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  1. I’ve been here over 20 years. Not sure exactly when but I was around back then. It just doesn’t seem that long ago!
  2. I realized a couple years ago that my dh had never done taxes. We got married right out of college. His mom did his before we got married and I have done them since we married. We are turning 50 this year and our adult kids do their own taxes and he has never done them. And he makes all the money. I tell him the end result and if he needs to change his witholding. I realize he should know about the things because it is basic literacy and if something happens to me just having some idea of what this task involves would be good. So every year I say I’m going to loop him in but then I don’t. Because he would make it so much harder. He would question every little thing and it would just take forever and he wouldn’t just accept my explanations for things I’ve learned over the years. So yes, theoretically, dh should be involved. But practically I just do it and it is easier.
  3. I’ve used Turbo Tax for years. We don’t have a complicated situation and it is easy enough. The most complicated thing we have had over the years is college scholarships/529 withdrawals/ education credits and deductions. That can get confusing especially with multiple kids and multiple colleges. When my high schoolers were doing de we used the tuition deduction in addition to the credits for the actual college aged kids. That can all get confusing but I still managed it with Turbo Tax. My kids all do their own now. Two used Turbo Tax and one uses a less expensive similar product.
  4. Sometimes whatever the first grandchild comes up with when they are trying to say whatever is decided the name will be is the cutest and most endearing. Maybe not to anyone on the outside but to the ones being called it by the little one for sure 😊
  5. I have four kids. One I couldn’t have left because he wouldn’t follow directions so he couldn’t really be trusted not to get into something/get injured. My youngest I couldn’t leave because of some concerns about some things going on with neighbors and in the neighborhood. But in general most 7th graders in normal circumstances would be fine.
  6. We are vacationing now near ds #2 and tonight we are going to visit with him and his girlfriend and his girlfriend’s sister and brother-in-law who just had a baby 5 weeks ago. The girlfriend and her sister are not super close to their own mom and I have jokingly been calling this baby my Grandbaby-in-law and I sent shower gifts etc. I’m excited to meet this baby tonight 😊 and thinking maybe I should gently inquire as to what the real grandparents are being called…because whoever has a baby first is going to set precedent…maybe I should start laying some groundwork. lol.
  7. I have no idea but I am just now feeling ready to start moving in the direction of grandchildren. But oldest kids aren’t married yet but they are 24 and 26 and in long term relationships and I at least need some shiny hardware sometime soon. I don’t care what they call me! My oldest are boys so I am just in the game of being the most pleasant and agreeable future MIL to the girlfriends and I will just be pleased to be included in their lives. I wouldn’t mind the traditional Grandma but I kinda like Mimi. We are not from the south (but live here now) so Memaw doesn’t feel like it fits me at all but I will go by whatever they want to call me as long as they are calling me!
  8. The chances of my kid being in a situation where she is scared or alone and a phone could bring some comfort is way higher than her actually being in a school shooting. The situation my dd had this year had some kids in her school alone for a very long time with no communication and it was very scary. A phone would have changed the experience. That’s a much more likely occurrence than actually being targeted by a shooter. So it isn’t really about a phone keeping a kid safe for me. But I do understand the resistance to administration coming between a kid and their communication device. I don’t care if my dd doesn’t carry hers at all times and she probably wouldn’t bother. But if, after her lockdown experience, she wants to take it with her to the bathroom or to run an errand for a teacher or something that separates her from the group and makes her feel vulnerable I think she should be able to. I take mine with me if I’m going to be at all vulnerable and it doesn’t really keep me safe from violence but it sure brings me some comfort and I get kids and their parents wanting that right as well.
  9. It’s an old school so definitely no QR codes and absolutely some malfunctioning lockers and I’m sure some are harder than others. And enough kids have opted to just carry stuff that it is a valid option that doesn’t get you shamed or embarrassed. Most kids use lockers. Enough don’t that you don’t stand out. You do sometimes not have a book because it is just too much to carry if you have all hard classes. But kids share and teachers don’t get mad because again- the school is very accommodating with whatever kids choose to do. So it really isn’t a major problem. The school is very supportive and wants everyone to be happy and if someone wanted to use their locker and expressed that it would be happening. So it’s not like it’s a real problem. It would be a problem for my dd because she really couldn’t carry all her stuff. But we’d solve her problem as I’m sure the ones that physically can’t carry their stuff do. Obviously.
  10. The kids at my dd’s school use lockers. They have lots of books and after school activities. They have time to go to their lockers between class. A number of them do not use them because they say they are too hard. They can’t open them. They can’t undo the locks. They say they will just carry all their stuff. So they carry all their stuff. Usually a very full backpack, a lunch, and a duffel bag, all day every day. When it is suggested they try to get a different locker/ learn how to use the lock, they say oh I will just carry my stuff. The impression is that asking for help is just too hard/embarrassing or that they really don’t believe they will ever be able to open the lock because it is just too hard. I find this discouraging. I would encourage my daughter, strongly, to learn to open her locker. That is it. The post really wasn’t any deeper. I wasn’t trashing anyone. We often post on differences in the way people function that we notice. I’m not going to call these kids out further. If they want to carry their stuff they can. Maybe they have a need I don’t know about and don’t need to. Maybe they have a security item or have accidents and carry a change of clothes or any thing that isn’t my business. I don’t really care. We just sometimes muse about things we see in people/kids and this was that. Hey, why won’t these kids ask for help? I wish they would. Is opening a lock something people in your life can’t do? Maybe 30 years ago the kids that showed up unprepared actually couldn’t open their lockers and it just wasn’t socially acceptable to admit like it is now? That could be. I’d rather kids carry their stuff than be unprepared… It really is wasn’t that serious of a post. I’m sorry it caused such a stir.
  11. Haha. Yes. Agreed. There were no covid rules against lockers in my dd’s private school. The majority of kids in my dd’s school use lockers. A non zero number find the locks too hard and I found that unusual so I posted about it. But it really isn’t anything I am losing sleep over it a problem I need to solve. Sometimes we just post something that pops into our head. I promise I am not distressed.
  12. They are my dd’s classmates. These are actual kids I know. 10th graders. They went through the exact orientation my dd did. They could have been absent. I don’t know everything.
  13. I couldn’t even tell you how to open a combination lock. I could do it from muscle memory but I would have to look up actual directions to teach someone. So I am all for needing to be shown/taught/practice. I never said kids should just know or just figure it out. I did say I was frustrated by, and even though I’ve been scolded, I’ll stand by saying that I am frustrated by kids just saying they can’t because it is too hard. If they don’t want to that is fine. But it makes me sad for someone to really think they can’t do it. Because most people can if someone takes the time to show them. I’d rather they learn than think they aren’t capable. But again, I would teach my kid so that’s my parenting choice and other people can make theirs.
  14. I think these are kids that didn’t get it on the first day of 9th grade when they had time to practice - and part of orientation included opening their lockers to find goody bags and candy so they all did get them open with help at least once. I think the ones that didn’t master it gave up and were too reluctant to ask for help and just accepted their fate of carrying three bags around all day. It’s not all the kids by any stretch. If I have five or six kids in my car it might be 1-2. Most of the kids use their lockers. A handful of them- enough that their bags take up so much room they have to leave them in hallways carry their stuff all day. It’s their choice for sure and the school lets kids do what they are comfortable with within reason and no one gets shamed either way. I don’t think the kids are stupid. Which is why I keep saying they are smart. I think they are ones more passive about asking for help. I was one of those kids so I feel for them. I see, and I think we have discussed here, the reluctance of kids and adults to ask for help and it can be a hindrance. This is one thing I have noticed and am a bit bothered by. Not so much I judge the kids. One of these kids is one of my absolute favorites. I wish the kids would feel more comfortable asking for help and make their lives easier. I would definitely encourage mine to. Parenting differences abound. I’m sure some parents don’t know or care and I think that is fine too. Parents have alot to think about.
  15. But I need to stop posting on both threads. Because even after 20+ years on these boards the worst intentions are always assumed.
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