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  1. I'm pretty sure I saw your question 2 posed recently on an email list serv I'm part of but can't locate the exact email. I believe the solution was to have the LOR writer send that particular recommendation directly to the school, and have the other recs from that writer made generic and uploaded through the Common App. As for 1, it's the recommender who uploads the rec, so pretty sure you would not be able to decide not to use the rec once invited. I'd say start very early with recommenders as some of them don't upload until super-late and it's super-stressful! As for 3, I'm not sure but on the basis that the grades/academics are the most significant criteria in admissions, I would say pick people who can speak to your DC's academics. I would avoid having three recommenders who are community leaders/other who can speak only to your DC's extracurriculars, or leadership skills, or music/sport talent. I think the school is trying to avoid situations where the recommenders says, gee DC was in my non-live online class, turned in the papers on time, did a good job on the test, but I've never had a convo with them irl. So if your online class was live, and DC had significant interaction with the teacher, I'd go with the online teacher and be sure the teacher gets the point to emphasize the personal interaction with DC that have allowed them to get insight into DC's abilities, outside of assignments and tests. I hope that makes sense! I think the key point is to ensure that the recs are balanced in terms of the insight the recommenders can give into your DC's talents, personality and ability, and that at least one (preferably two) speak to their academic abilities. But ofc that would be possible with ECs -- a recommenders could say, well DC volunteered many hours for our project and showed a real flair for writing well and persuasively.
  2. I would appreciate an invite. I has two 21 yos and an 18 yo to contribute.
  3. I'm in the UK. Looks like we could have a no-deal Brexit for Halloween. All tricks no treats.
  4. That just seems outrageous to me -- and most of those absences could have been known well in advance! I can see how this would be extremely annoying from the prof's perspective, and I imagine you and other profs have had to deal with many half-baked excuses for absences over the years. DD has a friend who regularly missed class because she just didn't feel up to it and got doctor's notes for that, for example, whereas DD doesn't miss class very much at all. Seems like it would make sense to crack down on those absences, perhaps through making it more difficult to get excused by requiring more paperwork to be filed. One place where my kids were in school for elementary had very clear policies about absences that set out when students could be away (religious holidays, weddings for close relatives only, serious illness/death of close relatives, etc). Anything else when to the truant officer. In terms of fair, one thing DD has said is that it doesn't really make sense to have a required senior seminar in the fall of senior year, when many students will be busy with interviews and so on. There's no option to take the class at any other time, and the timing of the class is such that travel on other days is very difficult. She's going to do an op ed piece for the school paper and will try to work with some student-athletes, and her intent is to start a discussion about establishing a uniform and fair policy, based on actual facts around missing class. Seems to me personally the med schools and grad schools could also work more effectively by spreading out interviews a bit more perhaps, so that students aren't doing half a dozen interviews in one month. In any event, I agree that the problem is bigger than just one prof being a pain and needs addressing to ensure both teaching staff and students are treated fairly. It's also crazy to me that DD has to miss so much class when she really doesn't want to miss class at all!
  5. My 13 yo boy took great offense last night when I sent him back to retake his shower, with soap this time. Because apparently rinsing with water is enough to get off summer grubbiness. And when I told his 18 yo brother, 18 yo said, oh yeah I remember water-only showers; I did that all the time.
  6. I'm not sure how student-athletes who are serious students manage, tbh. Kudos to your daughter! Having spent a bit (a lot) of time talking and thinking about the whole issue of class conflicts with other obligations, I'm starting to think that there has to be a better way to manage this, or at least that there has to be a policy that sets out guidelines. The way this is playing out at DD's school isn't fair to students or professors. DD has contacted the editor of the student paper, and he's asked her to do an op ed piece. I think she'll use that as a platform to advocate for a fair and uniform policy to address absences. She's hoping to get a student-athlete involved in the writing, to present multiple sides of the issue.
  7. A (hopefully) positive update -- DD emailed several other professors in the department, who know her well, and one went and spoke with the recalcitrant prof on her behalf. He has suggested that DD try again to speak with the prof and thinks that the prof will now be more understanding (would love to have overheard his convo with the prof!). It's no guarantee, but it's a step in the right direction. She could in theory still drop the major but that also means not doing her thesis, and she is very attached to her topic and has been looking forward to it. Meanwhile, neither of the deans I emailed has responded, nor have the other two administrators. Grrr.
  8. Thanks all. She's been in touch with the premed advisor, who is abruptly leaving the end of September. No new advisor is in place as of yet; the school is apparently interviewing candidates. She offered to discuss with the professor but the response from the prof was both very clear and very rude. Unfortunately, she has to take the class and it's not offered in the spring. It's a seminar and required for all seniors -- DD tried her best to get out of it earlier because the prof doesn't have a great rep and because the seminar subject is highly political, with a very clear bent on the part of the prof and little room for debate. She may have to drop comp lit, but she loves it and is excited about doing her comp lit thesis, which she wouldn't be able to do if she dropped comp lit. She has more than enough classes for the major; it's just that this one is required. If necessary, she will, though, and we'll get the school to send a letter to the med schools explaining the situation. We've sent multiple emails to various profs and deans, and I think (hope) that action will be taken. It's ridiculous that a student's ability to attend med school interviews should depend on the whims of a professor. Not to mention the fact that athletes get to miss class for games all the time, but my kid is being told not to attend her interview at Harvard Med School?
  9. Please JAWM. I'm ranting here because I need to offload but may regret putting this on FB. DD is a senior at Williams College and is premed, with majors in Chinese, chemistry and comp lit. She is the only senior applying to med school this year. So far she has eight interviews, including Top Ten schools. She doesn't get to pick the dates, usually, and is just told when to show up (or maybe given a choice of a couple of dates). We've already spent a small fortune on arranging flights and so on. I think she'll be getting more interviews. DD also has to take a required comp lit seminar for the major. She emailed the prof, very politely, explained the situation (that she will need to miss class) and offered to do extra work outside of class and so on. Prof emailed back saying she would allow two excused absences and no more. She was pretty rude, imho. Because of the timing of the class, the fact that the nearest airport is Albany and the fact that these interviews are all over the country (hello UCSD), DD is going to have to miss several of these seminar classes, definitely more than two. She's not happy about that but it's not like she's choosing to miss class for fun. DD got in touch with one of the deans and asked the dean to mediate between her and the professor to find a solution. The dean basically said, yeah, nothing I can or will do, you have to choose between med school interviews and class. Essentially, the school's policy on missing class for med school interviews is that it's entirely up to the professor. DD is extremely upset as am I (especially since we've already shelled out for plane tickets). One possible solution is for her to drop the comp lit major, but she really doesn't want to do this, and this would mean sending updates to all the medical schools, which would look bad. I'm getting involved as DD has asked for my help and because we will, if necessary, file legal action against the school. We're now writing to various deans and profs to ask for help. But boy am I furious that a school that lays claim to one of the most successful med school acceptance rates in the country treats one of their outstanding candidates in this way. DD also checked with a couple of athlete friends who said that athletes get to miss a lot of class, which only makes me angrier. Rant over. But premeds applying to Williams, beware.
  10. This is not directly relevant, but my DD (in a university of around 6,000 undergraduates) has said that homeschooling has helped her adjust. She thinks she is more independent than other students because of homeschooling and this has made it easier for her to reach out to professors, different departments and so on. If she wanted to take a grad level class, she just went ahead and sorted it out. If a class she wanted wasn't offered, she found others who were interested and arranged it. She said that being a homeschooler gave her the confidence to do this as well as the attitude of "of course this should be possible". In terms of small schools, other DD is in a tiny school in the middle of nowhere. It does have a good international population, however. Most of her friends are international or TCKs or immigrant kids. DD is a TCK who hadn't lived in the US since she was five. She does get a bit frustrated by American kids who don't get or want to get the international angle, which is why I think she gravitates toward other internationals.
  11. Most Fridays are movie and order-in night. On Sunday mornings I will make a nice breakfast, depending on who's home. I think a board game night would be fun to add to that too. We started a summer "tradition" (at least, I'm determined to make this a tradition lol) a few years ago when I asked (forced) the kids to write down a short list of things they wanted to do in the summer. We write them on a poster or similar (this year it's a paper bunting) and hand it on the inside of the front door. Then we pick and choose the ones we want to do, depending on who is home, who is at camp, who is working etc. This year I asked for four things, in categories -- food/restaurant, indoor game, somewhere in our area that we have never been and other. It doesn't have to be at all fancy. DS12 put down family Mario Kart tournament, someone else put down going for dim sum, I put down a board game I like. Not everything gets done and not everyone does everything, but it's helpful to have an immediate go-to when we find ourselves with unexpected time.
  12. Here's a good version of the Abbey's Adeste Fideles from a few years ago, when DS was in the choir.
  13. You might find some ideas here: https://usagapyearfairs.org/programs/ While a lot of these are pay to play, I am pretty sure scholarships are available for some. A couple of points to consider -- would it make more sense to take a gap and apply to colleges during that year, or to apply now and defer? The advantage to applying during the gap year is applying on the strength of senior year grades and activities as well as the gap year activities. He would also have a lot more time to devote to the applications themselves, which is an advantage. Some schools may also not allow a deferral so you would need to check before applying. The advantage to applying now is certainty about the year after the gap year. He may also be able to tailor some of his gap year experience to dovetail with college requirements or intended extracurriculars. My DS announced in November last year, in the middle of application season, that hey he would actually like to do a gap year and apply to only a handful of schools. Argh. He found a job in February and will be working in a school as a sort of teaching assistant. As it's boarding, he will be living in, with full room and board, and a bit of a salary. In his case, he really wants to have the experience of a job and earning money, and this fits the bill. Other ideas would be for your DS to work for a few months, save up the money and then travel or take an intensive language class. There's quite a few programs for gap years that are a few months long, so he could possibly earn money in the fall/winter and then enroll in a summer program, for example.
  14. Well done Calvin! I don't know where he's looking for work or what field, but if he is looking in London for anything legal/finance, please feel free to pm me if you like. Happy to see whether any of my contacts would be willing to do an informational interview with Calvin or suggest openings.
  15. My 12 yo is reading/has recently read Elizabeth Enright, Helen Cresswell, Chris Bradford (Young Samurai), some Terry Deary, The Peterkins, is listening to The Five Little Peppers (somewhat out of character for him but hey) and just this week discovered Judith Kerr's When Hitler Stole Pink Rabbit, which he liked so much he bought the next two books with his own money.
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