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    Scrapbooking, Cross stitch, Cake Decorating, Crocheting, learning to knit and sew, Love to read
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  1. Hi!  I saw an old thread with your comment on it and I was wondering how you are doing! Miss seeing You! What's up?

  2. I am still working on my weight loss. It is a very very slow journey as I have adrenal crap going on that makes it feel impossible at times. That said I have been making progress gaining muscle and strength, so my composition is changing more than my actual weight. I have learned I can not go too low carb or I become murderous haha and can't control my temper. So low carb is okay but atkins, whole30, keto etc are not a good fit for me. I am just starting to look at tracking macros and think that will be my best bet in addition to the exercise I do.
  3. Um she is 5, she can be sad all she wants, as the parent it is up to you to protect her and make the big decisions, such as when to start homeschooling. Outside of the bullying issue, no way would I have my kids in a school run by a crazy person.
  4. Now that my email has blown up with notifications from this thread I decided to pop over to the hive and check with everyone :) Hey everyone, long time no see :) Love what you have done with the place haha
  5. If your period is not due until the weekend you would not be experiencing pregnancy symptoms yet. You would only be implanting around now an most people would not even consider the likelyhood they ,may be pregnant at this point. Chances are it is simply hormones and pms causing your "symptoms". Have the glass of wine and relax. As for the connection between drinking and adhd etc, I have 4 with adhd and never drank during pg, rarely drink at all (3 glasses of wine per year at most). As well, I do not believe for 1 second that a glass of wine with dinner is going to affect a blastocyst that may have implanted a couple days before the dinner party. Give me a break. We may as well put a ban on drinking for all sexual women of childbearing age, (looking back I see others have said this too). Enjoy the dinner party with your husband, pee on a stick on Sunday and then come back and tell us what it says. Or by one of those early first response tests and pee on it on Wednesday am and decide based on that if you want a drink with dinner.
  6. Okay totally an aside but I use mom lectures (and teacher lectures at work) as a "threat". So at work for example today I had a couple young girls breaking the rules, I looked at them and told them they needed to make an immediate decision. They could follow the rules and show me they do in fact know them or I could break out one of my handy-dandy lectures and talk nonstop until I felt they knew the rules. They both broke out into giggles and chose to the follow the rules minus the lecture. With my own kids if I see a conversation heading towards disaster due to the actions of one, so lets say son is wanting to blame everyone around him for why his life is apparently in shambles rather than correcting his own actions and part of the problem, I will give him the option to either stop speaking, take the time to think and come back when ready for a civil conversation or I can break out into a lecture about being in charge of your own actions, they tend to choose option 1 lol So mom lectures do in fact work....without having to actually state them (though I have in fact given my fair share of them over the years for the kids to know exactly how long I can beat a dead horse lol)
  7. In my home "I statements" are the best way to talk to my teens "I hear you saying...", "I am feeling..." Everything focused on the I, reason being as soon as a conversation turns to a you statement "you need to..." people get defensive and shut down. When I read the example of the conversation I can see why your teen is not feeling heard. So you agreed that X is undervaluing him, why carry on from there? Is it not enough to say "That sounds really frustrating when someone undervalues you." period. When someone is feeling frustrated with a situation they are looking to feel heard and validated not told how the other person is important too and to basically suck it up. Those might be the truths of the situation but in that moment not at all what your teen needs. You could expand and say "would you like some help brainstorming ideas of how to fix that?", "How can I help?" etc. Most likely your teen already knows the other truths you mentioned but in that moment just needs to vent, decompress, whatever and be truly heard. Another bit, about the labelling things as being entitled etc. Would it be okay for him to name call you or others for that matter? I doubt it. So why is it okay to name call him? How does that add to the conversation? Instead of saying he is sounding entitled, why not stick with "I can not make that work in my budget/time whatever right now, if that is important to you why don't we figure out how you can make it happen" and then make some suggestions of ways he can earn the money needed, or carve out time needed if that was the case etc. He may very well be behaving in an entitled way BUT what purpose does it serve to label it/him in that moment? I know my mother labelled me that way a few times as a teen because I asked for something over and above what she had intended. I labelled her right back in my head as a b*tch. It is so much easier and more conducive to keeping dialogue open to offer to be a sounding board for their ideas than to shut them down and label things and then get mad when they shut down and get defensive. If the issue comes of of rude tone from teen then I simply tell them it is not okay to speak to me in that way, and when they are ready to try again with an appropriate tone I would be here. The same as I would hope any person out there would do if someone was speaking rudely to them. At any rate, I feel your teen has a valid point about how he is feeling the conversations are going and while his perceptions of your motives are not correct, his reasoning behind feeling that way has merit.
  8. Couple of thoughts as I read the thread, to me while the threat was over the top I do not think it warranted a note home, a reminder to the boy of appropriate words to be used at school by the teacher should have been enough. As well, he is a young child who is saying ridiculous things, even if he says rude things regularly that means he says rude things not that he is a terrible child.Third, I see so often in my line of work so many people crying bully when the behaviour is simply rude or mean. Pushing into a mud puddle is mean but not bullying, saying what he did is rude but not bullying. Bullying is not just intent to do harm, it is someone intending to do harm through the repeated and consistent targeting of someone. This child may have undiagnosed issues, he may simply be a child who needs more supports and guidance in prosocial behaviours, or he may be a child being raised in a home where rude behaviours are the norm. In the end he is still a child that needs to be actively taught appropriate behaviours and not be labelled as a trouble maker, bully, etc at only 5 yrs old. A child already clearly hated by family will not care if they learn the proper behaviours because they are already labelled in a negative way.
  9. I'll pop you a pm in a moment. I have been with several different boards over the years for different reasons and currently thinking ahead to next year if I want to stay with the board we are with or switch again.
  10. Big hugs. If it helps ease your mind about the other kids, just because it is congenital (there from birth), does not mean there is any high risk for your other kids. Most likely you and them are just fine, it just happens sometimes. Hope you gets some good answers from the cardiologist.
  11. In my house it never ends, my 18 yr old doesn't play it much though he never did. My 13 yr old loves his lego. I play lego with them or at work with the kids because I enjoy it, I never got to play legos as a kid, my folks would only buy it for my brother because he was a boy, us girls got dolls and tea sets. My brother still buys himself lego sets from time to time, and he is 33.
  12. Absolutely not, and if they do that they are unfit to be your doctor. Mental illness needs to be evaluated for by a mental health professional.It takes more than just a single visit as well. A proper Dx especially for something as complex as bipolar needs a lot of evaluation. If the person is in acute crisis then taking them to the hospital for admission and evaluation is the best bet.
  13. meh, may not be the same choices I would make but not my kid, not my decision. I have never seen that movie one the first one for that matter but also don't overly worry about movie choices. Youngest went to dead pool in theatre, and I know many would not have taken their kids to that one. She has also seen the movies my teens enjoy on dvd (they are into movies I would not normally watch that have lots of gore etc). If if bothers her she can hang out in a different room like I do. While the parent did not make the same decision I would that does not make it poor parenting or wrong, it just makes it different. Different families have different values, concerns and censor different things. That does not make one more right than the other.
  14. Dd17 got gold for each of her dancea today. My folks came out to see her and decided to buy me off...lol I jest but really when I am very angry at them they buy me things. Today is a hotel rooom for the night, dinner for me and the kids and gas money for going home again tomorrow. Which is awesome and saves us driving an hour to the city tonight and then back at 7 am tomorrow (this place is 2houra from home). Just at the pizza place now getting dinner for the crew while my folks entertain my youmgest 2at the hotel. They will hit the road back home as soon as I get back.
  15. Start of dd17s second dance festival of the season (and second last of her life) tomorro; an she went to bed with a migraine tonight. Hoping it is gone with no post migraine fatigue. Tomorrow she has her solo and tap group piece, Sunday is contemporary, ballet and hip hop.
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