ErinE Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 [DELETED POST] Thank you to everyone who responded. Other people have essentially shrugged it off; the friendship may be affecting their view. I thought perhaps I was overreacting. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be LIVID. 29 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be completely shocked and appalled. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Yup. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 That's not ethical. He should have asked permission. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Such a violation of trust and privacy would likely put that expert in crisis management and prevention into the former friend category for me. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Oh, I would be seething. That sort of information is NO ONE else's place to disclose, let alone on the front page of the newspaper! Seriously, what the heck?! How is this person an expert in the prevention of anything?! I have no idea what I would do if that happened. Perhaps tell the person they would be paying for our new security system? (Not that it would actually happen, but seriously... how DARE they?) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 That's not ethical. He should have asked permission. I thought the same, but I suspect it was a "better to ask forgiveness, rather than permission" situation. The homeowners would have said no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I agree that the thought process probably was better to ask forgiveness than permission and I would DEMAND that the paper remove the picture of your home and any information about it from their online version right away. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Anne Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Is a lawsuit possible? Perhaps not all the way to collection, but to the point of scaring the individual party and the newspaper? Truly, this person has invited crime to the property. If nothing else, a counter article, showing the foolishness done by someone claiming to be a professional may scar that professional, and cause second thought next time.This is terrible. Installing a security system needs to be high on tomorrow's to do list. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 The homeowners can't do much about the print edition, but they could still demand that anything online is taken down. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 That person is no "friend." What a rotten thing to have done!!!! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plansrme Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 You mean ex-friend, I presume? Ugh. What a selfish idiot. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I'd seriously consider contacting an attorney. Why would someone do that? 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 What a completely unprofessional thing to do! Is he an expert in natural disasters? Like the house is on a flood plain or something? He's not one of those people who tells you how to prevent break-ins and such? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted September 24, 2015 Author Share Posted September 24, 2015 I've checked. The article is not online. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I'd be talking with law enforcement about extra patrols and perhaps a restraining order, and maybe with a lawyer. That's really, really weird behavior. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Livid is the word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 So someone had to trespass to take the photos. We live in a similar situation, I would consider that a huge breach of trust. We are careful about who we invite to our house, I would feel very betrayed... 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be mad, and I would let him know his liability if you get robbed or if the home loses sale value because of his article. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would tell that person to contact an attorney and file complaints to the licensing board(s) of that expert. The newspaper should be liable as well. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan in SC Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Yes! I would be very angry and I would be a little nervous too. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Very upset! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Yes, I'd be livid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I'd be LIVID as well. That's completely wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Upset is an understatement. I would be absolutely seething. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would feel that my trust and privacy were violated. Both the author and the newspaper would hear about it in great detail. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodhaven Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Yes, I would be very, very upset! He can't be much good at crisis management if he has done something like that! If he were any good at his job he would have had the sense NOT to even consider such an action! Really, that was a very foolish thing to do. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be LIVID. I'd also be calling the newspaper editor and let them know your home was used without permission. you are considering what your options are as you feel your home and family have been potentially endangered by their neglect to get your permission. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Is a lawsuit possible? Perhaps not all the way to collection, but to the point of scaring the individual party and the newspaper? Truly, this person has invited crime to the property. If nothing else, a counter article, showing the foolishness done by someone claiming to be a professional may scar that professional, and cause second thought next time. This is terrible. Installing a security system needs to be high on tomorrow's to do list. And the newspaper and so called professional can pay for it and the monitoring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 To be polite, I have changed the words I would have preferred to use. Your friend is swine.Your trust has been betrayed. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be very upset and he would have a new crisis to manage. If the vulnerabilities are about security, I would feel less safe. If they are about natural disasters, I would be upset that this speculative article would possibly show up if I put my house on the market. If my insurance agent were located nearby and could see the paper, I would be upset about that too. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Angry? Nope, beyond. I would be consulting a lawyer, expecting author and newspaper to be paying for security system to be installed and for monitoring for the duration of my life in the home. Unprofessional, unethical, and imnsho criminal. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Livid would be an understatement. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 I would be contacting an attorney to make sure it stays that way, particularly if the newspaper maintains an online article or offers a digital edition. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 Umm what was the newspaper thinking?! I used to work at a newspaper and I just don't think they would be like, "yeah, no problem with this at all." I agree! Did he forge a release? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 You know, I think if you had posted this as a poll, you'd have had what is probably the first unanimous poll ever in Hive history... Totally wrong. I'd be incredibly angry. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 nm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acorn Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 I'm guessing this could be wildfire related. I guess I would like to see the article. Is the person trying to improve access? I can see how a community should be aware of public services like fire protection, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 Everything everybody else already said. I'd be checking to see what, if any, legal recourse I had. How awful! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 Agreeing...I would be furious and this person would know it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 I would be realy surprised that a newspaper allowed this to happen. So much so that I would wonder if something had gone wrong in the process of getting permission. I would be really ticked if someone turned out to be at fault, but I doubt I would be worried about it. It would worry my dh though. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 The words I would use to describe this ex-friend are not fit for polite company. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Anne Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 [DELETED POST] Thank you to everyone who responded. Other people have essentially shrugged it off; the friendship may be affecting their view. I thought perhaps I was overreacting. You were not over reacting. If you have not done some of the things listed here you are under-reacting. Those blowing it off could be afraid of conflict. Do they stand with you when some standing needs to be done? (I ask because people like that in my life will not stand with me. I spent a long time thinking I was overreacting, wrong, foolish to be concerned. I never was. That person/s had fear issues.) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 [DELETED POST] Thank you to everyone who responded. Other people have essentially shrugged it off; the friendship may be affecting their view. I thought perhaps I was overreacting. They would probably feel differently if it were their house on the front page. Did you move forward with doing anything about it? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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