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  1. If you could not quote, I would appreciate it. My daughter with hip dysplasia (about whom I posted a week or so ago) just got the results of her MRI. I don't understand the hip part, but I did understand 5 cm ovarian teratoma. Geez. If it's not one thing. . .. Any experience? Do they remove them? If so, how? Is it likely to be causing pain? Other symptoms? She has a call in to a gynecologist to beg for an appointment ASAP, but in the meantime, y'all help a mom out here!
  2. I have used It is not cheap, but their quilts are amazing. I think I paid about $650 for each quilt, one for each daughter's high school graduation. The back of the quilts are possibly even more amazing than the front, and they will use things besides t-shirts. My oldest was a gymnast, and they used leotards, warm-ups, part of a ballet costume and even her name and the gym logo from a backpack.
  3. Not in the Midwest, but if you know someone in the Southeast, let me know.
  4. I will keep that in mind. She was adopted from China at 15 months, so my working theory is that it is related to early malnutrition, but I also means I know nothing of her genetic history.
  5. Thank you. That is very reassuring! She is transferring schools, due to start in two weeks at the new college. I am also thinking a red-shirt season might be in order, but we need the surgeon to talk to us about scheduling options. The sports med dr originally thought she had FAI but sent her to the hip specialist to confirm. Hip specialist is the one who diagnosed HD. She doesn't seem to be hurting badly enough for this to be what it is, but he is the hot-shot hip guy around here. Best of luck to your daughter at NMSU. Hope this is but a distant memory by the time her freshman season rolls around.
  6. I haven't been on the Chat Board in forever, so forgive this interruption, but as I've been trying to find more BTDT information on this topic, I thought this might be a good place to check. My 19 yo has been diagnosed with hip dysplasia in both hips. She has an MRI scheduled next week, and the dr. will not give her much information on prognosis and recovery until he sees the MRI. All she's gotten out of him so far is 3 weeks on crutches (non weight-bearing, I assume) and a longer rehab. This is per hip, so two surgeries, two rehabs. She is a college swimmer, and his refusal to either tell her she has a future in her sport or she does not is frustrating. If anyone has any experience, i would love to hear it. And if anyone wants to come help me track down the orthopedist who blew me off as a stupid mom, with no x-rays, no nuthin', when I took her for a hip dysplasia evaluation when she was 2 because I thought she had it then, grab your pitchfork and torches and come on down.
  7. U of Toledo. My daughter had relatively modest stats and would have qualified for a 50% COA if she hadn't had a full athletic scholarship. And by "modest," I don't mean a 30 ACT.
  8. Wow. That is an impressive leap, even for you, Tibbie. My hat is off to you, and I trust you can use it because you've given your entire bank account, wardrobe and home to the oppressed as I am (apparently) commanded to do as a Christian. I don't even know how you're managing to have this conversation with no phone or computer because, of course, you've given them away to someone who is oppressed. What? You haven't given it all away? You've limited how much you're giving away because the world's supply of people who are oppressed is infinite? And, yet, you expect the U.S. government to give away all of its resources, to feed, clothe and house the world without limits. Yes, very impressive. I'm going to go back to ignoring the cries of the oppressed (and the rude) now. This really is all I am going to say on the topic. Y'all just sit here and fume amongst yourselves.
  9. I'm going to guess that the hostility comes from (1) the OP's multiple references to an adoptee's "real parents" and to not knowing who you are without knowing who your bio parents (and grandparents, etc.) are, which comes across as insensitive, at best, but she's dug her heels in, so perhaps it's worse; and (2) the sense of glee that seems to come through from her having uncovered secrets her ancestors clearly thought best left as secrets.
  10. Denying a DV victim asylum doesn't mean one doesn't think it's awful; it means that one believes immigration isn't the most appropriate cure for that particular ill. There IS a home government that would seem to be the more natural defender of these victims. The United States really can't take everyone with a sad story. I have no particular opinion about DV as a justification for asylum, but the blame for DV lies with the perpetrator and the government that permits him to get away with it, not with U.S. immigration policy. And that is all I am going to say about that.
  11. But YOU are the one saying--you've said it twice--that your genes are who you are. My point is that your genes are NOT who you are. You can feel any way you want, but your genes are not who you are. You are so, so much more than your genes; everyone is, adopted or not. But if having "someone who looks like you" has truly been the most important thing to them, well, then, I think someone needs more than a DNA test.
  12. So? Are they more “who they are” with this knowledge? No. Genes are just genes; they are not who you are, and they are not who your cousins are.
  13. Your genes are not who you are. As the mom of an adopted child, this kind of talk drives me batty. And I KNOW one of the testing companies uses it extensively in their ad campaign. My adopted child is MY child; ask her if you have any doubt. She is who she is regardless of whether she ever has contact with or even knowledge of any blood relatives. And the thought that knowing you have ancestors from Bolivia, let’s say, has one whit to do with any aspect of your life today is patently absurd. Am I curious to know if my daughter has biological siblings? Of course! Would I encourage her to do the testing? Maybe. But not because she will never know who she is without this information. She knows exactly who she is right now.
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