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  1. With reference to my stating that the women I know who practiced EBF looking "worn"...it wasn't a slam; the three women I know looked a lot more exhausted than the lady on the cover of the magazine. They were also older than her. And all three of them have readily admitted that it was hard to maintain and that they "felt" it. I certainly didn't mean to insult anyone - heck, I looked a little "worn" nursing twins when they were infants, too. The body works a little overtime to keep up the milk supply, posture is altered for many of us, etc. My point was that the magazine purposely made her look incredible to gain attention. The photo is not steeped too much in reality, regardless of how fit the mom is. So, I'm sorry if I offended anyone - wasn't my intention. :blush:
  2. :iagree: I also agree with the poster who suggested it was a good day for the ped##hiles. I know a few moms who practiced EBF. Their bodies did not look like that mom - these women were worn. They also did not look as...smirky...as that mom did. I feel like this mom did this to prove something, but something on her own behalf rather than the behalf of EBF moms or children. What that something is is beyond me because I guess I feel nursing is an intimate thing for the health of the child. I'm okay with nursing an infant discreetly in public because the littles need to eat often, but to blatantly and publicly nurse a 3 year old in such a manner as to end up with that photo on the cover of a very public and popular magazine has little to do with the child and everything to do with Mom. Not okay with it at all.
  3. Agreed. Not in good conscience. I'd look elsewhere to cut $200 first. OP, your budget is pretty much on par with mine (per person, that is; I cook for 7). I struggle every week trying to stay on budget lately. However, summer is coming up and my plan is to actually spend more during those fresh produce months so I can save more during the winter months by canning, freezing, etc, by taking advantage of the less expensive produce during the growing seasons. If you eat a lot of meat, you could certainly save money in that capacity by purchasing a plant-based protein source or extending a chicken to make three meals instead of one, but not knowing your regular diet, it's hard to say if that would help to the tune of $200.
  4. As far as I know, she was assigned to read only 2 books - one by the school counselor and one by the teacher. She wasn't seeing the counselor as a therapist - the counselor was just trying to "be there" for her as the divorce went down (which, I think would be typical). Everyone was upset about the divorce and the circumstances, but as far as I can tell, the girl was hardly suicidal (everyone was kind of glad to have dad finally out of the picture). Mom did have the girl seeing a counselor outside of school just to help her through things, though. She is no longer seeing a counselor because it just didn't seem necessary. I don't think her mom knew she had to read the books.
  5. Fair point. Dd and this girl have been best buds for about 10 years. Dd is the one who told me these things as they unfolded. She was the one who was so annoyed about the whole thing because this girl is a lot less "in the know" than the average kid (she goes to a private parochial school in a smallish town), yet still so impressionable. Possibly she was aware of those things, but I don't think so intimately - those books tend to bring "possibilities" around with full instructions, especially for those who wouldn't have otherwise considered them completely. I guess I just feel that since the school didn't first discuss these matters (from self abuse to her diet) with her mother, they really overstepped a great deal. The school is not her parent; her mother is. And her mother is very concerned about all of her kids. By declaring a sort of parentage over this child and introducing her to other ideas, I fear they may have given the entire family even more to deal with than they otherwise would have had.
  6. Agreed. And Mom doesn't really have too much choice; she's stretched financially, the school knows the situation and has now inserted themselves in it. I think she feels confined.
  7. Dd13 has a friend who has been enrolled in private school all her scholastic years. She has recently gone through a fairly public and traumatic divorce of her parents. The kid has had a difficult time, but has handled it well. Here's the scenario about which I'm asking: Based on the publicity surrounding her parents' divorce, the school therapist required her to read the book Cut. There was no indication of her being depressed or otherwise self-abusive, yet she was "required" to read this book. I feel quite certain that this activity might not have ever been an option for her because I don't think she ever understood it as an option. Then, for her health class, she was to document all the food she ate during the course of that particular week. She was to receive a grade for that documentation. She and her mom went on a "girls only" vacation during that week just to catch a break, and she ended up documenting a lot of fast food, pizza, etc. She received a poor grade and was taken aside to be spoken to about her diet. Upon some in-depth questioning, she ended up sharing with the teacher that she didn't eat breakfast; she felt rushed in the morning and wasn't hungry before she caught her bus at 7am, so she often skipped breakfast. Her teacher made a phone call to her mother to express her concern about anorexia and assigned the girl to read Wintergirls. Her mother was aghast. Again, I don't think this particular girl would have understood that starving herself was an option based on depression. Here is my problem. This child, who has gone through some admittedly difficult issues as a result of her parents' poor decisions, is also just barely 13. She may not have ever considered "cutting" or anorexia or bulimia as being options as an "outlet" at this age. But now she knows all about it. Did this school overstep their boundaries by introducing her to these "options"? Certainly, they could have done more harm than good. How much within their rights do you think they are to "intervene" in this child's life so...deeply - grades, phone calls, assigned reading about controversial and deep subjects? Personally, I'm inclined to feel they've overstepped and may have done more harm than good. What are your thoughts?
  8. Hoping that child is found soon. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
  9. What kind of sugar are you trying to avoid? White, refined, HFCS? Or that as well as naturally occurring (like honey) and mildly processed stuff (like maple syrup)? It's all tough if eating out a lot (especially since most restaurants don't do the latter anyway), but avoiding burgers/sandwiches (or anything that comes with a bun/bread), Chinese fast food sauces, and desserts will eliminate the majority right off the bat. Beyond that, I would eat pretty freely, I think. And congrats to you for giving up that soda!
  10. If you have flour, you can always make pasta - it's pretty easy and filling. I agree about checking into a food pantry; they are there for this reason. If I had $8 for the month, I'd have to consider going. Wish I lived closer to you.
  11. All right, Jean. You've just made me feel better (and I would love to experience a holiday with your family!!); we went to my parents' house to enjoy (or not) Chester's Chicken ordered fresh from the gas station, gravy from a packet, Suddenly Salad, cold canned baked beans, WalMart Coleslaw, and a blueberry pie made from pie filling and canned crescent rolls. But I still adored the company and wouldn't trade it for anything (except maybe some good food) :). I can always eat when I get home.
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