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About katilac

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    Deferring to Evil Since 1966

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    Homeschooled for 15 years, my two graduates are now at university.
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    New Orleans area.
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    Scrapbooker, reader, writer, net surfer, fangirl.

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  1. I've been a tutor for a long time. A lot of parents will tell me that they don't teach formal grammar bc their kids are just naturally very good at it. Most of the time, their perception is tragically askew 😂
  2. Science subscription box? Mail is always exciting! If he's stuck inside a lot for winter, maybe Instant Snow, snow balls, and s'mores kit? The snowballs are easy to throw and don't hurt when you get hit.
  3. What are his physical limitations again? Can he build small things/do science experiments or no?
  4. I think this is probably a big part of it!
  5. I want out-of-town family to not complicate my life by being here right AT Christmas, but that ain't going to happen, lol.
  6. If most of the events you go to are church-related, it's quite possible it would be different if you went to different events. I'd try adding something to the mix if possible. Yeah, I'll admit I'm not going to rush to the table with six kids to enjoy my meal, lol. And if eight of you are already sitting at the table, how many more spots can there possibly be? I'm sure that plays into it to some extent. Some of yours are young enough that you're probably spending a fair amount of time tending to them, and people will often not walk up if someone seems busy. Can you try having your bigs sit with other kids? Don't compare yourself or the reactions you get to your dh. Be at peace with who you are. I'm never going to be the most popular person in the room, I'm never going to be the person tpeople are actively seeking out, and that's okay. It did hurt my feelings for a long time that there are things I'm not included in, but I realized that's likely because I'm not the person who is always out and about, socializing and doing things, so I'm not on their radar as much. Even if that's not the main reason, what can I do? I am who I am and I have other great qualities. You do, too! When I want to do something, I initiate (knowing I'm not going to get the response someone else might, lol). You said that it's different with friends - hey, congrats, you HAVE friends! Lots of people post on this board about not having friends, so you're ahead of many, lol. Try not to get hung up on this one thing that may be caused by a season in your life (lots of kids and most socializing is in the one same place). And I've honestly never quite figured out why some people get more attention (it's obvious sometimes, of course, but plenty of times it's baffling). It has nothing to do with your worth as a person. It sounds like the friends you do have are good ones who appreciate you. Being a good friend and sustaining friendships is a wonderful, valuable quality. I know it's hard no matter what the reason, so hugs and cheers to you.
  7. One of my kids got letters saying, we are offering you a minimum of X amount in scholarships, from a couple of schools she had not applied to. I can't recall if they specifically said you are accepted as well. Pretty sure these were private schools.
  8. This would be my first thought. Also, if it's only been a month or so, I'd be less inclined to worry or do anything about it. Your appetite can wax and wane depending on a lot of things. I'd probably double-check portions to see if that's accurate to begin with. If it is, I'd probably listen to my body for now and check again in a couple of months.
  9. That "most" in your first sentence is a very important word. Second part, don't be surprised if you change your mind. If your siggy's accurate, you're a few months through the first year of high school. The next 3 1/2 years can be looooong, lol.
  10. I'm really having trouble nailing down WHAT the objection is. You think it's fine if you have employees that cater to EF needs, but you object to parents sending reminders to college students or helping them come up with a plan for the semester? But it would be okay if the university helped the student come up with a plan for the semester? Am I understanding it correctly? The problem that people are stating is that not every university will help the student make a plan. Specific accommodations differ from school to school, and some students flounder with EF even though they don't have a dx. If my kids would have found a great school that they loved and was affordable, with the main drawback being that they didn't offer this needed help with planning . . . Imma help them plan. I'm not necessarily going to require they pick a different school just find one that offers a service I can easily provide. I'm sure not going to pay an extra $10,000 or whatever for that school! That help with planning during college, that extra scaffolding, is exactly what will enable some people to later be capable of owning a business and outsourcing EF to a person other than a parent. fwiw, my kids do not have EF deficits, so I don't have a personal horse in this race. I've just seen the magic that can happen and the goals that can be reached when people are given the type of help they need, without a hard time limit. College is a time when brains continue to mature at lightning speed. And, as others have pointed out, the vast majority of starter jobs also come with a good deal of training, support, and reminders.
  11. This is the best thing I've read all day.
  12. Bosses did, and their bosses sent reminders to them. The vast majority of people need to be reminded of things and kept on track. That's why managers and project managers exist.
  13. Right, it just didn't sound like that's what they did. I do think that labeling it project management and connecting it to the Scout project can make it seem lesser, or like double-dipping. Fair or not, most people aren't going to think twice if a SCHOOL lists band class and then the student lists band EC, but they may look askance at a homeschooler doing the same thing. If I went this route, I'd probably pull out specific aspects that weren't spent directly on the project. Like he learned CAD to help with the project, you could list a CAD course with zero reference to the project. I tend to the over-cautious side of things. If my kids have an amazing EC, I don't want to risk it coming out in conversation with a department head or honors program that we also gave class credit for it. I think a class makes it look less student-led, even if that's not true, and makes them think less of the project, even if the student still has more hours in the project than most after subtracting class hours. Just listing the class isn't going to amaze anyone, so why risk the conversation not going the right way if my kid has plenty of credits? I think we get tangled up in wanting our kids to 'get credit' for working so hard, but what does that mean? An academic credit is not the same as 'getting credit' for going above and beyond on a project. It's just that, an academic credit, floating in a sea of other academic credits. What is the benefit to the student of listing it as a credit? Also, if he did the extra hours of his own initiative, I think it's worth more to him (personally) to congratulate him on a job well done and not bring in the idea that you shouldn't do more than you get 'credit' for. He knew the requirements for Eagle Scout and chose to exceed them, let him be proud of that! If, for whatever reason, he did not have a full slate of credits for that year, it definitely might be to his benefit to list it as a credit. If I did that, I would pull out CAD and other things that he learned, and not any time spent working on the project. So if he did some research on how to recruit and train volunteers, I would count that time, but not time spent actually recruiting those volunteers. I would probably name the class something more specific, like CAD versus project management. It keeps a sharper line between class and project. If the class does come up in conversation, there is no need to connect it to becoming an Eagle Scout. TL; DR: I don't think there's anything wrong with giving him credit for it, I just doubt that it's going to be of benefit to him (and there's a slight chance it might not look as good as just leaving it as an EC).
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