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  1. I'm wondering if it might be more useful for you to ask even broader questions about ballet training. (Perhaps I should insert that I'm genuinely thinking it might help. I'm not being snarky in saying that.) For example, were you to pose the questions: What mechanisms are present in classical ballet training? Do dancers work additional strength and endurance training into their dance schedules? (The answer is yes. :) ) When and why? you might find the answers don't match your idea of classical ballet training. This is the why to developing strength and endurance: Dance time on stage reflects only a small fraction of the strength and endurance it takes to rehearse until the choreography is flawless and the moves look effortless. Seeing the amount of work and sweat dancers put in has given me a whole new appreciation of what that ten minutes on stage really consists of. My son is an upper-level dancer in his school, a studio that accommodates dancers who are dancing recreationally and those who wish to go on to have a career in dance, and all the range between. Upper-level dancers in this studio (which is not attached to a professional company, so only trains student dancers) train 4-5 days a week, 12-15 hours a week, minimum, or more. Ballet training consists of classical ballet-specific training exercises intended to build strength, flexibility, endurance, muscle memory, and more, just as in most (all?) other sports. That is the bulk of the strength-building and endurance training. Show rehearsal does not replace ballet training, so during show season, dancers are dancing even more hours. In all studios that I am aware of, even the student dancers do additional strength-building classes that are not ballet-specific. It is a part of their training, includes upper-body work for men and women, and is worked into the studio class schedule. On top of that, many of the dancers take additional dance classes in order to broaden their dance repertoire, for fun, and also to continue to build overall dance fitness. All of the young women with whom my son dances are incredibly fit, including upper-body strength. There is incredible variation in body size and type. I've never seen even the most muscular-looking of the male or female dancers impeded by their arms, probably because the training that they do also develops the flexibility and muscle memory that they need to develop in order to be strong and to dance gracefully. To the OP, my dancer son considers it both. It is athletic and artistic. To me, it seems artificial to try to separate the two as though an activity can be only one thing or the other. :)
  2. Yeah. I get it. They're making it about what they want to give, not what you want to get, which doesn't celebrate you at all. :grouphug:
  3. Those individual boxes of breakfast cereal. And an orange in the toe.
  4. I was thinking about this thread, and remembered our supertaster science lab: My eat-everything is a “normal†taster, my texture-sensitive guy could taste the strips but didn’t hate them, and my most particular eater is a supertaster and thought they were vile. It lined up well with their eating habits and preferences when they were little. 😄
  5. For a 3-6 year old? I made sure there was at least one thing on the table they’d eat at each meal. I’d encourage them to try everything. I’d fix a healthy snack before bed without relating it to what they ate at dinner, to avoid low blood sugar in the morning. Really, doing that meant they didn’t really “refuse†to eat what was served. They could choose for themselves. My boys are teens now. My kid who ate everything as a little one eats everything now. My boys with sensory issues eat a variety of healthy foods but if they don’t care for what’s on the table they try it and then go make a sandwich or scrambled eggs.
  6. We get groups of teens in our neighborhood, usually after the littles have come and gone. Anyone who comes to my door in a costume gets candy if they want it. :) The teens are so polite and like to tell me about their costumes. My boys (12, 14, 16) have friends come over to t-or-t every year. The guys have a great time, they are respectful and have great costumes, and have a candy-trading tradition with very complicated rules. They were horrified last year that I thought that probably they'd like to watch something besides the Great Pumpkin since they might feel too old. Apparently no one is too old for Charlie Brown. :D
  7. The phrase makes me think that the tall poppies are at greater risk for getting their heads lopped off because they are not blending with the rest. I am in favor of poppies growing tall or short, or in between, btw. :) They are lovely flowers, literally and metaphorically.
  8. I reminded them. A lot. Or I'd just walk behind them and gently push the chair back to four legs and say "I like your head the way it is." A couple times one or the other fell over while tipping, and stopped doing it for a while. They're in their teens now and mostly don't do it any more.
  9. I am preparing for this eventuality. I have a part-time job already. It was temporary, no benefits, so I went to the folks I worked for and told them I needed a job with benefits. The trade-off has been that it is limited to half time, so I cannot pick up more hours. The kids' dad has agreed that he will support homeschooling financially and otherwise as long as the kids are school age, so I will (likely) get some combination of child and spousal support so that I can continue to work part-time and homeschool. Some attorneys will do a short consultation--some for free or reduced rate, others charge their hourly rate--to help you figure out what your options are and what to expect.
  10. l have and occasionally wear a mouth guard, but what I found helped most was regular chiropractic care. I started going for other reasons, but found that my jaw clenching and headaches mostly went away, and when I am grinding or clenching, the chiro or massage therapist will attend to my jaw and it helps.
  11. Frustration, exhaustion, guilt Marital difficulties, juggling so many things with too little time, physical issues (ex:thyroid)
  12. My chest hurts and my eyes are burning, even staying indoors. The air quality is off the charts hazardous. It is awful.
  13. â¤ï¸ I'm sorry. That stinks. It's rude and thoughtless. You are not "the boring one," she's the undependable one, and her standing you up is all on her. You're right, she's not going to change. Hugs.
  14. I like combos. Raspberry-rhubarb, blackberry-peach, apricot-lime are my favs.
  15. I am so sorry. What a shock. :(
  16. I want to respond to this specifically because I actually discussed this very issue *today* in a counseling session: Once I started separating myself and setting some internal boundaries, I found that much of my anxiety was "borrowed" anxiety and anxiety over unpredictability. You are strong. You can do this, whatever it is you need to do, wisely and with compassion and grace.
  17. I would see....am seeing....a counselor. I am in a situation which is likely quite different from yours but fits your broad explanation. Counseling has given me a safe objective place to process the things I cannot process elsewhere and input on ways to set boundaries and deal with the daily contact. Many hugs. I know I am essentially a stranger, but I am sending you thoughts of peace and strength.
  18. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so sad, and so sorry this happened in your library.
  19. My family was talking about this at the dinner table last night. We were completely taken off -guard. It's math. It's science. It's a straightforward phenomenon easily demonstrated with a desk lamp, an orange, and a basketball. And...kapow. It touched each of us deeply in a completely unexpected way. We ended up talking about mystery and the intersection of spirituality and science. Which, if you knew my literal computer-y guys, is almost as surprising as if the dog piped up and gave his .02 :D
  20. We got three emergency alerts on our phones in the 30-45 minutes before the eclipse started: Fire danger. Don't park on dry grass. (Yeah, this one kind of makes sense. Some folks really might not know. But the timing....so soon before the eclipse most folks were already parked and in their chairs looking at the sky.) Don't look directly at the sun. Watch for falling rock if climbing. (??) It was weird because the alert tones were rolling in waves, so a group of phones would go off, then a few minutes later, more phones would go off. One safety precaution I appreciated--the place we were watching tooted an air horn when it was time to put glasses back on.
  21. I didn't actually cry, but I'll admit I was surprised that I got choked up when i actually took the glasses off and looked at the corona. It was...well, really no words.
  22. I would call. The choking alone would be enough. The isolation concerns me also, as well as the bio parent's apparent belief that the child deserves to be hit in response to behavior. CPS can decide whether to investigate, which might also bring this to the counselor's attention.
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