug: You're a good daughter. You have cared for your mom. You and your kids will have such wonderful and happy memories of that time together...but now it is time to do what is best and safest for her and your family. Dementia sucks. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. You are a wonderful daughter. You had her live on your property for 17 years. What a blessing for both her and your entire family. It sounds like you waited as long as you could because of the dementia, and didn't act until you had to. I am praying for you both to be comforted and for this new phase to be a blessing for all. :grouphug: What umsami said. My mom had to put her mom in a nursing home. It was exceedingly painful. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I am praying that your mom has wonderful care where she is and that you have peace about the situation. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplejackmama Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Hugs, I'm sorry. This post made me cry. I can feel the love in your words. You're a great daughter. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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J-rap Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storygirl Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 The day that I drove my mother to the nursing home was heart-wrenching. I'm sorry for your pain and your loss. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I'm so sorry. You are such a good daughter. Hugs to you. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I'm so sorry. Sending hugs to the wonderful adult daughter that your mom raised! (You... I haven't had coffee yet, not sure I'm coherent) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: What a blessing for everyone that she had 17 years to live with you! I'm so sorry. Transitions and aging parents are so hard. We're having some hard stuff this year too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: to you Lucy.... What a blessing to have had such a life and relationship with your mother all this time. Hopefully those memories will comfort you. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 I don't even know what I'm feeling :confused1: She has dementia, which has progressed over the last year quite significantly. She lived in a granny flat on our property for 17 years. She championed my cause when I decided to first homeschool our now 19-year old.. back when it was really weird. She was my best friend. Life is hard, sometimes. Fortunately, she loves God, and He has looked after her all these years and she knows, even with her dementia, that He will continue to do so. She was calm, trusting and accepting. Life is very hard, sometimes :crying: :crying: :crying: :grouphug: Your post has me crying. I am so glad you all had those years so close by each other and I'm sorry things have changed. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Life is very hard, sometimes :crying: :crying: :crying: Yes it is :( I'm so sorry. It is hard to watch a loved one, esp. one that has been a "best friend", travel the path of dementia. You have wonderful memories of your mom, and your kids grew up watching the two of you interact in positive, loving ways. Your mom is leaving them a great legacy. Remember to laugh, find humor in the dementia...otherwise it's often too hard to bear. My MIL passed away a year ago after 20 long years of dementia. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 (Hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Sounds like your mother is a wonderful lady. I just read "Grace" between your lines. And you know that He can penetrate dementia. As you said, she will never be alone. :grouphug: to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 ((Lucy)). I too have been there with my mother, who had Alzheimer's and lived with me until she wasn't able to be safe anymore. It's indescribable to anyone who hasn't been through it. It sounds like you and your mom have had a lifelong good relationship - what a blessing. I am sorry you are going through this. The care facility my mother was in was wonderful for her - I hope your mom thrives in her new home. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeWillSoar Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Your mom sounds like a wonderful lady. I'm sorry you are going through this. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucy in Australia Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 Little update on Mum. I took her in yesterday morning. I stayed for a few hours during which time she started asking, "Are we finished? Can we go home now?" So when they took her for lunch, they suggested I leave quietly. So I cried all the way home. I rang them this morning, & was told she had a good night, was quite settled and there were no problems. I won't go to see her till next week to give her time to adjust.Yesterday afternoon I got a lovely email from the resident chaplain, who said he had a good chat with Mum in French because he speaks fluent French! (French was her language before English) This morning I got to meet him. He is originally from Zaire (hence the French), loves God fervently and told me God is good all the time, nothing is happening that is not in His control and that it is no accident that Mum is in that centre. So I cried (again) :001_smile: Then I told him about Mum's life serving God (she and my Dad were missionaries) and then he cried because he said it was such a blessing it was for him to have someone like Mum there and how encouraged he was to meet me and learn about our family. So we sat and cried together for a bit :laugh:Needless to say, I am a bit overwhelmed at how gracious God has been & I am certain, now, that she is in the right place. Thank you so much for your prayers & kind words. God is good, all the time, indeed. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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