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  1. This is crucial. The Church does not require youth group nor does the Church require one to refer to a spouse with any particular language. Following the precepts of the Church is what She requires. You are already doing that. My family is a conservative Catholic family. My kids don’t go to a youth group and my dh and I refer to each other myriad ways. I’m so very sorry you’re living the hell that you are. You will not forestall him using any and all legal means to harass you and the boys by putting strictures on yourself. Please listen to the other ladies saying that what you are wanting to do in a legal document will harm both you and your boys.
  2. Where I am it’s currently 103* with a heat index even higher. Tomorrow is more of the same. There are no outdoor celebrations happening here. There’s merely wondering what one did to deserve this hell on earth.
  3. Wait — wasn’t that the basic plot of a 1980’s kids in space movie? Hang on…. <brief interlude whilst I consult the interwebs> YES! It was Explorers from 1985. Not that great a film, as I recall, but fun to watch.
  4. I like both Buffy and Supernatural. I’d probably start with Buffy then watch SPN. I think Terebith is right that SPN has some low points (episodes and even seasons) that weren’t as good as others, but at, what, 15 seasons (?) I think that’s to be expected.
  5. Agree with Mrs. TW here. I’ve been shot at, stabbed in an extremity (fortunately not a serious wound), punched, kicked, etc. You best believe in those situations that my only thought is getting home safe at the end of my shift. And in the moment, how that happens is of secondary importance. Like Mrs. TW, it’s not my job to tackle or physically restrain people (generally speaking & outside of patient/crew safety; I can/do use physical restraints in conjunction with sedation). I’ve had to remind LEOs and even firefighters not to take what a patient says or does personally because that’s not how it’s meant. I’ve certainly seen LE escalate situations such that I needed to then intervene. But I’ve also seen the opposite — LE work very hard to de-escalate situations. I know that in my system and others around the area, we’re taught de-escalation and calming techniques Unfortunately, I’m not sure if those techniques are taught to the various LE agencies. What happened to Tyre Nichols, though? That wasn’t a matter of de-escalation; that was brute force and mob mentality.
  6. Good heavens! The lack of mandatory OT is incredible! We’re averaging 12-13 24-hour shifts per month because of mandatory OT. Which means, of course, that my schedule has functionally changed to almost a 48/24 shift. Love the strykers. Thank goodness for auto-loads. We’re moving to the Hamilton’s in the next fiscal year and we currently have the LPs. Ayup, sleep is so important. Our call volume is only increasing. In the past couple of years, it’s increased by 3-5% per year. ETA: What are the promotion chances in the new system? How would promoting, especially to a desk job, affect some of the issues you’re thinking about?
  7. Understood about the scheduling. I thought it was a Kelly schedule. We have the same staffing issues every other EMS system out there has. I’m…not thrilled with how upper management (distinctly not leadership) has chosen to handle them. I’m not sure if you read my comments within your original post; they’re in italics.
  8. I added some thoughts inline in italics in your original message. Don’t underestimate how much of a toll not liking your workplace can take on you. You don’t like your coworkers; you don’t like the management; you detest the call volume (and I’m right there in the trenches with you on that minus the 5 hour transfer). Would it be possible for you to take the new insurance and leave the kids on your husband’s insurance (assuming it’s the overall better deal with prices and access)? Or would the reverse work? Would your husband’s schedule remain 24/48s? How often would y’all see each other? How would things like school runs, school holidays, etc be impacted?
  9. Right?! HOWEVER!! There is a certain Vicar General who is (in)famous for multiple homilies during Mass. Last week, for instance, there was the “main” homily, of course, but also 3 “mini” ones: pre-Mass, Collect, and post-announcements at the end. I wonder if the mint thing would work for his post-Communion homilies. 🤔🤣
  10. Austin and its environs have some really neat local places. I would recommend you pick an area of Austin to explore, maybe nearish your hotel. That should still give you ideas for exploring. I just don’t want you to spend loads of time in a car driving all around the city.
  11. Remember that Gonzales and Austin aren’t that close to each other. Depending on your flight times, by the time you get out of ABIA and to Gonzales you may not have that much time for exploring. You can look here for some ideas for things to do in/around Gonzales. I don’t know any good local eateries. My family and I love The Day Tripper. We live in the Austin area and have used his recommendations and had great fun! Look here for ideas for places to eat and things to do in both Gonzales and Austin. ETA: It’s hard to tell you what to do/where to go in Austin because traffic is just awful these days — weekends or weekdays, it just doesn’t seem to matter. Depending on what strikes your fancy, you can spend tons of time (and gas money) driving.
  12. You know, you really are in a unique position. You are a uniformed person in public safety. (Yes, we both know we’re really in healthcare, but most people identify us as on the same level as FD & PD.) So, the deference normally given to people in positions of authority such as superintendents, principals, etc is in tension with with the deference given to people in uniform. Plus it sounds like you’d have PD to back you up. I’m glad you’re pursuing this.
  13. Oh, that’s bad when dispatch sends a CAD message apologizing in advance for the call. You just know nothing good will happen. I doubt you’re wrong about how this person treats people. Because you’re absolutely correct, if someone will treat uniformed personnel badly, they’re definitely treating everyone at least as bad if not worse. I hope you find a decent solution for your son. I would be wary about leaving him in the district after this incident. Someone who would react the way this man did would have no hesitation about retaliating against your son. And he would get away with it, too, unfortunately.
  14. Not that you need my agreement, though you have it, but get your child out of that school & district. Ugh! I loathe people on power trips, especially when they deal with children. I’d press those charges, too. F- him! I don’t know about your area, but in my area if someone assaults a paramedic, it’s just like assaulting a cop. (My area technically doesn’t have battery.) Shit rains down hard on that person. And, finally, I’m so sorry about your week. There’s just nothing worse than bad calls with kids. I wish I could help you with more than empathy and sympathy.
  15. No suggestions for the kidney stones. Ugh! Just horrid. Intractable vomiting — y’all carry droperidol? Works wonders for my patients when nothing else will. And has the added benefit of being a slight sedative at low doses.
  16. You can certainly be professional and them them the truth. There’s no need to fawn or sugarcoat. Nor do you need to be unprofessional about this ridiculous “promotion process” they put in place. Honestly, from what I read, the entire organization is unprofessional and doesn’t know how properly run common situations like internal promotion/external hiring processes.
  17. Yes, to everything @wathe said. I don’t work in an ER but have seen everything Wathe described from my position hugging an ER wall for over an hour waiting for bed for my patient Re: (1) short staffing is going to cause the healthcare industry to collapse. It’s everywhere: hospital — especially the ERs (at least in my area), various techs, janitorial staff, cafeteria staff, ad nauseum; pre-hospital; clinics; etc. Re: (2) I don’t know about Canada, but Press-Ganey scores have a lot to answer for in the US. It seems like a great idea - pull back the curtain on pricing, more transparency, rate doctors, clinics, hospitals, etc - and it is in principle. Unfortunately, the law of unintended consequences works exceptionally well in healthcare and P-G is driving clinical care in a way it was never intended. I am very sorry you’re having to deal with all this, @dirty ethel rackham. It absolutely takes a toll on mental and physical health.
  18. Don’t offer reasons or “reasons”. Don’t smooth over. Don’t emphasize anything; I mean, have you actually enjoyed being jerked around like you have been? You owe them nothing. Don’t offer loyalty, even paid loyalty, to them who have proven to be unworthy of you. This organization has shown itself to be so incredibly unprofessional that it just boggles the mind. You owe them nothing. What @dirty ethel rackham wrote is perfect. Don’t elaborate on it.
  19. I think you need to understand, truly understand on a deep level, that they have you in exactly the position they want you in. All the other words are just a wall of blather designed to string you along like they’ve been doing since the beginning. Maybe that wasn’t Original Big Boss’ plan, but it certainly has been since the regime change. I’m going to be extremely blunt — this wasn’t a hard decision for them and you were not a serious candidate for Second Boss. Please know I don’t say this as a reflection on you or your abilities. You won’t receive any additional training; you won’t receive any additional incentive to stay except maybe some vague and empty promises. Boss may sing the second verse of the “we’ll promote you to 4th Position just as soon as we hire a new Front Desk Person” song. This is how companies get what they want out of people, especially women. This company doesn’t care about you. Don’t care about them.
  20. Look up The Day Tripper. He has good one day excursions to almost anywhere from almost anywhere in TX. (It’s also a popular PBS show in Central Texas.) I’m not sure I’d try Fredericksburg from Gonzales. That’s a lot of driving for not a lot of time visiting/walking. It’s just over 2 hours driving one way. But if you left early you could enjoy some of the better hill country areas in and around F-burg.
  21. Remind me, because I just got off my own crappy shift (and can I just say that no one should work 72 out of 96 hours), what is the offer for the non-supervisory role?
  22. There was a reason women in the South had an afternoon bath really up until A/C became widespread — it was simply to cool down and may not have been a formal bath, just stripping down to slip/chemise and using a cool wash cloth.
  23. The bolded is definitely true in the cities near where I live. Big City tried the tent idea and it was an utter failure. I don’t think they tied it with various forms of assistance, though. The city council has since stopped the tent expansion policy and tried to clean up the worst affected areas.
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