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About katilac

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    Homeschooled for 15 years, my two graduates are now at university.
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  1. I meant in DC, but Arlington does have some fireworks of its own, so I guess it depends on exactly where you would be and if someone would be able to take the baby inside a house or car if it's too much.
  2. Check the return policies of each store. We find much better bargains at Marshall's, but we don't always find something on every trip (females, my dh doesn't shop there). Our Burlington isn't convenient and isn't that cheap; it's definitely a big jump in money over Marshall's and Ross, etc. *regretfully decides that a 6-hour drive is probably not practical*
  3. The baby would need noise-cancelling headphones for sure!
  4. It's completely proper to get quotes and then decide. It's so standard there's an acronym for it, RFQ (request for quote). If a company or salesperson thinks that it's not worth their while to do it for a chance at your business, they can politely decline your RFQ. My dh is in sales, and I promise you, he is very happy to fulfill RFQs!
  5. The great thing is that you don't have to decide right now! Just get started with a class or two here and there, right? If you take 3-4 classes per year, in four years you'll be about halfway through an associate's degree. You will have plenty of time to learn and ponder. Goals and plans will likely become clearer with time. Just get started and take it one semester at a time. Three classes a year is a worthy investment of time and money even if you wind up following a different path. Knowledge is never wasted. I recommend starting as soon as you can. Post-homeschooling, I've plowed through several things that have helped me discover what I don't want to do 😂 and I've been surprised at aspects of work that I have and haven't liked. For instance, I was pretty sure I'd want to be out in the world after 20 years of homeschooling and working (part-time) at home. As it turns out, I apparently prefer the outside world in fairly small doses. I will probably wind up working mostly from home, just making sure that I plan to get out into the world periodically (I have a tendency to hibernate at home, so I have to plan going out or it doesn't happen). I'm grateful I've had the luxury of trying things and going, hmm, not this, lol. My youngest is a sophomore in college and I'm still working things out. Schoolwise, I paid for a private investigator's course and exam a few years ago, simply because it was something that had always interested me and dh. I was open to the idea of actually getting a license but decided not to (after scoping the job market). But I have no regrets about paying for the class! It was interesting and I met interesting people. It's okay to head down a path that winds up being short or circular; it can still be a wonderful path. Sidenote: totally agree about parents who quit parenting teens! You might see the finish line but you aren't there yet.
  6. That's nuts! ADOS is not required for a dx, it's really depressing that there are experts who don't know that.
  7. Oh, I'm aware, we have a dx in the family, but very few docs are going to go straight to meds for a very young teen on the first visit.
  8. Her dd is about 13; ime, it would be really unusual to go straight to meds. I don't think they necessarily have to even suggest meds at the first visit - the strategy of working through the book, having six sessions, and then talking about what to do next sounds sensible to me. Her dd is able to attend school and hasn't had any dramatic or extreme incidents. The therapist will get in touch with the doc if they feel it's necessary to consider trialing meds before then. I don't agree with your interpretation cognitive therapy at all. Teaching strategies to try does not equate "you could do this for sure if you tried hard enough." Genuine question: how do you feel cognitive therapy differs so sharply from the behavior therapy you use with your son? My very rough take would be that both are centered on teaching and practicing practical strategies to improve one's daily life. What am I missing?
  9. Most of the younger generations have much less angst about therapy and such than we do. iirc, your dd may have had some resistance at some point? but, in general, I find the meme below to be spot-on.
  10. Is there a reason they can't just go to a friend's house instead?
  11. 3 rooms, oh man! We're sharing one room (meant for 5), which will be fine spacewise but a challenge to coordinate the bathroom. We're all females, related, and have traveled together before, so we'll make it work. Currently, we have booked Courtyard NY Manhattan mid town east; $1926 for 4 nights. I'm going to keep checking the ones listed here, though! Everybody, tell me what we should do or where we should eat in Little Italy,
  12. 4x4 still leaves 2 full classes in a standard 6 credit year, plus free time. You can have different levels of rigor and level for different subjects. Neither of my kids did calculus in high school. My goal was for them to be prepared for higher math and to not shut any doors, and it worked for us (someone eying a competitive STEM school might be knocking on different doors, but I still maintain that you can't force the math until they're ready). My oldest will get one of her degrees in economics and computational analysis, and did just fine in the calc series alongside the engineering majors at a STEM school - she didn't start at the math level of some of her peers, but she had the foundation to do the work and that's what she needed. My oldest did a fairly difficult science series; my youngest was all about the Holt high school books and then swapping out physics for geology. Not every class has to be standard input/output. A lot of assignments in public school exist to check understanding, which you don't have to do nearly as often if you are having daily discussions and such. We did history together all four years, sitting on the couch reading out loud or watching lectures. Lots of discussion. It was great, because if they had questions or misunderstandings, they were generally cleared up right in the moment. I don't think they wrote a single history paper in high school, but had zero problems doing so in college. Question every assignment and only do what is worthwhile in your personal context. Ask yourself if it's busywork. Ask yourself if it's meant to check understanding that the student has already demonstrated. Ask yourself if it has to be written. What is the goal of the assignment? Is it a worthy goal? If it is, can it be achieved in a simpler or less time-consuming way? If you do a very standard school year with a long summer break and typical holidays, consider shaking that up. My kids didn't like super long days; we did a longer school year with shorter days and more interspersed days off instead. We started the first Monday in August; June usually saw us finishing up a few things (so really short days and more days off), and we took off all of July. We didn't take off a full week for Thanksgiving or two weeks for Christmas, because we preferred being able to take days here and there. We did trim things down and spend more time on stuff like independent reading and fun projects. My kids didn't play sports or do a ton of ECs, so that also translated into having more free time for their interests. I think that a solid 4x4 plus a special interest is very doable for most homeschooled students in particular. They aren't sitting in class bored and waiting to move on, and they aren't sitting in class lost while the class moves on. Their assignments can be carefully chosen. I do think it's important to have those foundations in all core subjects, because you never know what direction they'll head. That girl is going to have at least one math-heavy business major, said absolutely no one when my oldest was 14, lol. That girl is going to study accounting, said absolutely no one when my youngest was 14. You just never know. I was very amenable to lots of input on what was studied and how, but sometimes my kids had no better ideas for what was a required subject in our home. In that case, tally ho, move forward, keep trucking, it won't kill you. One of mine strongly disliked standard math, but likewise had zero interest in alternative approaches. Oh well. Suffering builds character 😄
  13. What are they likely to enjoy? Your mom? My girls were 9 & 11 when my mom was 70. Random things they all enjoyed: Disney World; wrong part of the country, but maybe a theme park of some kind for a day that has not only rides but shows and other attractions. Museums, with a big plus for outdoor sculpture gardens Botanical gardens Card games Plays and musical performances Movies Eating out Swimming and hanging out by the hotel pool Picnics Zoo, aquarium Coloring books (extra fun if you get find one related to your destination) Scrabble For a long weekend, you don't necessarily need a destination with tons to do. Eating out, swimming, and other low-key activities will round out a few specific plans nicely.
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