BlsdMama Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I've been sitting here thinking about it..... Contractions at about fifteen minutes apart so no real tell tale if it's the real deal or a practice run and I have decided NOT to have this baby. He can just stay put. Forever. You'd think, as this is our twelfth, I'd be a little over the anxiety. Truth? The truth is I've had relatively fast, efficient, manageable births..... right up until the last one. Cate was tiny, couldn't settle on the cervix right, was turned all wrong, and they cranked up the pitocin as time passed. After several non medicated births in a row that I enjoyed, I got an epidural. A shame, but it didn't work quite as intended.... and the hours went on and on..... to deliver a little girl followed by no sleep and a fifteen day NICU stay. She was totally worth every bit of pain and drama..... But I do fear a repeat. After moving this winter, I don't have a doctor I LOVE, I'm dealing with fear, and I think, yes, I'm just going to choose not to have him. I figure he's fairly cozy where he's at. Yeah? Good plan? He can just settle in for the long haul untilI work through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I said the same thing around the same time with both of mine. I don't labor well. But they both arrived in their own time just fine. Most likely yours will too. Good luck, you can do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
medawyn Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Sounds like a plan to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I've been sitting here thinking about it..... Contractions at about fifteen minutes apart so no real tell tale if it's the real deal or a practice run and I have decided NOT to have this baby. He can just stay put. Forever. Come back in a few days and let us know how that worked out for you! :001_cool: Hang in there. No one is pregnant forever...says the woman who gave birth to the 1o pounder at 42 weeks. :001_rolleyes: You can do it! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :) and (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Good luck to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 You got this, momma!! You're going to do great and at the end have a sweet new baby to cuddle. I'll be sending good thoughts your way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Awww. Hang in there mama. You know it will all be worth it so soon! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Well, you had 11 good ones and 1 bad one, so you've got good odds. I'll make you a deal. I'll give birth to this one, if you carry my next one. I'll still give birth to it, I just don't want the pregnancy. Sound good? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I felt that way about a few of mine. :) Hoping he comes quietly and quickly, with no pain….and is in perfect health and an utter delight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danybug Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Well, you had 11 good ones and 1 bad one, so you've got good odds. I'll make you a deal. I'll give birth to this one, if you carry my next one. I'll still give birth to it, I just don't want the pregnancy. Sound good? I totally agree!!! Sounds like a perfect plan for me! Best wishes for you! You totally got this! What a blessed mama you already are and you are going to have such joy seeing this new little babe! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaConquest Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Sending you easy labor vibes. You've got this, mama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaConquest Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Ugh I feel for you. All my kids thus far have been varying degrees of malpositioned and it makes for long, slow, weird and painful labors. Asynclitic, posterior, nuchal hands, we've had all these in combo. Naughty kids. We must be L&D twins. I always joke that my birth canal must have a crazy left turn. I mean, who has a 36-hour labor, ending in a csection, for a second birth? I thought I had a proven pelvis, dammit! Naughty, naughty kids! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 What a fun thread. OP, he is cozy and just fine but tibia time for him to move. Moving is always a b*tch but the process of settling into a new place, with new hope and promises and routines is a good process. I look forward to the thread where you introduce us to your new family member. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura's Haven Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Aww...I will pray that all goes smoothly for you. Hang in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 good luck with that. ;p 2dd decided she didn't really want to be born - she crowned and retreated a number of times. sad thing was - it was a *really* easy labor (if a bit long.) before that. waiting to hear how everything goes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 yeah--- you do that and let me know how it goes (tee hee) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I said that about this baby, after an awful first labour, and a painful second labour. Honestly, this labour was amazing and wonderful. It's strange, I almost WANT to do it again, almost... But before this, after baby number two, I was brought to tears even thinking about how baby number 3 was going to get out. I almost arranged for an epidural, but ended up having her with the least pain management of any of my babies. I'm not sure of my point here except that each one is different, and my fears were nothing like the reality, and you have done great at this so many times, you're going to be fine! Plus... babies tend to ignore all maternal requests regarding timing. Baby 1 was born during major floods into a hospital full of evacuated maternity patients, And Baby 3 timed her birth, despite my desperate attempts at a natural induction two weeks earlier, in the middle of a major political drama and changover at our hospital that, frankly, put her and I both in medical danger (long, disgusting story. Politicians should never have any say whatsoever over healthcare...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondeviolin Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I know the feeling. My sister was visiting when I was due with Four and she kept wondering why I wasn't antsy to be Not Pregnant. Labor and delivery and a really clingy toddler and needy 3yo are each reasons why I'm not considering another baby right now. Now that you have said all of that, though, this will be a smooth delivery. Maybe one of those where you sneeze and he falls out? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :grouphug: Sending good thoughts, in or out! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Hope you are holding or soon to hold your bundle of joy. I think moms rock. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Awww....praying for a smooth labor & delivery and a very sweet and happy babymoon. I can imagine the anxiety. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 awww! Good luck! I was surprised by my 4th being my hardest labour. Not fun. I totally get the gun shy feeling... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 awww... moving is the pits and it does a number on one's emotions and anxiety level. I don't blame you for wanting to stop the whole birthing process. All my births were fairly straightforward (and at home)... but I will still get anxious as the day approached. What you need to do, is read some positive birth stories... or write out your first 10birth stories....remember those...not the one that was so very difficult. Hopefully, it's too late for that and you're already holding your little one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I still remember the point in my first pregnancy when I realized that the baby needed to come out! LOL. I also thought that he could just stay, but I"m sorry to say it doesn't work out that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I think the hardest part of pregnancy is realizing the baby has to come out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Hoping to hear happy baby news soon! I'm right with you on the fear of labor; already told my midwife I'm planning on an epidural for this one, after five natural births I just don't want to face it again. I wouldn't be encouraging kiddo to stay put longer though--I had one who decided it was comfy and cozy inside, by the time he finally put in an appearance he was huge; not an easy birth... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I just had number 5 on Monday. I was dreading labor. It wasn't fun, but it is over. And she was worth it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I just had number 5 on Monday. I was dreading labor. It wasn't fun, but it is over. And she was worth it. :) Congratulations!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 You've got this!! I usually get induced and whenever we get to the hospital I want to run the other way! Once in the hospital room I keep telling my husband "I don't want to do this! I can't do this! What were we thinking!!" Lol. Too much pain, fear of the unknown and strangers touching me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I just had number 5 on Monday. I was dreading labor. It wasn't fun, but it is over. And she was worth it. :)Congrats!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I sure feel for you. I am due any day with baby number 10. I have had 6 at home. My last 2 were way harder than the rest of mine with the last one being almost unbearable. I am very nervous this time. I have taken some prep herbs and practiced hypno birth in hopes that that will help. I keep telling myself it is only a few hours, I've survived it before and it is so so worth it. ;) I hope you are holding your little soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 My last 2 were way harder than the rest of mine with the last one being almost unbearable. This is so not helpful. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MicheleinMN Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I was very stressed before my last baby. My step-daughter said, "You've done this 5 times before. I would think you would know what to expect." I started crying and told her, "Yes, I do know and that's why I don't want to do it." I also knew it was time to have him when I woke up one day and realized that I wanted to meet our new baby. Praying you have a nice easy labor and delivery and a very happy healthy baby. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Just go and tell DH that you have decided to go to the beach instead of the hospital. Your bags are already packed... Each baby is different; the hardest part is waiting for him/her to arrive. You will beholding you precious little one in no time. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 This is so not helpful. :p Sorry! It's the reality though. I can't tell you the number of times people say they must just fall out now. But that is no where near the truth for most mamas of many. Somewhere around 6-8 the births start getting harder again :/ and due to doing it so many times the amnesia is less effective. It makes it very tough to anticipate labor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 I can't tell you the number of times people say they must just fall out now. This might be just slightly uncouth, but if someone said that to me I think I'd have to break their nose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 This might be just slightly uncouth, but if someone said that to me I think I'd have to break their nose. Yes that and the insinuating that we need a TV or hobbies just really get to me. They think they are funny but it's really not. Basically they are inferring we have more tEA then everyone else based on the number of kids but really that is just stupid. We don't use BC and we love having a big family. That's why we have a lot of kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Yes that and the insinuating that we need a TV or hobbies just really get to me. They think they are funny but it's really not. Basically they are inferring we have more tEA then everyone else based on the number of kids but really that is just stupid. We don't use BC and we love having a big family. That's why we have a lot of kids. An old boss of mine was one of 18. (16 pregnancies, no miscarriages, in 25 years!) People used to talk about her mom behind her back. It was so sad. One time my co-worker told me she could not believe that she had 18 kids, and that is was child abuse. I replied "I know! That's why Matt and I are only planning on 12." She realized I was serious and we never spoke of it again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 :party: I just had number 5 on Monday. I was dreading labor. It wasn't fun, but it is over. And she was worth it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysticmomma Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 I expect your baby in the next day or so... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Wishing you a speedy birth and a healthy sweet baby. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted July 20, 2014 Author Share Posted July 20, 2014 Emotionally in a better place tonight. I think two days of DD's freshman orientation for college, late nights, early mornings caught up with me. I went back to bed this morning and slept for a couple more hours and felt so much better today. It's a little rough because birth is a two step process floor me. First I have the cerclage removed which can be really easy or really terrible. Then a few days later I usually get to give birth. I've ripped through the stitch once which resulted in a pretty traumatic removal. So I've got a couple fears working in tandem but I have been taking pretty good care of myself lately do let's hope my uterus wants to work at maximum efficiency, shall we? Every mom of many fears a lazy uterus, bleeding, and if they've had previous c sections, accreta. Normally I can stave off the fear until the end and here we are, lol. I'm sure it will be fine. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted July 20, 2014 Author Share Posted July 20, 2014 Though I admit I'm thinking about going back to my old OB....Longer drive but I miss that familiarity. Wonder if anyone has ever done that a few days before labor, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 I felt that way with my 3rd. 1st was a c-section and the pain meds post op never worked so I spent 24 hours repeatedly passing out from pain. the 2nd was a vacuum extraction with extensive tearing. WHen I was pregnant with my 3rd I kept asking myself what I was thinking...yes I wanted another but how on earth was he getting out because I was not going through another section nor another vaginal birth so he had to stay put. In the end he was my easiest labour and delivery by far. I figured I was safe to have a 4th since I learned delivery could be okay, 4th was posterior with horrid back labour and born in an ambulance while I tried to hold her in. I think she would have been easy had I been in a hospital rather than a moving vehicle but it is what it is. That aspect of having kids makes me glad that I am not likely ever to have another baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawthorne44 Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 You've got this!! I usually get induced and whenever we get to the hospital I want to run the other way! Once in the hospital room I keep telling my husband "I don't want to do this! I can't do this! What were we thinking!!" Lol. Too much pain, fear of the unknown and strangers touching me! Yeah, DD was induced because I have some internal scar tissue that would make C-section dangerous. (Things aren't where they are supposed to be) After they tried twice, I was like "That's OK, I'll just go home" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MicheleinMN Posted July 25, 2014 Share Posted July 25, 2014 Looking for an update! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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