fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I just started a social group. Here's the description: "Being the parent of an older teen or adult child can be just as challenging as many other stages of parenthood. This group is for parents of young people age 17 and up. I hope that this space can be a safe place to vent and process these challenges, while also soliciting feedback from other parents who are in the trenches or who have been there and made it through this struggle . I also hope that we can rejoice with one another when we manage to muddle through these challenges." I'll admit that there are many times that I don't solicit advice on the main board because I struggle to be transparent with people who aren't dealing with the same type of things that I am. All through my parenting journey, I've had one really hard kid. When I'd share with people who have never experienced a kid like that, I'd get blank stares or, worse, condemnation of how terrible I am as a mother to have to deal with x, y, or z. It's a little demoralizing when you feel that you've already done all that you can think of to have people pile on about how I should fix this situation or how I must have caused it. I'm hoping that there are some other parents out there who can offer commiseration, gentle suggestions, support, and empathy when I'm struggling and I'd love to offer some to someone else who's in the same boat. I picture this group as a circle of people, sitting around a fireplace, sipping tea, coffee or hot cocoa. When our sister weeps, we hold her hand. When one shares a victory, we rejoice together. When someone asks for feedback, we gently mention things that may have worked for our family or something we read that might be of help. Let me know if you want an invitation. 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would like an invite please. I have a 22 yo living at home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 2 minutes ago, Lady Florida. said: I would like an invite please. I have a 22 yo living at home. done 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I don't qualify, but I just wanted to say I do appreciate people bringing their older teen/young adult challenges to the board. It helps us moms of youngers to prepare for what is to come. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would love an invite. I have a 30 yo Aspie son, an almost 28yo son who struggled with SA and a 19yo in college with some new challenges. I never really know how I'm parenting. It would be fantastic to have good advice, gentle commiseration and feedback. And I'm a pretty good encourager.😁 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 8 minutes ago, SKL said: I don't qualify, but I just wanted to say I do appreciate people bringing their older teen/young adult challenges to the board. It helps us moms of youngers to prepare for what is to come. It can be very scary. The hardest thing about parenting is that you don't know whether you've done a good job until it's too late to do anything about it! I think women often struggle with how complicated parenting can be. It's not as simple as : do a, b, and c and x, y, and z will occur. 8 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 2 minutes ago, Chris in VA said: I would love an invite. I have a 30 yo Aspie son, an almost 28yo son who struggled with SA and a 19yo in college with some new challenges. I never really know how I'm parenting. It would be fantastic to have good advice, gentle commiseration and feedback. And I'm a pretty good encourager.😁 done As to the bolded. Yeah. I know. I've been shaken by the stuff we've dealt with in the last couple years. I never would have pictured it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I'd like an invite. My 4 are 17-28. Lots of issues that I could use advice and support for! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 3 minutes ago, Margaret in CO said: I'd like an invite, please. As you can see, I have 5 adult children. 1 minute ago, Kassia said: I'd like an invite. My 4 are 17-28. Lots of issues that I could use advice and support for! Got it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) nt Edited September 22, 2019 by bzymom 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Mousie Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Knock, knock ... I have an 18 yo who just started college. May I join? And is it OK to slug whiskey by the fire? 😉 Sometimes coffee just won't cut it.... 2 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalie Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would like an invite please. I have one that just graduated college and is now out on his own far away 😞 , one still at home, and another who just started college. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Me too pleaae Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I'd really appreciate an invite as well. I don't have real-life friends who can offer advice (or a shoulder to lean on) as we travel this wonderful, but sometimes very challenging, road. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 6 minutes ago, bzymom said: 🖐 Hand Up high! Mom to 4 alleged adults 😬. Would love to share support. This is hard. 2 minutes ago, Miss Mousie said: Knock, knock ... I have an 18 yo who just started college. May I join? And is it OK to slug whiskey by the fire? 😉 Sometimes coffee just won't cut it.... 2 minutes ago, natalie said: I would like an invite please. I have one that just graduated college and is now out on his own far away 😞 , one still at home, and another who just started college. Thank you. My there are so many of us. And @Miss Mousie you drink what you need to make it! Bring enough to share! There may be others who need it! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) I’d like an invite. My oldest two are 18 and 21, and sometimes challenging. ETA: Thank you for doing this. I find I don’t want to share with friends IRL because my dc are adults now and talking to other adults about them feels unfair almost like gossip. Edited September 19, 2019 by scholastica 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 8 minutes ago, bzymom said: 🖐 Hand Up high! Mom to 4 alleged adults 😬. Would love to share support. This is hard. I love the “alleged adults”. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Inivte please. My 18 year old.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 *raises hand* Me, too, please. I have an 18 yo and, well, it’s hard to know when to say something and when to take a deep breath and not say something. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 10 minutes ago, Æthelthryth the Texan said: I will qualify in three weeks, so would like an invite then! 😄 I tired to send an invitation, but can't type your first letters. Can you go to the social group page and ask for an invite? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I'd like an invite. My oldest 3 range from 22 to 19. Oldest is out of school, working living on his is own a few hours away. Middle 2 are in college. Youngest is still in high school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Sounds terrifying. I'm in! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lispy Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I'd like an invite. My 3 oldest are 17, 18, and 21. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lostinabook Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would like an invitation please. I have 2 in this age range. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 44 minutes ago, scholastica said: I’d like an invite. My oldest two are 18 and 21, and sometimes challenging. ETA: Thank you for doing this. I find I don’t want to share with friends IRL because my dc are adults now and talking to other adults about them feels unfair almost like gossip. 42 minutes ago, YaelAldrich said: Inivte please. My 18 year old.... 31 minutes ago, brehon said: *raises hand* Me, too, please. I have an 18 yo and, well, it’s hard to know when to say something and when to take a deep breath and not say something. 12 minutes ago, Kimberly in IN said: I'd like an invite. My oldest 3 range from 22 to 19. Oldest is out of school, working living on his is own a few hours away. Middle 2 are in college. Youngest is still in high school. 11 minutes ago, katilac said: Sounds terrifying. I'm in! 10 minutes ago, lispy said: I'd like an invite. My 3 oldest are 17, 18, and 21. 9 minutes ago, myblessings4 said: I would like an invitation, please. 6 minutes ago, Lostinabook said: I would like an invitation please. I have 2 in this age range. Invitations sent. Welcome. I'm baking cookies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 Just now, Arctic Mama said: Æthelthryth - copy and paste 🙂 Brilliant! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would love an invite. 5 kids 15-22. They take turns being the difficult one. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 (edited) 1 hour ago, scholastica said: I’d like an invite. My oldest two are 18 and 21, and sometimes challenging. ETA: Thank you for doing this. I find I don’t want to share with friends IRL because my dc are adults now and talking to other adults about them feels unfair almost like gossip. I’d like an invite! My oldest just turned 17. About the above: yup. Feels like a serious breech of trust and feels gossipy the older they get. Edited September 19, 2019 by Garga 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ailaena Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Me too, please? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I sent a PM. I'd love an invite. I have two - both in college now - one a freshman and one a junior. Both were homeschooled all the way through! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippiemamato3 Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would like an invite. I have 17 and 19 year old boys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Please add me. I have 4 in this age range. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Me, please? My young men are 20 and 23. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGrief Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I'd like in! 24, 21, and 15. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 May I have an invite? 23, 21, 19, 18, 16, 13, 11, and 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LLucy Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Could I be added to the group, please? I have 24 and 20 yr olds currently at home, and another coming up. I have wanted to post more in the past but privacy has always held me back. -- LL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
6wildhorses Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Please send me an invite. My oldest kids are 20 and 17. Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Please send me an invite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Invite me please!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Invite me please. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I’d be interested in an invite. Kids: 25, 24, 22, 20, 18, 17, 15, 13, 10, 8, & 3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Penguin Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Invite me, please. All three of mine are young adults. I stopped opening up to my IRL friends about my kids a long time ago, and I have never been comfortable doing it on the boards. But I have written countless imaginary posts to all of you, asking for your advice 🙂 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 4 minutes ago, Murphy101 said: I’d be interested in an invite. Kids: 25, 24, 22, 20, 18, 17, 15, 13, 10, 8, & 3. And cannot believe that your youngest one is already 3!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Just now, Scarlett said: And cannot believe that your youngest one is already 3!!!! Me either! But my 25 year old is complaining I better hurry up and have twins so I guess it’s just a mom thing. 🤣 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I’d love an invite. We call our youngest two kidults because even though they are technically adults, they all too often act like kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
history-fan Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I’d appreciate an invite👋 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saw Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would appreciate an invite. I has two 21 yos and an 18 yo to contribute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
***** Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I would like to join, I have 2 in that age range. Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2019 Author Share Posted September 19, 2019 2 hours ago, hippiemamato3 said: I would like an invite. I have 17 and 19 year old boys. 2 hours ago, Kalypso said: Please add me. I have 4 in this age range. 2 hours ago, Pawz4me said: Me, please? My young men are 20 and 23. 2 hours ago, GoodGrief1 said: I'd like in! 24, 21, and 15. 2 hours ago, mommaduck said: May I have an invite? 23, 21, 19, 18, 16, 13, 11, and 8 2 hours ago, Thatboyofmine said: I’d like an invite. Mine is 18. Thank you for this FFH! 1 hour ago, StephanieZ said: me! 1 hour ago, 6wildhorses said: Please send me an invite. My oldest kids are 20 and 17. Thanks! 1 hour ago, Melissa in Australia said: Please send me an invite. 59 minutes ago, Pen said: Invite me please!!! 56 minutes ago, Scarlett said: Invite me please. 55 minutes ago, Murphy101 said: I’d be interested in an invite. Kids: 25, 24, 22, 20, 18, 17, 15, 13, 10, 8, & 3. 53 minutes ago, Penguin said: Invite me, please. All three of mine are young adults. I stopped opening up to my IRL friends about my kids a long time ago, and I have never been comfortable doing it on the boards. But I have written countless imaginary posts to all of you, asking for your advice 🙂 46 minutes ago, Annie G said: I’d love an invite. We call our youngest two kidults because even though they are technically adults, they all too often act like kids. 20 minutes ago, history-fan said: I’d appreciate an invite👋 7 minutes ago, saw said: I would appreciate an invite. I has two 21 yos and an 18 yo to contribute. Ok, I sent invites to all of you. If it doesn't show up, please let me know, I may have mistyped. Also, if your name hasn't been quoted, and you haven't gotten an invitation, pm me and I'll invite you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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