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  1. We're facing that personally now as well. Younger, cheaper, and, in DH's industry, increasing numbers of foreign workers are getting the jobs...and doing the hiring. Highly skilled but 55+ plus workers? Not so much.
  2. Just echoing what others have said. I'd ask your mom to see the original receipt for the purchase and the receipt for the return. A couple of things come to mind: 1. See if the refund was actually applied to the merchandise card. It's possible, especially if things were busy, the clerk might have mixed up the card she was scanning for your mom with a used one that was on the register or the counter. That does NOT mean it was deliberate. If there's a number for the merchandise card on the receipt, see if it matches the one you have. 2. If your mom did not have the original receipt and did not pay with debit or credit card that could be used to look up the purchase, was the refund actually a corporate refund, meaning a check was going to be sent to her from the company? Could the clerk (especially if new) have thought he/she also had to scan a card?
  3. From context alone, I'd say it's an insulting way of putting a woman who isn't as "open-minded and enlightened" as others in her place.As with so many labels today, it's intended to demean and shut down contrary opinions.
  4. Do teachers really think this kind of thing is "anonymous"? Aside from the fact that the kids know their work has been held up, often OTHER students know whose work is being displayed. This kind of thing was unpleasant when I encountered it in the corporate world as an adult. I can only imagine how hard it is for a kid. For an especially sensitive one, it can make him/her anxious about the next time the teacher decides to use student work as an example. If the teacher has used this lesson before, it might have been more helpful to review common mistakes BEFORE students began work. Or she could have noted what went wrong and simply given reminders based on it before the next assignment. No need to embarrass young ones.
  5. Now this thread has done it. I've got those songs in my head and I. Cannot. Get. Them. Out. Gonna have to roll with it today, I guess.
  6. Not to mention ... how else would a student learn the Preamble to the Constitution?
  7. It's such a sad situation all around. It would be interesting to know how much actual face-to-face communication, if any, has gone on between the grandparents and the HOA board. Or has everybody just dug into their corners and made assumptions about what can or can't be done? It would also be interesting to know if there had been any other cases in the neighborhood where grandparents have had custody of grandkids. What was done then? I didn't realilze some communities allowed people over 18 to live there. I seem to recall hearing about someone I grew up with being in a community that required people to be 55+ (or married to someone 55+) to live there. From what I was told, she was relieved when she hit the age limit because, if I recall correctly, SHE would have been asked to move if widowed because she was younger than her husband. I'll have to look into that.
  8. When you buy into a 55+ community, you are doing so in full knowledge of and agreement with the rules. You've probably paid a premium to live in such a community. Presumably you LIKE and SUPPORT the stipulation that there are no kids. (It's not a community I'd want to live in though I have family who have chosen that option.) This particular case is, of course, a very sad situation. I'm not generally a fan of HOA, but it sounds as though this one has given the grandparents a lot of time to find other options. And chances are, it would continue to work with them if they needed an extra month or two beyond June, assuming the house was up for sale. The thing is, if they bend the rules for this family--and that's a MAJOR rule to bend--what about the next set of special circumstances? Because there are all kinds of reasons grandparents end up being the primary caregivers of grandchildren. Lots of them are heartbreaking. But the other residents deserve consideration, too. Fact is, sometimes life sucks. ETA: I just reread the OP. My answers to the questions are in italics. What would you think about the situation? See above. Is the HOA to blame? No. Residents agree to the rules. The HOA is enforcing the agreement the grandparents voluntarily made. Should the grandson be allowed to stay indefinitely if the residents vote on it? A vote would likely not be able to be made for one situation. They residents would probably have to change the "no kids" rule so that it applied equally. That would change the nature of the community and possibly have some repercussions if it's subsidized or something. Should the grandparents have just moved instead of bringing this to the center of the community's attention? Yes. Should the grandparents demand their HOA money back? No. They have been benefitting from the services their dues provided (grass-cutting, snow shoveling, etc.) Or sue? On what grounds? They agreed to the terms. Should the HOA be responsible for helping the family move? The HOA sounds like it's being generous with time. They (i.e. the other residents who pay dues) don't need to foot the bill. Should we do away with HOAs and segregated communities altogether? That's a whole 'nother discussion!
  9. Hugs, Quill. May I make a suggesetion with regard the above part of your post? My widowed grandmother was...difficult.. when she got older. It was stressful for whichever person was scheduled to do her shopping, errands, etc. for her that week. One rule we had was that nobody went over to her house alone. So when my mom went over, one of us kids went along. (I was a single adult living on my own, but I was usually the one who went with her.) It REALLY helped to have someone else who could contribute to conversation, provide a distraction, etc. Maybe one of your kids (or a really dear friend) would go with you. To help YOU.
  10. Unfortunately (and to our detriment as a society) that's what happens in this age of everybody has a camera phone. It's not just famous people who suffer from "the hate" directed at them when a camera captures a moment without context. What follows can be villification and calls for violence. Completely unacceptable. But I don't see it changing.
  11. That's really rough. Do you have to even respond? I mean, if she didn't ask a question or say something that actually required some type of confirmation from you, could you just ignore it as simply an informational message not requiring response? I can't think why she's even telling you since apparently it doesn't involve you in any way. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction. And I agree with others: I wouldn't say anything to DS. If she brings it up during your visit, let her fumble for an explanation. You have my sympathy.
  12. I'm sorry you are going through this situation and hope you're OK.
  13. Not what you asked, but at one time the manufacturer had a program on its website that could be used with or without insurance. It was good for at least a few refills, I think.
  14. I'm so very sorry, Arctic. May you and your family find comfort and peace.
  15. Seriously. I'll take today--with all its negatives--over being parasite-ridden, malnourished, watching my kids die of easily preventable illnesses, being old at 30 or whatever.
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