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  1. I saw some pictures this morning from inside. The vault seems to have protected the Cathedral quite well, except for where the spire collapsed: candles standing upright in candelabras, pews upright, the pulpit and the altar still standing (though undoubtedly damaged). I’m waiting to hear about the organ. Apparently, they don’t think it suffered fire damage but probably does have water damage.
  2. Well, it was common knowledge at the time and places my grandmother taught (late ‘30s-60s, Texas and California during part of the war). So much so, that the teachers had post-measles plans for children who were affected. Obviously, this was well before various federal education initiatives. I’m not saying that everyone had this after effect of measles. I don’t know how many suffered this way. It might be an interesting epidemiological study to follow people who’ve had measles recently (say, the last 10 years maybe) and see how their general health was post-measles. I’m not sure how easy it would be to correlate outcomes today with pre-vaccine, quite difficult I would think. Anyway, it’s one of the factors that plays into my thinking. Along with the fact that rubella’s morbidity can be so high, especially for unborn babies & pregnant women.
  3. To me, it’s not the mortality of measles; it’s the morbidity. My grandmother and mom, both of whom had measles at early ages, were school teachers who saw otherwise healthy children suffer devastating effects, not from measles itself but because their immune systems took such a hit that they weren’t healthy for several years after. I don’t know if doctors or researchers know why that happens or if they’re able to predict who might be so affected. Obviously, not everyone suffers this.
  4. Ah. That makes sense. Assuming your pastor isn’t otherwise spiritually abusive, I guess I agree in principle. Most churches run on volunteers. Healthy churches recognize that not everyone can/will serve at all times for all sorts of valid reasons, including “I’m tired/burnt out/don’t feel it/just wanna sip my coffee alone before services”. Maybe he means “hey, if you’re able and willing we really need you to volunteer in various ministries.” Or maybe he’s a jerk. Has he used the term narcissistic? Or were you applying it to yourself? At any rate, I think it’s perfectly fine for you to sit before services and read, pray, whatever feeds your soul. Maybe think of it as letting someone else step up and help in various ways.
  5. (((IB))) I won’t pretend I know the answers to your questions. My church is almost certainly different from yours so I’m sure others will have more relevant thoughts. In my parish parents of kids in CFF (Sunday school), especially if their kids are in a sacrament year, are expected to attend an adult version of the kids’ lessons, sort of like adult Sunday school, I guess. I refuse; I have refused to go for the past however many years this has been in effect. I had 2 kids receive Sacraments last year (FHC & Confirmation) and 1 kid will be confirmed this year. I use the time before Mass to sip my coffee and read a book — alone. Any pastor worth his salt will understand that there are seasons in people’s lives and what spoke to someone in the past (like adult Sunday school) may or may not speak to them now. I am not certainly not qualified to evaluate anyone’s mental state, but I feel fairly confident that you’re not a narcissist unless you’re actively trying to manipulate and use people. I don’t know what your pastor means by “bench warmer”. I translated that in my mind to “Christmas and Easter Catholics”; in other words, people who show up to Mass on Christmas and Easter. Do what works for you. Living your faith is, I think, so much more important than fulfilling someone else’s view of a “good Christian”.
  6. I don’t work 12s; I work 24/48s. Obviously, nothing gets completed on the days I’m on duty. My first day off is usually a wash because I come home exhausted. I just don’t plan to be productive on that first day off. I think you’ll find a routine fairly quickly. However, you may need to lower your standards for what is accomplished on the days you work.
  7. I think many people do both these things to a greater or lesser extent. You’re probably more self aware than others.
  8. Dear heavens! NO!! I remember years ago there was a lot of talk on the board about either burying the placenta or having it made into capsules. There were a lot more women who said they did this than I would have expected. (This was probably 10+ years ago.)
  9. Yup! Another version: More people would recognize opportunity if it weren’t disguised as hard work.
  10. Ha! The state to take away freedom?!? In this deeply red state? Oh, no, no, no. Yes, theoretically, the Lege could vote to end conscientious/philosophical exemptions to vaccines. In practice, schools, day cares, etc can also restrict/prevent attendance of unvaccinated children (and teachers and staff, too, I suppose) in an epidemic or emergency that is declared by the public health commissioner. A CO form must be signed and notarized and must be renewed every two years.
  11. I fell in love with Brother Cadfæl during the ‘90s. (I can’t resist using the æsc even though I’m quite sure the author never did given that the name is Welsh, not a Latin derivative.) One of my dreams is to go to Shrewsbury, especially during the book fest. <le swoon> I big puffy ❤️ LOVE Derek Jacobi as Cadfael. As for reading, well, in addition to my “regular” work rendering aid and comfort and occasionally saving a life, I’m in charge of three other major projects at work. Their deadlines have overlapped such that I’m essentially workjng 2 full time jobs. I’m slowly working my way through four or five different books. I began a “history of philosophy” study this year and am using the reading list from the podcast of the same name “A History of Philosophy without any Gaps” — highly recommended, by the by. I joined the Theologica group when it formed, but, alas, have not even had a chance to read the posts, let alone contribute. Anyway, I’m sorry to intrude; I saw Brother Cadfael and was moved to reminisce about one of my favorite series.
  12. Fair enough. I’m not advocating random searches of homes. However, at least from my understanding (which could certainly be incorrect), the warrant came after the police and CPS tried talking with the parents. I don’t claim to know the ins and outs of this case, of course. I’m also not inclined to fully believe either side as I think there are facts we (the public) simply are simply not aware of. The parents and their attorney can say what they want; the doctor and law enforcement (to include CPS) can’t because of HIPAA and other privacy laws.
  13. No. A lawfully executed warrant will be served and the terms must be complied with. There really isn’t an out for “no, it’s fine. Kids are great. Buh-bye.” The police and social workers had no idea the kids weren’t abused.
  14. Yes. Regardless of how one feels about the situation, you really don’t have the option to refuse entry to police when they have a lawfully executed warrant. That was...not smart.
  15. First, I think you mixed up your amendments. The second amendment has nothing to do with worshipping or quarantines. Second, the government (local, state, and federal) has always put public health over an individual’s right to anything, even before there was a Constitution. There have been forced quarantines in times of epidemics or pandemics since ancient times. You may not agree with the practice, but it isn’t new or without legal precedent.
  16. Re: the bolded — to which you reply “tough sh!t”. Ok, ok... that’s probably not helpful. A better reply is “It’s my only time to <X>, too. See ya in a few.” <cheerful wave as you head out the door> Ignore the toys, clothes, etc. Truly. You and the kids can pick up later. Yes, ideally your dh would supervise clean-up of messes made under his watch, but right now let it go. Y’all have some unhealthy dynamics and it’s going to take work to change them. Your dh has no impetus to change because the status quo favors him. He’s going to be upset by you insisting on being treated with basic respect as a co-equal member of the team. Let him be upset. Also, give him the blessing of learning from mistakes and growing into a better parent. (Assuming no actual abuse, of course.)
  17. In general, I agree with you. In the context of a mutually respectful relationship, checking in with one’s spouse about their time commitments certainly the best way to ensure good communication and ensure that everyone gets their needs and wants met (generally speaking, of course). My impression was that the OP’s husband was not being very considerate of her wants and needs unless he deemed them worthy of his time and she was trying develop contentment with the status quo. I certainly could have misread the OP. She may have meant that she doesn’t consider her needs to be of primary importance and is reluctant to ask her husband for time to herself. That’s a different conversation in that case.
  18. Yes, you really can just say “I’m taking a couple of hours for myself. Have fun with the kids.” Then, you just go. Your needs are not frivolous. I think you know this and this is why you’re experiencing discontent. You’re a person with needs and wants and those deserve to be met just as much as your husband’s. And he doesn’t get to decide whether or not your wants and needs are legitimate. It’s perfectly legitimate for you to want to window shop, sip coffee in a bookstore, sew, or whatever you find relaxing and rejuvenating.
  19. The bolded is probably very true. The top 10% rule in my state I mentioned earlier is an prime example. Every year kids are admitted under that rule who wouldn’t otherwise have been admitted, usually because of low GPAs and/or test scores. At UT, especially, a not insignificant percentage of these incoming freshman are placed on scholastic probation then ultimately withdraw due to poor grades before their sophomore year. The law has been in effect since the early 90s and unfortunately the results have been the same for nearly three decades — kids unprepared for university, especially UT, are admitted but withdraw or fail out before the end of their freshman year.
  20. Yup...and an attitude like that, regardless of whether or not said teen followed the law, would also ground the teen driver. That attitude shows me the teen is not ready to accept the heavy responsibility that comes with driving. Driving a car is not a right and it requires drivers to shoulder a high level of responsibility. No responsibility = no driving privileges Poor attitude = no driving privileges
  21. Yes, I do. Having friends in the car is one of the variables that leads to wrecks. Using cell phones is probably the other big variable. If my teen lied to me about following the law or anything else driving related, the wrath of God would descend and that teen wouldn’t drive for a long time. — signed someone who has pulled a number of dead teens from wrecks over the years.
  22. Yes, Texas does have a preference law — generally, the top 10% of each high school class (public school only, obviously) is automatically admitted to state schools. UT, specifically, was granted special permission by the Lege to drop that to the top 8% (? May be 6% now). I don’t remember the exact percentage, but UT and, I suppose, all state universities, are required to reserve something like 80-85% of their incoming freshmen seats for the top 10% (8%) group. UT is oversubscribed as far as kids wanting to go there. UT is considered a public ivy and many of its schools are highly ranked in their respective fields. The alumni network probably rivals those of other most of the other schools implicated in the scandal.
  23. Yes, ambien and alcohol are a bed combination. Your mom shouldn’t hesitate to call 911 if needed. Your dad may want to refuse, but with ambien + alcohol + other meds he may lack the capacity to refuse treatment/transport to an ER. I’m sorry y’all are dealing with this.
  24. Because it wasn’t a simple brake job. It was much, much more involved than I thought it would be prior to taking the van to the mechanic.
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