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    Homeschooled for 15 years, my two graduates are now at university.
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  1. I wouldn't pull her now if she wants to stay, there are only about eight weeks left in the school year! When did you switch to this school? She may still be in an adjustment period. Math: When she has 60-100 problems, are they actually like your example of 34-17 or did you just put random numbers? At the school I work at, it's not unusual for first-graders to have 50 math problems to solve at once, but they are either ones they should already know or ones that follow a pattern, to help develop fluency. Following a pattern simply means 10-9, 10-8, and so on. This is independent work in addition to the math lesson and corresponding work, and then homework on top of that. Your example is two-digit with borrowing and I would not expect young children to do large numbers of those quickly. Spelling: Five minutes for that might be fast but thirty minutes seems quite slow. This is why I wonder how long she has been in the school - kids who have been writing a lot every day for months will be able to do this quickly, but if your dd started this semester it will be much harder for her. It still shouldn't take 30 minutes, though, so I'm wondering if she's simply overwhelmed? Work doubling next year: My take on this would be that there is a lot more work, yes, but not that they expect it to take twice as long to do. Students gain speed and fluency every year, especially when they are following the same study pattern. So there's a lot to sort out here. Thirty to forty-five minutes of homework is not that unusual and I would not anticipate the school changing this. Even an hour for homework and then some reading isn't insane, as that time will go down if and when your dd can handle it more calmly. Crying does waste a lot of time, lol. You have to try and gauge how much is her adjusting to the workload and schedule - it may improve quite a bit. I like some of the suggestions you've gotten: break up the homework, sit next to her, use a timer. You can also try different times; if she's doing it right after school, she might need more of a break. Other kids do well right after school and are too tired in the evening. You have to play around with it. Definitely use a timer to see how long the work, and only the work, is taking her. Stop the timer when she is dawdling, crying, asking random questions, and so forth. It might help her to not be overwhelmed if she can see that XYZ assignment is actually only going to take 15 minutes. Someone suggested this to me for household tasks and it was a big eye-opener. Looking at a mountain of dirty clothes is overwhelming but now that I know it actually only takes 15 minutes to sort them I just git-r-done. I would work on increasing her speed before going straight to pulling her out. I work with mixed grades in elementary, and I frequently see kids take forever to finish a certain type of assignment one day, only to finish it very quickly another day. When it's a sunny day and they will definitely be outside for recess, everyone's speed increases!
  2. My kids enjoyed the How to Become a SuperStar Student video lectures from The Great Courses at around that age. It's a low-key way to address planning and study skills and you don't have to be involved at all. The teacher is engaging and they didn't mind watching. I left it up to them how many notes to take and so forth, because I did want to keep it very low-key and have them open to suggestions. I did not require that they practice or implement specific skills reviewed in the video, this was for exposure and ideas and planting the seed that managing your time and schedule is important. We homeschooled and found it useful - someone in a brick and mortar school would probably find even more that applies. I actually found that school breaks were a good time for us to cover planning and study skills, because they were more relaxed and it wasn't 'one more thing' added to the pile. fwiw, they are both in college now and did wind up with very good study skills!
  3. This part is easily fixed. There is no reason you need to be doing school late and on weekends. Schedule times that you are available for teaching lessons, correcting work, and answering questions. Outside of those times, he's on his own and has to wait for the next day if he gets stuck. Quit tying your schedule to his and you will be much less frustrated!
  4. More musings . . . I wonder if you should focus on one room at a time? Once you have the kitchen under control and those habits are becoming automatic, then the kitchen is fairly easy and you can add another room. You won't get as overwhelmed and success is very motivating.
  5. I like the idea of giving each kid a common room to be in charge of, and then each has their own bedroom. This could rotate and the person in charge needs to be able to say, Sibling1, please come and hang your towel, and so on. I would have set times each day to do this so everyone is working at the same time. We used to do a pickup several times a day when my kids were younger and dragging toys out: before lunch, before supper, before going to the park, whatever. I tried to tie cleanup time to something positive, like eating or going outside, lol. "As soon as we clean up we can have snack!" Don't take on too much at once. I would not be worrying about stuff like inspecting clothes in drawers; as long as the drawer shuts and nothing is hanging out, call it good. It's great to have times when you check these things and get everything back in place, but what you really want is to not have everything out of place to begin with! I'm trying to think of a way to remind everyone to put the books up as they are done with them, put the remotes back as they are done with them, and so on. idk, maybe running through the list several times a day will begin cementing that?
  6. But she doesn't have to choose one option; she can work to avoid the wreck and put them in better car seats. You can have a perfect record and drive in a low-risk area and still get in a horrific wreck. "how likely is a wreck" is actually not a good question to ask as far as risk in this situation goes, for the simple fact that the cost of being in a bad wreck is so high that the benefit from not getting new car seats doesn't register in the equation. To continue your analogy, providing adequate car seats is an unavoidable cost of doing business. You might consider it very unlikely that your office will burn to the ground, but you still have to buy fire extinguishers and insurance.
  7. Schlepping car seats around the airport is not for the faint of heart. Three kids, three carseats, and all the luggage is the equivalent of climbing Mount Everest, lol. I also think that renting a car for several days (a week?) would cost more than buying the carseats. Edited to say that I just realized I gaver the OP a third child, lol.
  8. We love Disney World and have been entirely too many times. Chicago was a lot of fun. We did The Field Museum, Architecture Museum, lots of walking to parks and of course The Bean, Navy Pier, Sears Tower, and of course deep dish pizza and Ghirardelli's. Starved Rock State Park was a great outdoors vacation. Smoky Mountains National Park is wonderful also, but we never did take the kids.
  9. New College of Florida is ultra-flexible and has an intriguing method. Students and professors create individual learning contracts each semester, and students work on an independent study project every January. Everyone does a senior thesis project.
  10. Being stored in an outdoor shed in Florida would give me pause. I've lived in Florida and I can't imagine the plastic being okay. Cars get very hot, it's true, but it's broken up by using air conditioning. And, 5+ years in the shed? Both the brands you listed generally have have an expiration of six years, sounds like they are mighty close or past it. I would buy new seats and not entertain arguing about it. "This is what I need to do in order to relax and have fun." Edited to add that I would either show up with them or have them shipped. If you plan to buy them there, they will be more likely to keep arguing.
  11. Little Women is an old favorite of mine, but it makes for an incredibly long read aloud. I read it out loud because I have emotional ties to it and I figured that was the only way dh and youngest were going to get to it, lol. By the end even I was heartily sick of it. Little Men is much shorter. I think LW is an iconic book and Maycott and iconic author, but it's not great literature. If y'all aren't feeling it, just get him familiar with her works in context and move on.
  12. I've done the following: Tutoring, teaching small group classes, helping students and parents with college admission. Writing part-time for the newspaper. Landscaping - we did this as a family, about once a month. Landscaping is probably overstating it; we washed the outside windows, pulled weeds, cut back plants, cleared trash from the parking lot. Once or twice a year they would pay more to get a bigger job done, like applying the non-slip stuff to the pavement. You need to find businesses that are responsible for their own upkeep and need to look pretty good but not amazing, lol. They have to be smaller businesses, not corporations that require everyone who steps on the property to be licensed and insured for the specific job. Likewise, you can get indoor cleaning gigs from that type of business. Online scoring for standardized testing; all of the ones I have seen and worked for require a college degree but it can be in any field. I have a communications degree, writing experience, and experience teaching writing, but they keep giving me math, lol. If you pursue this and haven't been a teacher, you definitely want to highlight your homeschooling experience. Seasonal work. Babysit school kids on their days off. My dd used to do quite a bit of online tutoring with Chegg. Now she does something similar for her school in addition to her research assistant job, so she doesn't put as much time into Chegg. It actually pays more than her other jobs, $20/hr, but she needs the experience of the other work. The more available you are, the more likely it is that you will get work. You can do whatever while being available, you just have to check messages frequently and be ready to reply quickly. It also helps to have multiple subjects and a detailed profile.
  13. When you're about to get mowed down in fast traffic.
  14. I would let a teen son pierce his ears, sure. And I wouldn't think twice about his future career - it's not a problem in most places, and where it is? Simply don't wear earrings to work. Practically speaking, earrings are one of the easiest things to do yourself and also one of the easiest things to hide (long hair helps, of course, but most people don't notice empty holes). I know several people who were forbidden to have pierced ears but had them anyway, including my dh. I don't know anyone who's ever been caught with their underground piercing. My oldest has single pierced ears and that will probably be it because she hates needles and they get irritated or infected often. My youngest also has a single cartilage piercing. I could definitely see her wanting more, but her sense of style will be at war with her cheapness, lol.
  15. That varies by school and apartment. My youngest's school does have apartments that are part of university housing. More common is university affiliated, which generally means that the university worked with them to develop housing and agreements but the housing is owned and operated by a third party. The university will not intervene in roommate issues, tenant complaints, and so on. The lease is usually for your own room with affiliated housing, so you are not responsible for someone else leaving early - but you do share responsibility for any damages done to common areas. If the residents have someone at the ready to fill a vacant spot, they are usually fine with that. If they don't, some places may do a roommate match kind of thing while others simply insert the next person on the waiting list. You need to check the particular agreement for that kind of details. She needs to ask fellow students about the parking situation, if it's actually realistic or a time-saver to drive to campus and find a parking spot. Not being able to park near the dorm when she lives in the dorm does not bode well for a good parking situation, lol. Even if her usual spot is closer to her classes, it might be much harder to get a spot when she's driving in for a morning class. At one of my dds' schools, there's no problem finding a spot for an eight o'clock class. It's a lot fuller by nine o'clock but you can usually find something. The lots are packed after nine and there may be no spots available, meaning you park off-campus or arrive way before your classes begin. My oldest will be in the dorms all four years because she has a housing scholarship. My freshman will remain in the dorms next year and there's a good chance she will stay there. There are university apartments but they are more expensive (so she would have to pay the difference) and I do like the extra layers of security in the dorm housing. The school is bounded by single-residence neighborhoods on three sides and a lakefront on the fourth side, so there aren't really any other options nearby. They don't have cars, so any discussion of being off-campus is purely theoretical at the moment, lol.
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