Julie in CA
Members-
Posts
5,055 -
Joined
-
Last visited
-
Days Won
2
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Events
Blogs
Classifieds
Store
Everything posted by Julie in CA
-
I can't imagine why it would really matter. It would bother me if someone were pushing a certain curriculum without disclosing that they had a personal stake in selling it, but otherwise it's okay with me.
-
Do you mean the other café in my town? If so, the price difference is because they use med eggs and the cheapest bread, and even with that, the restaurant food supply rep says that the other café will be unable to sustain those prices for very long. The other place is also a very different style than mine, and is likely to appeal to a slightly different target market. I don't think I can compete with them price-wise with those things in mind. :-/
-
How would you handle this with your friend?
Julie in CA replied to Alicia64's topic in The Chat Board
Yes, I get that you don't want to, and that you don't feel right about it. -And yes, I feel differently. I was simply asking you *why* you don't feel right about it. I tried to ask as politely as possible, and I wasn't asking you to defend yourself as though what you were doing was wrong. I thought there was an interchange of ideas, and I would have liked to understand your perspective! -
How would you handle this with your friend?
Julie in CA replied to Alicia64's topic in The Chat Board
I mean this ever so respectfully, but I'm trying to understand this perspective, so I hope you don't mind me asking--why? Why wouldn't you ask him to occupy himself so you could visit with a friend for a while? I guess I've always looked at it as teaching my kids to be respectful of other people's needs and looking beyond our own momentary desires, but maybe I've missed something? -
-Unless you soak them in rum first.
-
Family upheaval - send good vibes and prayers
Julie in CA replied to Ginevra's topic in The Chat Board
I wish I had something to say that could make this better. Just ((hugs)). -
How should I tactfully ask for tips?
Julie in CA replied to Michelle My Bell's topic in The Chat Board
Hmm...not here in California. Servers get minimum wage + tips. -
How should I tactfully ask for tips?
Julie in CA replied to Michelle My Bell's topic in The Chat Board
I know this thread is long, but if you decide based on which ends up the majority opinion, place me in the category of those who tip whenever possible for great service, but I would not tip if someone reminded me expectantly that I should do so. I would be fine with a friendly card or note that said something like, "Thank you for allowing me to serve you, best wishes for the coming New Year." and included information including mailing address and phone number in case I needed to contact them for any reason in the coming year. Anything more than that, and I'd put it in the trash immediately, and I'm part of a service industry that runs on tips. -
hand me downs...how do your kids handle it?
Julie in CA replied to kfeusse's topic in The Chat Board
I had 5 kids in 7 years, and the three oldest are boys, and the two youngest are girls. Hand-me-downs pretty much went right from one kid to the next, with no tote in between. None of them have ever seemed to care. Really, even the "new" things were mostly hand-me-downs from cousins or friends. They've always been excited when given "pre-owned" clothes. The oldest kid wore the item, then it'd go to the next kid and I'd put a black dot on the tag. Then it'd be handed down to the third kid, and we'd add another dot. That's the way we knew which clothes belonged with which kid! They liked their hand-me-downs though. Not sure what I would have done if I'd had a kid who didn't, but it wouldn't have likely been to buy new things. That's just not how we roll, regardless of whether we had the money to do so (we did, but new clothes weren't a priority). -
PDF to Word doc conversion...Can anyone do this for me?
Julie in CA replied to Julie in CA's topic in The Chat Board
Yay, found an online converter that worked like a charm! (Thanks all!) -
PDF to Word doc conversion...Can anyone do this for me?
Julie in CA posted a topic in The Chat Board
I have a pdf that I need converted to a Word document. I tried to download a converter, but something went really wrong with that. Is there anyone on right now who might be able to convert if and send it back to me? Thanks! -
My personal situation has been difficult (that's an understatement) for over a year now. It's not exactly the same situation, but it's difficult nonetheless. I am embarrassed about the times that I need help. It does make me feel broken, and it makes me feel weak, and it makes me feel stupid and inadequate and that I probably brought the troubles on myself for being so stupid and inadequate (I didn't, but it makes me feel that way). Accepting help when I need it has been *extremely* humbling. I have always, *always* been the competent person who helps others. I have LOVED the times I've been able to help a friend, or family, or really anyone. One of my friends finally told me that she felt incredibly, hugely HONORED to have the chance to help me back. I am working at learning to accept help as a sign that other people love me, not that they pity me. It was not until my friend used those particular words that I began to understand and have a little peace about accepting kindnesses.
-
Cute, funny, inappropriate? What do you think?
Julie in CA replied to HappyLady's topic in The Chat Board
That would bother me too. Can your dh talk to her about it? -
Did you build your house? Would you do it again?
Julie in CA replied to Janie Grace's topic in The Chat Board
We built our home about 12 years ago. It was a wonderful experience, but the key to that was having a contractor that we trusted implicitly. I never had to worry about something being done wrong, or in a way that was not what I'd specified. They were done on time, on budget, and were glad to see me when I'd stop in each day. In my heart of hearts, what I would choose is restoring a gracious, old house, but the new one is very nice. It was surprisingly easy to make the house look nice without spending much money to do so, by choosing small touches of very nice finishes. We have a fireplace, for instance, where we used travertine for the surround. It didn't cost much, because the area is so small, but it made a really big difference in the feel of the house, since it's in a really visible place. If I had it to do over again, there isn't much that I'd change, and I found the process to be fun. If quick decision making (or decision making at all) stresses you out, I'd say, don't do it. There were lots of decisions to be made in a short amount of time, some of them with only a few minutes notice. -
Self help book on getting divored/healing from bad relationship
Julie in CA replied to Mom-ninja.'s topic in The Chat Board
Joanne, I hate to piggyback on someone else's post, but can you tell me a little more about this? I've recently come to realize that I'm not really okay still. It's been over a year since I found out about my dh's infidelity, and about 9 months since I found out the worst parts. At this point, thoughts about this arise every 10 minutes or so. I can mostly control them, in terms of deciding that now isn't a good time to dwell on whatever it is, but they don't seem to be coming any less frequently as time goes by, and that's a problem. Even though intellectually I'm pretty sure I understand what happened, emotionally, it's just not becoming any easier. I've made my choices (for now), and I think they're reasonable ones, but...my mind isn't letting me get past the intrusive thoughts, no matter how much I've resolved to do so. I know that I look pretty much okay on the outside, but something is seriously, seriously not going well with processing what happened. From what I understand, PTSD is, in large part, caused by a failure to process the event/events effectively. I don't know how to fix that. I've thought through what happened, I've received counseling. What more work is there to do with that? I'm feeling more than a little hopeless. :-(