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Valley Girl

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  1. I'm quite sure I'll regret weighing in, but here goes. This website is the one I found when I was trying to find information on the movement. So I'm sure many people saw it. At the time, it included text that said the movement wanted to "disrupt" the nuclear family. The larger context, if I recall correctly, seemed to be that it wanted to expand what is thought of as family. However, I found the choice of the word disrupt--rather than enhance, expand, grow--quite jarring as the connotation was extremely negative to me. It felt...threatening... and was something that really stood out to me. (The reference has since been removed from the website.) That line was also later used by politicians as a "see..." example. My point is, when people see statements about a movement's goals put out by the movement, or those who purport (rightly or wrongly) to be behind it, they're going to assume there are structure and organization and tenets to the movement. So I think that's why people talk about the organization. And why they may support the concept of black lives deeply mattering, want better policing, etc., but say they don't support BLM (capital letters=organization).
  2. That was my new voter's experience as well. We all voted in person together. The election worker announced "We have a first-time voter!" The workers cheered and many others waiting in line--both R and D--clapped. Nobody cared about how he was casting his ballot. They welcomed him into the process.
  3. Yeah, the theme of the week. Reminds me of afterschool specials and the "Very Special Episodes" series had on big issues. I won't be watching shows that focus on covid. It's real enough already. And, personally, I'm just so over be preached at by Hollywood on ANY topic anymore.
  4. Who knew there was an upside to not having a circle of friends to begin with? ETA: Not feel sorry for myself. Just trying to inject a little humor amidst all the very real heartache you guys are posting about.
  5. That was a really scummy thing for someone to do. I'm sorry that happened. Nothing like making a person feel like she has to look over her shoulder! I think Catwoman had the right word--weasel.
  6. Many thanks! This is very helpful. I appreciate it.
  7. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but is this a non-issue right now or not? Has something changed with regard to the continuing resolution? Because I did not see anything about that. I get that it sucks if it's happening. But my impression is that there is not going to be a shutdown, so I'm not sure why the concern at this particular moment. I certainly understand there are larger issues with having to use CRs.
  8. I had the same impression, Lanny, based on what I heard on the radio news yesterday. I took a quick look at a couple of news sites before posting my request for a link thinking I had missed something. But I'm not seeing where that CR fell through. I could have missed it, though, hence my question.
  9. Do you have a source for this? I haven't seen it.
  10. We'll have to agree to disagree that she somehow violated his privacy. I find it funny that the people who are minding their own business and not doing anything to anyone else are the ones supposed to be concerned about the privacy of the person doing the inappropriate activity. One reason to ask who he is, if it turns out to be a neighbor kid, is so you mention to the parents, "Just wanted to let you know why I sent Johnny home when he stopped by the other day." Because honestly, I'd want to to know if my kid were doing something like that so I could correct the behavior. But I get that others see it differently.
  11. I think the OP said he came in 20 feet. That's not just stepping off the sidewalk to talk. Now he probably didn't mean any harm. But that doesn't meant the OP was wrong. SHE didn't approach a random kid on a public street and pepper him with questions. She approached and questioned someone who was doing something many people consider inappropriate in HER yard with HER kids. I really could not care less that many or even most kids film everything. The kid was wrong to do what he did without permission. In my opinion, of course.
  12. Some of the replies on this thread are... interesting. If someone has come 20 FEET onto my property (as the OP said he did) and starting filming my young kids without permission, the LAST thing I'm going to worry about are that person's comfort and feelings. Now that doesn't mean I'm going to be harsh or aggressive with a kid. But I'll ask whatever questions I want. My first obligation is to protect MY kids. If the other kid's parents haven't discussed the responsibilities/proprieties of having a phone with the young videographer, he will get a firm explanation from me and sent on his way.
  13. I'm so sorry about your friend, Quill. That is hard. My two cents is to send the card and mention any specific offer(s) of help you may want to give, rather than the vague "let us know if we can do anything." When I was handling contacts for a seriously ill family member, the last thing I needed was another phone call, no matter how well meant. I just did not have it in me to explain things one.more.time or offer comfort to someone else one.more.time when my own heart was breaking. Again, I am sorry. I know people want to reach out in personn. Sometimes, though, it's just overwhelming to those who are most involved.
  14. I am making a general observation based on many years as a lurker and poster. While I said "even here," my post, however, was not geared exclusively to this forum. As I said, it's a general observation.
  15. That's pretty much the state of things today. As someone who leans center right on many (certainly not all) issues, I rarely engage with anyone on much of anything anymore. It's simply not worth it the bother when you all too often--even here--are automatically ascribed the very worst motives for every opinion you have no matter how reasoned. It's a shame, too, because I've changed my mind on some issues as a result of listening to people on the "other side." But now I rarely bother. It's a shame.
  16. I think the difference is that, unlike landlords in these cases, pilots aren't still being required to fly planes without compensation, etc. There's been more than enough economic hurt to go around. It stinks.
  17. I'd have lost it, too. How frightening! You know...when you get that screen fixed, I bet the Hive would HAPPY to help you craft a polite-on-the-surface-but-suitably-snarky email notifying the HOA that you've taken care of that oh-so-urgent issue. The HOA woman is an idiot.
  18. Early in the pandemic there didn't seem to be much real empathy on this board for people facing major, life-altering economic losses as a result of the pandemic closures. (It's just money after all.) I'm not sure you'll get much compassion on this topic now. Obviously nobody wants people out on the street, and that's what some people are truly facing without. But, yeah, being expected to cough up the payments when your income has been slashed as well doesn't seem right either. I'll bet most landlords aren't independently wealthy. I don't know what the answer is or how this gets dealt with equitably. Or even if it can be.
  19. If there's one thing that characterizes the year 2020, it's hypocrisy. And it's coming from every quarter. The group(s) may shift depending on the issue, but there's plenty to go around.
  20. This is my last comment on the subject, and I'll shut up. I'm honestly shocked at the number of posters who seem to think this whole thing is somehow acceptable because it's art... it has a message... it isn't as bad as (insert some other grievious act against children)... the parents were there... there's some group or agenda behind the criticism (other than speaking out against exploitation). I sincerely doubt many of these same posters would give an action or statement a pass because "it's just a little bit racist" or whatever "ist" or "ism" you want to apply. The film maker may have had good intentions, but the road to hell is paved with those. Sometimes things are just wrong. That we cannot even agree on that shows, to me, just how far we've fallen in this world turned upside down.
  21. I hope things work out for your DD. Really. Talented teachers are needed. Lots of businesses are struggling right now though and may not be around when the dust settles. If the outrage causes parents to demand a change in how things are done or if it forces dance studios or the people who run the competitions in question to have to rethink how they do things when they eventually reopen, that's a win. I keep going back to the other protests. Businesses are being affected by that, too. Does that mean the timing is poor there are well? (I'm not expecting you to say "yes" to that. Just pointing out that ALL of these things affect individuals.)
  22. I replied before seeing your post. May I just say I agree?
  23. I don't think it should matter why. What matters is that...finally!...maybe a line has been crossed that is waking large numbers of people up to a serious social problem. We've recently had massive protests in the streets because a line was finally crossed that worked up enough people to demand change. God willing, the crossing of THIS line will ignite much-needed change and social reflection, too.
  24. So because they were not more exploited, that makes it OK? Isn't "whataboutism" something people on this board often condemn?
  25. Exploiting and sexualizing children so that you can make a statement about the exploitation and sexualization of children doesn't strike me as particularly altruistic or award-worthy. As far as the dance classes, inappropriate costumes and dances may have become the norm. But, if so, it's because people/parents have gone along with it for what I'm sure are a variety of reasons. If enough people started saying "enough" and refused to pay for costumes, routines, and competitions they believed promoted the wrong things for their children, wouldn't the market (which still wants to make money) respond and offer alternatives?
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