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    DD 23 professional ballerina in Connecticut; homeschool graduate
    DS 21 artist and seeker; homeschooled until high school
    DD 18 starting college fall 2018

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  1. This made me think of my husband's last birthday when he made me laugh: Me: This is a great age! You're young enough to still do things but old enough— [was intending to say something like "have the perspective to enjoy it, or wisdom to relax and enjoy"] Husband: —but old enough to know better!
  2. One thing my mom did (that we plan to but have not yet!) is to put my brothers' and my names on everything, POD (payable upon death). State laws vary on this but, in my mom's state, it worked out so that we (and grandkids) became account or property owners when she passed away. This made everything very easy as far as estate distribution, and we didn't have to work through probate. It also helped so much to be able to write checks from her account (that my brother and I then owned jointly) instead of paying from our individual accounts and then reimbursing later from inherited money.
  3. When mine were those ages, it really depended on the kid and the year, so I voted "other." DD1 started a homeschool ballet program when she was 13 and taught through high school, so she was the "under the table" category--guess I should have marked that for her. DS didn't work at those ages. DD2 did some work without receiving a W-2 (cleaning ballet studio and cleaning for a neighbor) and some work where she did receive a W-2 (working for a caterer and working at a bakery).
  4. Another option to think about: Our older daughter was prescribed topical progesterone cream when she was a teen. She went from debilitating cramping and heavy, irregular periods to normal. Apparently, a lot of teen girls do not ovulate, so they do not produce progesterone. Here's one article that explains: From the article: "One study showed that in the first year after menarche (start of menstruation), 80% of girls did not ovulate, meaning they did not make progesterone. Three years after menarche 50% did not ovulate, and by the sixth year 10% did not ovulate." When she hit her early 20s, she missed a period or two, and her doctor asked her to slowly reduce and then eliminate the progesterone. She did so without adverse effect.
  5. I would say the quality is similar to Kohl's. Do you have Kohl's?
  6. Yes, so annoying! I saw a meme that made me laugh that was something like: Walk to toaster and insert bread. Wait for toaster. "Why am I standing here?" Toaster pops and person screams.
  7. Dove. The image that popped into my mind was the Holy Spirit descending like a dove when Jesus was baptized. Also, a dove of peace.
  8. I like that it is made in the US and that it strives to be lead and cadmium free. And I think the colors are bright and fun...but I would probably go with a bright, patterned line if I were more confident that there weren't lead/cadmium issues. I have gone with Emerson Creek Pottery (also US made and careful about lead and cadmium) to add some patterned pieces to my Fiestaware. It is even more expensive, so I use those as accent pieces.
  9. On the topic of community colleges: We did tour one, and I was really impressed with this particular college. They have beautiful facilities (performing arts center, student center, library, etc.). My daughter took some culinary classes there when she was in high school doing career exploration (which helped her cross off culinary!). Many large community colleges have sports teams and dorms and lots of social functions. I had an image of community college as kind of a satellite, brick, rectangular building. I learned that some are very nice.
  10. Just thought about another avenue: We have another friend who went to Bethany Global University Students earn their degree and spend 16 months in overseas mission work. I don't know what degree our friend earned, but she combined it with midwifery training in the Philippines. She returned to the States to do 10 home births here so she is licensed in the United States (after she passed the written exam). She is currently a practicing midwife in the US, and she hopes to work internationally again. The college doesn't charge students tuition per se, but they do fund raise. It's still very affordable. Looks like there are some links to free online courses about discerning God's plan for your life:
  11. Our younger daughter sounds similar to yours. She didn't do independent college research, and talking about college choices was stressful to her. She listened while I floated ideas and thoughts but didn't participate. You know your daughter best and how she is processing the upcoming changes. I knew our daughter was stressed about the transition out of high school (loved her high school years and our homeschooling group!), plus a death in the family. She didn't feel ready to leave home but isn't interested in the majors offered at the one college in our city, which made her feel pressured. I think her reaction to the stress was to freeze up and avoid thinking about the future. So, in her case, she needed a little help. I set up college visits at three colleges, and two of the visits were pretty miserable. At the third college, she came out of visiting choir class just glowing. It was the first college we all could envision her attending. She is a freshman at that Christian college this year. She is very diligent, asking questions, using the math help center, doing all extra credit, redoing any work that can be redone. She has blossomed academically. She rocked her speech class last fall and was asked to TA. She gets praise from instructors and the writing center (class-required visits) on her Comp 1 and now Comp 2 writing assignments. First semester she earned a 3.9 and has all As so far this semester. So, I agree with you that diligence can go a long way toward success, and test scores do not always tell the whole story! As for majors: our daughter's first two loves were vocal music and playing soccer—neither of which she wants to make a career out of. She also loves art, so she declared as a graphic design major, and the department head had her take a course her first semester to help her determine her interest level. She really enjoyed that course, and plans to keep the major and add an art minor (as well as continue singing in two college choirs that she loves). She loves the opportunities for spiritual growth (chapel, outreach, etc.) and has had outstanding Christian professors. For her, leaving the safety of home is helping her develop and stretch, and although I would have loved to have her live at home longer (because, like your daughter, she is a sweetheart), I felt pretty confident she needed to be away to gain confidence and independence. We also know many homeschooling families who go the community-college-first route, and their students are thriving—a couple who went that route just were accepted into nursing programs. We also have friends whose daughter was undecided (former ballet dancer) and the parents encouraged her to get a PTA. She loved it so much that she has continued and is working on her doctorate. (There does seem to be a lot of rigorous science classes even for the PTA.) Edited to add: We have another former ballet dancer friend who got her PTA and is making a very good wage at the age of 21. I hope you all find just the right path. I know firsthand how stressful the process can be!
  12. Many things are good in my life, but if I could change something it would be to be part of a strong community. For about five years, I was the point person for my parents when they each had a health crisis and then passed away over a period of a few years; plus, our teenage son was in crisis. I needed to spend most of my time helping those family members, and so I didn't have much time to nurture my friendships or relationship with my husband. My mom passed away my youngest child's senior year in high school, and she is a thriving college freshman this year. So, I went from drinking life through a hose to a trickle. Last year's calendar was crammed; this one's is empty. We don't have family members to visit or celebrate with any more, and my friends connected with others when I was out of social commission, and we don't have the same synergy we had. Such a drastic change has left me feeling a bit adrift, and I think it will take time to find my feet. I have a part-time job, which helps give my life structure. I think it will take a while to get to know myself and others again. I saw an interview with an 89 year old (who had just earned her college degree) who said people need to laugh every day and have a dream. It struck me that I don't do either. Maybe it's time to start dreaming again now that every day is not a crisis. I have always thought I would love living in a picturesque, smallish town (maybe East Coast?) where one could walk to get groceries and know the shop owners (also where the land and climate were better for hiking, etc.). My husband is not on board, but there are some things about the built-in opportunities for community of retirement communities that appeal to me.
  13. How have I never read a thing about this? Oh my. The author's quote in the comments had me giggling. Really?! "Thank you so much for your comment and yes, apparently they did hike their skirts up in public or perhaps they disappeared to a side room or similar. According to historian Lucy Worsley ‘Privacy is not essential, and the French ambassador’s wife annoys everyone with the “frequency and quantity of her pissing which she does not fail to do at least ten times a day amongst a cloud of witnesses”.’"
  14. On attending classes, if your student is interested in participating in/majoring in fine arts, our daughter did find it helpful to attend choir class. She was already familiar with the professor/conductor, but attending the class was the highlight of her visit and confirmed her high regard for his leadership. (Our daughter is not a music major, but vocal music is a large part of her life, and she plans to be involved in several college choirs during her years there; she is a college freshman this year.) I agree with others' comments about attending academic classes. She did spend a night and did not have a very good experience. But, that experience helped her identify questions that she asked her admission rep and another student she knows who attends the college. Their answers helped her better assess the college before committing. (She is going to that college, and it's a great fit for her.)
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