BlessedMom Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Reya Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: So sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Size, Scarlett? Rosie, I can not get to the quilt blocks at the moment. We are staining the floors in the bedrooms so my house is upside down. I am almost positive they are 6 inch though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle in AL Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Hi julie, hugs to you. There are no words for the pain you're feeling. My ex husband left after 20 yrs of marriage. The day he left, I got the kids out of the house so they wouldn't see. I cried a lot that day. Crying can be really cleansing. I am a cancer nurse. Every time I work I see the best of love between couples and sometimes the worst. After a yr of therapy I realized I deserved more than what I was getting from my marriage. I wanted the kind of love that I saw from the best couples,the kind of love that stands by you through the thick and thin, that cherishes you, and cares for you. So how I got through was focusing on that. I replaced the sadness with hope. I knew that God would not want me to live in the marriage I was in before. I knew that He loved me and that He would in His time provide the love here on earth that was right for me. So basically I get by hoping that the rest of my life will be spent with someone who really cherishes me. I am grateful that I no longer have to live with the anxiety and stress of being married to someone who was not emotionally safe for me. My living alone survival kit has been: Do something I enjoy for at least an hour EVERYDAY Journal. I have a journal that would scare the cr*p out of my family if they read it. Yoga daily when not working Art or other hobby that is soothing One trick for panic that has really helped me is to be in the habit of naming my feelings. Everytime I feel something I name it (fear, sadness, anxiety). Then I realize that most of what we are anxious about is unknown. We create possible scenarios in our minds that may or may not be true. If I start worrying about the future or feel anxious, I just tell myself to stop thinking about it. Iliterally tell myself "thinking stories" and picture the thoughts leaving my mind. I basically refuse to worry. But, I do name the feeling. Psychologists say that if you name the feeling and allow yourself to feel it without telling yourself stories, the negative feelings will usually leave in less than 90 seconds. It has really worked for me, and I try hard to get into the habit of this. Make a plan for your future. If at all possible, try to make a plan to provide for yourself. This for me relieved a lot fo anxiety and I had time to do this before the divorce which was helpful. Again, hugs and prayers for you. Remember that God can turn some of our hardest times into something good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Oh my the quilt idea is such a good idea. I will gladly be the coordinator like Mariann did for mine. I am not sure what you mean that you are not quilt worthy. But what a blessing it was to me to have so many of my friends help me through that time in that way. Scarlett, Please let me know the size of the squares, theme if there is one, and color scheme. I'm a quilter and I will definitely contribute a patch to our dear Julie. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Hi julie, hugs to you. There are no words for the pain you're feeling. My ex husband left after 20 yrs of marriage. The day he left, I got the kids out of the house so they wouldn't see. I cried a lot that day. Crying can be really cleansing. I am a cancer nurse. Every time I work I see the best of love between couples and sometimes the worst. After a yr of therapy I realized I deserved more than what I was getting from my marriage. I wanted the kind of love that I saw from the best couples,the kind of love that stands by you through the thick and thin, that cherishes you, and cares for you. So how I got through was focusing on that. I replaced the sadness with hope. I knew that God would not want me to live in the marriage I was in before. I knew that He loved me and that He would in His time provide the love here on earth that was right for me. So basically I get by hoping that the rest of my life will be spent with someone who really cherishes me. I am grateful that I no longer have to live with the anxiety and stress of being married to someone who was not emotionally safe for me. My living alone survival kit has been: Do something I enjoy for at least an hour EVERYDAY Journal. I have a journal that would scare the cr*p out of my family if they read it. Yoga daily when not working Art or other hobby that is soothing One trick for panic that has really helped me is to be in the habit of naming my feelings. Everytime I feel something I name it (fear, sadness, anxiety). Then I realize that most of what we are anxious about is unknown. We create possible scenarios in our minds that may or may not be true. If I start worrying about the future or feel anxious, I just tell myself to stop thinking about it. Iliterally tell myself "thinking stories" and picture the thoughts leaving my mind. I basically refuse to worry. But, I do name the feeling. Psychologists say that if you name the feeling and allow yourself to feel it without telling yourself stories, the negative feelings will usually leave in less than 90 seconds. It has really worked for me, and I try hard to get into the habit of this. Make a plan for your future. If at all possible, try to make a plan to provide for yourself. This for me relieved a lot fo anxiety and I had time to do this before the divorce which was helpful. Again, hugs and prayers for you. Remember that God can turn some of our hardest times into something good. Excellent post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyrjoy Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I'm so sorry. Praying for you and your children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I hope you get the Truth and I hope you get clarity on what you need to do. I know marriages can survive this but only with full disclosure . I would love for your marriage to be saved but not at the cost of you. You are valuable. Remember that. :iagree: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I hope you get the Truth and I hope you get clarity on what you need to do. I know marriages can survive this but only with full disclosure . I would love for your marriage to be saved but not at the cost of you. You are valuable. Remember that. :iagree: These are wise words. You are valuable, and you are a strong and resourceful woman. I am praying for you, Julie. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Prayers are with you, Julie. Right now, and again at 5:30 your time. Stay strong... you can do this. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 6 inches seems a bit small if it includes the seam allowance? Would the next person who reads this, who actually makes patchwork, make an executive decision? :p I only make story quilts, so I don't know what works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 6 inches seems a bit small if it includes the seam allowance? Would the next person who reads this, who actually makes patchwork, make an executive decision? :p I only make story quilts, so I don't know what works. I am pretty sure I made 6" squares for Scarlett and left enough of a border within that for a reasonable (no more than 5/8") seam allowance. Add me to the list for Julie squares, too. ETA: I think a larger square would be nice, anyway. Rosie, you could be the decision-maker for the rest of us, and we will make whatever size you declare to be just right! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Ok. 9". As I recall, 6" was too darn fiddly. That includes the seam allowance. Julie, people want to know what colours to use. If you don't specify, you run the risk of a scary, eclectic free for all. :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Julie, I've been praying for you this evening along with, I'm sure, many others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying now, and will continue for the next hour, sweet Julie. :grouphug: Please let us know what you can when you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 It's nearing 5:30, and I am sure I am not alone in praying for you and your family, Julie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Izzy Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 (((Hugs))) Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for your family. ((Julie)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying also. Also throwing my hat -- or needle, as the case may be -- in the ring for a quilt square. I will need remedial instructions, as I wasn't involved last time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you, Julie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharpie Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying here, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying here, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VinNY Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenC3 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you right now, Julie... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Saying prayers for you, Julie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinaPagnato Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Been praying as I watch the clock... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newlifemom Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Thinking of you and praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying. And as for the size of blocks, beats me! I say Rosie makes the decision! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you, Julie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WiseOwlKnits Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Thinking of you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Thinking of you and hoping to hear from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you, Julie. The LORD bless you and keep you! The LORD let his face shine upon you, and be gracious to you! The LORD look upon you kindly and give you peace! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brilliant Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I've been praying for the last hour or so, and will keep doing so! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M&NMom Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying hard here too!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 thinking of you and praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying here too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying here as well! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you, Julie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for peace for you, Julie, whichever way things go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I've been praying for you all day, Julie. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oneddmanybooks Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying for you Julie. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted January 2, 2013 Author Share Posted January 2, 2013 Bad news here...we have the flu to such a severe degree that the 5:30 deciding factor had to be postponed. Thank you for your prayers. I'm not looking forward to the next couple of days in limbo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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