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LucyStoner

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LucyStoner last won the day on October 9 2018

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  1. So, done with AM walk, school drop off and got a start on that tax form. Now I have: meeting with client A meeting with client B schedule younger son for pediatrician stock car “emergency” bin School pickups Curriculum night at high school more work. Blergh.
  2. If you like history and non-fiction, anything by Sarah Vowell.
  3. Every American child of the 80s was in this class. And every school library had that dark orange carpet. The class was a K-1 split, which is why some of the kids are like me and barely 5 and some are veritable giants at closer to 7. This was kindergarten for me, I can tell by the dress. I went to that school for K and part of 1st grade and my 1st grade school dress had a blue sweater top so this must be K. That was a good year. My teacher was named Tom and he later was a finalist for the national teacher of the year award. My mom always put me in a church dress for school pictures.
  4. More or less the same way I got through middle school the first time around: Staying home and napping as much as possible. Desserts. We don’t allow smartphones until high school. That worked fine for our older son. My nieces have them (obviously not my decision) and it’s a huge mistake.
  5. Done: AM exercise (walk/run) School drop off counseling for younger son then school drop off One audit prep two reconciliations One new client proposal school pick ups (early release day) handwriting and math practice for younger son Pick up nieces my husband pinch hit on dinner some laundry and the rest of the laundry, imagine, will still be there tomorrow! Hoping to finish tonight: tax form
  6. I’m hitting 40 next year, have never had bangs and am unlikely to start now. In fact my hair is usually a little longer in front than in back. Wait. Here’s a picture of the last time I had bangs. So...1985. 🤣
  7. Most men that I know have grown taller from 18-21. My husband was 18 when we met, 20 when we started dating and he was definitely taller at 22 when we got married than he’d been at 18.
  8. I can only speak for my communication style but a single post might contain points or ideas that were I having the conversation in person would be 30+ minutes back and forth over a cup of tea. I think it’s bound to come off more rapid fire and compact in a written forum than if you and me were chatting about what’s up while sitting on my balcony.
  9. I think that people suggesting changing the script/reflect on language a little are usually trying to help the mom as much as anything else. When my friends vent about their kids they tend to be criticizing behaviors more than the kids. I have gently shared tips and resources with my siblings and some friends which endorse the approach that “your child is not giving you a hard time, she’s having a hard time”. I’ve also encouraged people I know to set boundaries with their kids and to respect their kids boundaries. I’ve also had friends return the favor when I am at the end of my rope. Parenting autistic children isn’t a walk in the park. I get frustration. I get anger. I get having it up to here and being done. I also know that what helped me the most in those difficult situations was changing my perspective and giving myself and my children the benefit of the doubt. That’s why a lot of the advice you seem to be dismissing or interpreting as judgment on anything besides positive feelings is exactly what has made all the difference for me over the years. I think you are absolutely correct that parents are entitled to their feelings and emotions. I also think that there’s a lot of wisdom to not personalizing our kids mistakes and not wallowing too long in rage. If this situation played out with a good friend I would absolutely ask if they thought the spending was reasonable and suggest that maybe he doesn’t have the money but just doesn’t have the maturity to address it early and head on.
  10. Done: AM exercise (walk/run) School drop off counseling for younger son then school drop off One audit prep Need still to complete: AM exercise (walk/run) one tax form, two reconciliations and a partridge in a pear tree One new client proposal school pick ups (early release day) handwriting and math practice for younger son dinner 30 minutes cleaning some laundry plus, I am now picking up my nieces too. Dinner may be pizza, but whatever.
  11. I reached 5’8 by 12 and then got my last inch of height sometime before I turned 18 or so. I was definitely 5’8 until I was 16 or 17. The last inch was a surprise. I still felt cheated- as I am 2-4 inches shorter than all of the other women on my mother’s side of the family. I was really assuming I would crack 5’10” minimum. 🤣
  12. It would be highly unusual in my family not to hear a fair bit of strong language and swearing. My husband and I definitely swear less than my extended family. Insulating my kids from strong language would mean cutting off their cousins and honestly even my dad, which I’m not willing to do. The rule I have always used for this with my kids is that there’s a difference between swearing and swearing AT someone. “Bleep, I’m so frustrated” is VERY different than “bleep you, you worthless bleepity bleep bleep bleep.” I discourage the kids from swearing at all outside of their family group where it is culturally normative. My older son abides by that to a T. My younger son, it’s dicier. That said, they both know that swearing AT people is not ok and in those times that you do say something you regret, you need to make amends. While I am not perfect, the language I use about my husband, kids and other people in my life is generally free from anything that approaches verbal abuse. My parents swore at each other all the time and at us at times and sure, I lived and I know they loved me that is absolutely NOT what I want for my kids. Besides how I talk to them, it’s important to me that they see a healthy and loving marriage free from nasty language directed at each other.
  13. I get that. I have two autistic sons. Parenting is pretty time intensive for me in ways that is atypical for their ages. I get frustrated. But no matter how frustrated, I really can’t indulge the vent too long mentally + the vent has a time and a place and it definitely can impact not only relationships but my energy and mental health.
  14. LucyStoner

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    I shaved my head when I was about 18 or 19. And then again at 20. Honestly it was partially a way for me to reduce unwanted sexual advances. It grows back. If it’s any consolation, my pieced (nose), bald and tattooed 20 year old self never had trouble finding professional work and was promoted at two jobs while running around like that. I also got my first management position at 25, piercing and all. I understand not liking it though. My niece ruins her gorgeous hair with dye, bleach and not so great looking hair cuts. I’ve never said a word but it is a shame at times to see her really nice hair bleached and hacked off in weird ways.
  15. AM exercise (walk/run) School drop off counseling for younger son then school drop off One audit prep, one tax form, two reconciliations and a partridge in a pear tree One new client proposal school pick ups (early release day) handwriting and math practice for younger son dinner 30 minutes cleaning some laundry
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