Soror Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Many congratulations 🎉👏🎉 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Congratulations! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Congratulations! I think this sounds like a win. The reality is that retirement benefits are a big deal, and library jobs often allow a person to make a lot of connections. You might find that you can do some tutoring for extra pay outside of work, or contract work for some event planning, that kind of thing. Some of the library staff at our township library tutor outside of work for $20 an hour, and they have a never ending stream of students most of whom they have met at work, and whose parents said, "We need to find a tutor. Know anyone?" And of course sometimes they do activities that require additional staffing so regular staff can pick up extra hours by working an evening they would not normally do, and that all helps. I hope you find a new place soon! You are doing great, Heart! Keep on chugging along. I am cheering you on here from Michigan. 13 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 13, 2023 Author Share Posted October 13, 2023 They don’t know start date yet. Background check & drug test will be scheduled first. I went back to the dr and they gave me exercises to do for my back. I think I might be recovering from a muscle issue plus the UTI. I just want to feel normal again. I already contacted my lawyer to give him a heads up about the job/upcoming visitation changes. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 I'm so happy you got a job! That's huge!!!! 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 1 hour ago, heartlikealion said: I just got offered a job (via email). It’s the library job in New Orleans (didn’t say which branch). I think I need to just accept it. It will be a commute when I meet the kids, but I’ll have steady income, a fairly low-stress job, ability to sit a lot, retirement plan and other benefits. That is amazing news! I know is not ideal with the kids but closer than the four hours you were from them before they moved. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Congratulations! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Idalou Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 (edited) I am so happy for you! There may be minor bumps along the way, but to find a position that doesn't have you on your feet all day and offers benefits is soooo worth it! And there's got to be more choices of rentals in NO. I don't remember the details, will this still be 3-4 hours from your kids? Also, if you decide this is a career for you, there are fairly affordable MLS degrees available online that would enable you to really increase your options. Celebrate!! Edited October 13, 2023 by Idalou 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 woohoo! congrats! 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 YAYYY!!!! Congratulations!! I'm so happy for you!!! And NO is a cool city!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 13, 2023 Author Share Posted October 13, 2023 21 minutes ago, Idalou said: I am so happy for you! There may be minor bumps along the way, but to find a position that doesn't have you on your feet all day and offers benefits is soooo worth it! And there's got to be more choices of rentals in NO. I don't remember the details, will this still be 3-4 hours from your kids? Also, if you decide this is a career for you, there are fairly affordable MLS degrees available online that would enable you to really increase your options. Celebrate!! It’s 1.5 hours roughly. If xh met me halfway I’d still drive 1.5 hours, though (home to midway point to get kids; back to home). So at least it’s significantly closer than the 4hr distance. I had not considered getting an MLS but who knows, might consider one day. This job will pay more than my last but the rent might offset any increase in earnings. I’m seeking a 2 bedroom. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Just now, heartlikealion said: It’s 1.5 hours roughly. If xh met me halfway I’d still drive 1.5 hours, though (home to midway point to get kids; back to home). So at least it’s significantly closer than the 4hr distance. I had not considered getting an MLS but who knows, might consider one day. This job will pay more than my last but the rent might offset any increase in earnings. I’m seeking a 2 bedroom. So much better than 4! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 13, 2023 Author Share Posted October 13, 2023 Just now, freesia said: So much better than 4! Yup! My concern is Fridays will be weird like would I get dd at 6 pm or what? We’d have to pick a time where both adults could meet. And I guess I’d return her around 6 pm on Sun as usual. But any typical job would make Fridays awkward as picking her up after school wouldn’t be practical anymore. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 2 minutes ago, heartlikealion said: Yup! My concern is Fridays will be weird like would I get dd at 6 pm or what? We’d have to pick a time where both adults could meet. And I guess I’d return her around 6 pm on Sun as usual. But any typical job would make Fridays awkward as picking her up after school wouldn’t be practical anymore. Yes, Fridays will be tricky. But after the past year of juggling places and sleeping arrangements, I’m sure it will settle in to something regular and be such a relief. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Thank God!!! Praying you find a place quickly!! 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 13, 2023 Author Share Posted October 13, 2023 Just now, WildflowerMom said: Thank God!!! Praying you find a place quickly!! You and me both!! 🤣🤣🤣 will a landlord accept a written job offer or something from the employer and cash/check in lieu of pay stubs in the beginning?? Might get lucky and find one that would. I don’t want to be stuck paying rental all of Nov here if the job potentially begins in a few weeks. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Congratulations Some of my children have rented rooms in the past, none of them used any fridge room of the landlord. They had their own bar fridge in their room. Size of large esky (cool box) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elfknitter.# Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 13 minutes ago, heartlikealion said: It’s 1.5 hours roughly. If xh met me halfway I’d still drive 1.5 hours, though (home to midway point to get kids; back to home). So at least it’s significantly closer than the 4hr distance. I had not considered getting an MLS but who knows, might consider one day. This job will pay more than my last but the rent might offset any increase in earnings. I’m seeking a 2 bedroom. If you do consider pursuing a library degree, check to see if they offer any tuition reimbursement to help with the costs. State library associations and ALA offer scholarships too. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 @heartlikealion I just want you to know how much I admire you. You are so strong and level headed and have handled every setback with such grace and determination. You really are amazing. I hope that this job is just first of many many good things coming your way. You deserve nothing but happiness and peace. 13 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BusyMom5 Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Congratulations! Very happy for you! I hope this is a turning point in your life, a new chapter! 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 I’m so happy for you! I’m glad you aren’t up on a ladder or working through the night and you’ll likely have a lot of the same holidays off as your kids. 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 13, 2023 Author Share Posted October 13, 2023 Thank you, everyone *changes dating profile to NOLA* 🤣🙃 It’s been such a rollercoaster. I hope I can move soon as the new roommate wants to move in asap (she requested Oct 23 but they may stall her til Nov). I don’t think I can handle the old room. I went in there today and literally beads of sweat started dripping off me. I will try to go look at homes in person soon but not holding my breath for “move in whenever” (as opposed to beginning/end of month) or month to month. It was suggested to me to just do month to month to start by a friend that lived there a long time ago but I don’t think I’ll have the luxury nor the time to fool with moving twice in one city in a short time. I would like to be settled before the holidays if possible (Thanksgiving). Each move probably means deposits. I’ve been learning about attachment styles and working toward secure. I found a great YouTuber. Hoping I make a new circle of friends soon because I really need some people I can hang out with easily. 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamonlyone Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 🎉 Congratulations!!! 🎉 I'm sure you are tired and overwhelmed but, like everyone else, I think this sounds like a great opportunity for you. I hope you can take a deep breath and celebrate your nice job offer! 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa Louise Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 6 hours ago, heartlikealion said: I just got offered a job (via email). It’s the library job in New Orleans (didn’t say which branch). I think I need to just accept it. It will be a commute when I meet the kids, but I’ll have steady income, a fairly low-stress job, ability to sit a lot, retirement plan and other benefits. Oh, I am so happy for you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 CONGRATULATIONS!!! You've exhibited so much patience and persistence, I'm glad you are finally seeing a bit of payoff and hope things just keep going up from here. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 (edited) 3 hours ago, heartlikealion said: Thank you, everyone *changes dating profile to NOLA* 🤣🙃 It’s been such a rollercoaster. I hope I can move soon as the new roommate wants to move in asap (she requested Oct 23 but they may stall her til Nov). I don’t think I can handle the old room. I went in there today and literally beads of sweat started dripping off me. I will try to go look at homes in person soon but not holding my breath for “move in whenever” (as opposed to beginning/end of month) or month to month. It was suggested to me to just do month to month to start by a friend that lived there a long time ago but I don’t think I’ll have the luxury nor the time to fool with moving twice in one city in a short time. I would like to be settled before the holidays if possible (Thanksgiving). Each move probably means deposits. I’ve been learning about attachment styles and working toward secure. I found a great YouTuber. Hoping I make a new circle of friends soon because I really need some people I can hang out with easily. In my experience, libraries make great places to meet new friends. You will not only have coworkers but so many adults coming and going, and it is natural to chat a little when folks see what is being checked out and returned, plus there are often many activities that bring opportunities to chat. I hold out a great hope for you that you will meet some great folks! Edited October 14, 2023 by Faith-manor 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heartstrings Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 14 minutes ago, Faith-manor said: I my experience, libraries make great places to meet new friends. You will not only have coworkers but so many adults coming and going, and it is natural to chat a little when folks see what is bring checked out and returned, plus there are often many activities that bring opportunities to chat. I hold out a great hope for you that you will meet some great folks! I can definitely attest to that, I adored our old library and hung out with the children's librarian socially from time to time. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Congratulations!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Very exciting, congratulations! PM me and tell me which library system! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraw4321 Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Congratulations!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 19 hours ago, heartlikealion said: I just got offered a job (via email). It’s the library job in New Orleans (didn’t say which branch). I think I need to just accept it. It will be a commute when I meet the kids, but I’ll have steady income, a fairly low-stress job, ability to sit a lot, retirement plan and other benefits. Huge congratulations form me as well Heart! Your persistence has paid off! Hoping for you that housing and visitation arrangements all go smoothly now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boymama5 Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Congrats! That’s great news! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
historically accurate Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Congratulations! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 19 hours ago, heartlikealion said: Yup! My concern is Fridays will be weird like would I get dd at 6 pm or what? We’d have to pick a time where both adults could meet. And I guess I’d return her around 6 pm on Sun as usual. But any typical job would make Fridays awkward as picking her up after school wouldn’t be practical anymore. Fridays are hard when there is any distance to drive. I drove my son all the way to his dad and then his dad brought him all the way back to me. Hopefully your xh will be reasonable. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Congratulations! It sounds like a wonderful job! I hope you find a great place to live soon. I admire your perseverance. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 When we dated xh would let me drag him to NOLA. Night life stuff. After we got married he said I’m never going back, it’s too dangerous. So I wrote off NOLA for many years. I do acknowledge it’s dangerous but I’m more comfortable there now after going to several shows/events this past year, using Lyfts and parking garages, traveling with friends. He also likes to ignore or dismiss my time as a librarian. Kinda got the kids to as well. So this is all a bit amusing to me. No, my title isn’t librarian but I’m back at a library. And it sounds like essentially the same type of duties. ——— Mathematically speaking I’m looking at spending at least 35% of income on rent. I’ll make it work. I really want a 2 bedroom. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 If you haven’t already, join the Nola Reddit group. There’s an “asknola” group and a “neworleans” group and a “nola” group. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 Try asking your contact in the library system if they know of any rentals. Maybe their co-workers might know of something, as well. It helps that they know what you'll be making so they can suggests places specifically for your income bracket. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 (edited) I pulled up my old spreadsheet with expenses and modified it with guesses. About 36% of income on rent, higher ins (auto and renter’s will probably go up in the city), a min payment of $50/month on the cc balance etc. I can do it but it will be hard to build up an auto fund, savings etc. One step at a time, though! Edited October 14, 2023 by heartlikealion 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 3 minutes ago, stephanier.1765 said: Try asking your contact in the library system if they know of any rentals. Maybe their co-workers might know of something, as well. It helps that they know what you'll be making so they can suggests places specifically for your income bracket. I did 🙂 they Cc’d a couple people 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 On 10/13/2023 at 1:29 PM, heartlikealion said: I just got offered a job (via email). It’s the library job in New Orleans (didn’t say which branch). I think I need to just accept it. It will be a commute when I meet the kids, but I’ll have steady income, a fairly low-stress job, ability to sit a lot, retirement plan and other benefits. yay!!!!!! Also, once you have worked there a bit it may be easier to get a library job again elsewhere, closer to the kids, say in a year or whatever. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 15 minutes ago, ktgrok said: yay!!!!!! Also, once you have worked there a bit it may be easier to get a library job again elsewhere, closer to the kids, say in a year or whatever. Ohh true 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 Just now, heartlikealion said: Ohh true But not at xh’s library system which makes up most of the libraries by the kids 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 I don’t even know how to ask this. But do I sound crazy for wanting to move into a place in Nov? My dad is like what if they turn around and say hiring freeze and you’ve just signed a lease? I think he’s being paranoid. I do not have a start date but I’d rather be moving my items in early Nov than late Nov even if the job might not actually start til a few weeks from now (that’s after the drug test and background check clear). I do not want to be moving at Thanksgiving! I want to be settled. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 37 minutes ago, heartlikealion said: I don’t even know how to ask this. But do I sound crazy for wanting to move into a place in Nov? My dad is like what if they turn around and say hiring freeze and you’ve just signed a lease? I think he’s being paranoid. I do not have a start date but I’d rather be moving my items in early Nov than late Nov even if the job might not actually start til a few weeks from now (that’s after the drug test and background check clear). I do not want to be moving at Thanksgiving! I want to be settled. That doesn't sound crazy at all. Your entire life has been in flux for the past year, it seems very reasonable that now you have a firm direction you want to start getting settled. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 (edited) I hope I’m not delusional but I’ve pulled it off before* so I feel hopeful that I can find some landlord that will accept a letter from the employer as proof of job. And I am willing to show stubs from my cashiers’ checks that I get printed weekly for my current landlord. The memo always says rent and has my name, landlord’s name and date. They could speak to my landlords (current & former) but the stubs are more concrete evidence. And I still have a good credit score. So I’d rather push forward to move in early Nov if possible. A guy friend offered to drive there at night with me next week so we can look at these places after dark as they may have a different vibe at night. *well not this exact scenario but we got someone to rent to us when xh only had an unpaid practicum and we had student loan money Edited October 14, 2023 by heartlikealion 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 14, 2023 Author Share Posted October 14, 2023 (edited) oops double post Edited October 14, 2023 by heartlikealion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 15, 2023 Author Share Posted October 15, 2023 I’m going to see a friends’ band (free local event) with an old friend tonight and since costumes are encouraged I’ll see if I can braid my hair to look like Wednesday Addams. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted October 15, 2023 Share Posted October 15, 2023 congratulations! I am so happy for you! As far as crime, maybe looks at some suburbs just outside of NOLA? I have friends who live in Chalmette (Sp?) and work in Violet. I don't know if that would be too far for your job location (s) . 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted October 15, 2023 Author Share Posted October 15, 2023 4 hours ago, Hen said: congratulations! I am so happy for you! As far as crime, maybe looks at some suburbs just outside of NOLA? I have friends who live in Chalmette (Sp?) and work in Violet. I don't know if that would be too far for your job location (s) . The job stipulates the parish I need to live in. It’s a requirement of their city employees. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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