RainbowSprinkles Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 There will never be a good timing for this, might as well get it over with. My marriage is over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LG Gone Wild Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 There will never be a good timing for this, might as well get it over with. My marriage is over. Wow. I am really so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyagain Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trresh Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm so sorry. Words cannot say enough. Lara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm very sorry.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilight Woods Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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rgrin Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm so very, very sorry. I'll certainly be praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: Very very sorry. Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CountitallJoy Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 Been there :( I'm so sorry... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry.:sad: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I'm so sorry. Be strong, & take care of yourself and your littles. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAutumnOak Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I am very sorry...I am not sure of your situation, but many have thought their marriages were over only to reconcile and end up in a better marriage than they previously had... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 There will never be a good timing for this, might as well get it over with. My marriage is over. I am sorry. I don't know what is going on, but I see you have 2 babies. Maybe you need a break and a nap. Having little ones can push even the best marriages to a brink. I will pray for you all....especially for peace. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: I am very sorry...I am not sure of your situation, but many have thought their marriages were over only to reconcile and end up in a better marriage than they previously had... :grouphug: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 I am sorry.I don't know what is going on, but I see you have 2 babies. Maybe you need a break and a nap. Having little ones can push even the best marriages to a brink. I will pray for you all....especially for peace. Faithe I agree w/ Faithe totally. Hormones, babies and endless laundry. . .my husband and I had such a horrible time for so long. And we turned the train around in the last hour. It's so much better now. I say all this not knowing the details. I'm so sorry. Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted December 12, 2011 Share Posted December 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug: I'm very sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
butterflymommy Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I don't know the details, but I've thought that more than once-- yet I'm still here and for the most part happy. There's almost always hope. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm so, so sorry. For all of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainbowSprinkles Posted December 13, 2011 Author Share Posted December 13, 2011 Thanks everyone. It's been a long time coming. I'm not even really sad about it. I'm heartbroken for my children, but the love between my husband and me has been long gone. I'm crying, but not for me. I'm crying for my children and how their lives will change because two adults cannot make it work or are not willing to make it work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug: Can't even imagine, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Thanks everyone. It's been a long time coming. I'm not even really sad about it. I'm heartbroken for my children, but the love between my husband and me has been long gone. I'm crying, but not for me. I'm crying for my children and how their lives will change because two adults cannot make it work or are not willing to make it work. I am very sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug: I am so sorry. Sending prayers for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAutumnOak Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Thanks everyone. It's been a long time coming. I'm not even really sad about it. I'm heartbroken for my children, but the love between my husband and me has been long gone. I'm crying, but not for me. I'm crying for my children and how their lives will change because two adults cannot make it work or are not willing to make it work. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry for you and your children. Ultimately, your kids will be better off with two separate and hopefully happy parents, rather than two married parents who are just going through the motions "for the sake of the children." They'll be OK. Take care of yourself (and as I always say to anyone whose marriage is ending, make sure you get a good attorney immediately.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 So sorry...(prayers for all involved)...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama2Many4 Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I can't even imagine. Take care of yourself and your children. Value yourself and take time for yourself every now and then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Ok....I am just going to say it. It is not always just about " love.". That kind of love can take years...decades even. If he is a good father, a good provider, and a good man in general, you will not be better off without him. The loveyishness that brought yountogether may just be maturing.... I am not sure of yournsituation...if he is cheating or abusive...a drug addict or an alcoholic...get out. If he is just not your cuppa anymore, I say try to find a way to make it work...even if it is just for your kids. Decide to be happy....and renew your commitment both to him and yourself. I am not trying to be judgmental, I just see so many people throw away a perfectly fine marriage because they are not in " love" anymore, when they never got through those hard parts and learn to love one another for worse... Unless you are in danger, or your kids are in danger, I would put off making any lasting decisions until your baby is older...and you can be more rested. Let your husband know you need what you need...and see how it goes. There is always a door out, but not always a door back in. Praying, Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Praying for you and your marriage.... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm so sorry. Divorce is so unpleasant, and that's even without kids. I wish you strength and peace. I wish you a mutual agreement rather than a prolonged battle. I wish your kids a security in their future. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry for you and your children. Ultimately, your kids will be better off with two separate and hopefully happy parents, rather than two married parents who are just going through the motions "for the sake of the children." They'll be OK. Take care of yourself (and as I always say to anyone whose marriage is ending, make sure you get a good attorney immediately.) This is the first time I ever disagreed with one of your posts. I am not sure kids are better off with a separated family. Statistics say no. The economic issues alone would have me disagreeing. If a man is abusive, on drugs or cheating...I say run like hell. If not, maybe a deep look within and how you can make a marriage work is a better option. Marriage counseling, prayer, maybe even a vacation together will help...even if it is just to a nearby Super 8 for the night and some dinner out. Marriages fail because people cease to work on them. And no, I don't think it is one partner's fault. It is just no easy decision...and certainly a divorce because everything isn't all rosy is not in the best interest of kids or grown ups. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy at Home Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 This is the first time I ever disagreed with one of your posts. I am not sure kids are better off with a separated family. Statistics say no. The economic issues alone would have me disagreeing. If a man is abusive, on drugs or cheating...I say run like hell. If not, maybe a deep look within and how you can make a marriage work is a better option. Marriage counseling, prayer, maybe even a vacation together will help...even if it is just to a nearby Super 8 for the night and some dinner out. Marriages fail because people cease to work on them. And no, I don't think it is one partner's fault. It is just no easy decision...and certainly a divorce because everything isn't all rosy is not in the best interest of kids or grown ups. Faithe Maybe this opinion would be best in a separate thread. I don't think OP needs our discourse here, just hugs. OP :grouphug: Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommamoody Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 This is the first time I ever disagreed with one of your posts. I am not sure kids are better off with a separated family. Statistics say no. The economic issues alone would have me disagreeing. If a man is abusive, on drugs or cheating...I say run like hell. If not, maybe a deep look within and how you can make a marriage work is a better option. Marriage counseling, prayer, maybe even a vacation together will help...even if it is just to a nearby Super 8 for the night and some dinner out. Marriages fail because people cease to work on them. And no, I don't think it is one partner's fault. It is just no easy decision...and certainly a divorce because everything isn't all rosy is not in the best interest of kids or grown ups. Faithe Please, as a recovering Christian, divorced mom, I ask you to be very careful about this post in a thread started by a divorcing mom. These words, however they may be intentioned, were nothing but knives in my soul when I read them going through my own divorce. A divorce, btw, that most would not know was warranted, necessary, and even biblical. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainbowSprinkles Posted December 13, 2011 Author Share Posted December 13, 2011 Ok....I am just going to say it. It is not always just about " love.". That kind of love can take years...decades even. If he is a good father, a good provider, and a good man in general, you will not be better off without him. The loveyishness that brought yountogether may just be maturing.... I am not sure of yournsituation...if he is cheating or abusive...a drug addict or an alcoholic...get out. If he is just not your cuppa anymore, I say try to find a way to make it work...even if it is just for your kids. Decide to be happy....and renew your commitment both to him and yourself. I am not trying to be judgmental, I just see so many people throw away a perfectly fine marriage because they are not in " love" anymore, when they never got through those hard parts and learn to love one another for worse... Unless you are in danger, or your kids are in danger, I would put off making any lasting decisions until your baby is older...and you can be more rested. Let your husband know you need what you need...and see how it goes. There is always a door out, but not always a door back in. Praying, Faithe I completely agree with you. I always say love is a choice, not a feeling. But for a marriage to work, both people need to make that choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Stink. I'm sorry. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Oh, I am so sorry.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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