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  1. I’m so sorry that happened! One of my sons and one of my daughters have to avoid stevia, which is in the one brand I’m thinking of. Well, ds hasn’t tried stevia afaik, but he reacts to monk fruit and, since dd reacts to both, I just keep him away from it, too. Hope you’re recovering well!
  2. My ancestors (and maybe Farrar’s) were the people who “bought” northern NJ. It’s super weird.
  3. Could it be Harlem? ‘Cuz we could be related. If not by old blood, by history.
  4. Starting early is key. The first example that came to my mind was spelling/reading. My kids were always asking me to spell words for them from the time they began to write letters and grasp phonics. “How do you spell bug?” “How do you THINK you spell bug?” “I don’t know.” “Well, what sound does it start with?” “Buh. Buh. B!” (Added the ‘uh’ for clarity, not for phonetic teaching, lol.). “Right! You knew it! What sound comes next?” Etc. Did the same basic steps to walk my 20yo through a professional issue the other day. She automatically knew where I was headed in the conversation and was annoyed by it, but she made her own plan with my annoying prompts to use her own brain and then successfully took care of it the next day. It was the first time she needed direct nudging in a long while, but it was like “recharging” her brain out of its funk. I didn’t solve her problem for her, but reminded her of her ability to solve it for herself. And yes, this has had to be adjusted for each of my 5 kids’ different circumstances over the years, but always the same principle from the get go. Even as crying infants, “Uh oh! What do we need? A toy? A diaper? A walk? Let’s see… That did it!” Maybe as someone who has always talked to herself it just came naturally to me, lol.
  5. Awesome, thanks! Our lowest forecast is for 26*, but daytime will be 40+.
  6. My lilac (planted last year) has buds, but we’re gearing up for below freezing temps at night for a full week. What’s your favorite protection in this situation? I’m a perennial newbie, so I haven’t faced this issue before.
  7. Things already listed plus, CPR/AED/basic first aid. Pet care (for responsibility more than the actual tasks. Basic money management What to do in a basic emergency, like power outage. We don’t focus a lot on car care because I always just pay people to do what needs to be done. My daughter decided doing it herself was a priority, so she learned. Her $1,500 car bought in 2020 is still going strong!
  8. I am a “figured it out” person, even though I HATED it as a kid. As a parent, I’m a “What do you think you should/need to do?” person. I want them building their figure it out skills. I’m here if they flounder. Lockers always came with instructions on the slip of paper with the combo when I was in school. And they’re on the packaging for separate padlocks.
  9. But, when it comes to adults at least, surely they’ve seen news stories about people who have done all of these things, no? Obviously that isn’t enough. I mean, people still drink and drive and I can’t imagine anyone of driving age, at least in the US, who hasn’t heard about deaths and license revoking. “It won’t happen to me.”
  10. Another kayaker today! Didn’t know how to swim and no life jacket. And it snowed Sunday, just to give an idea of how cold the water still is here.
  11. Totally my fault, but my greenhouse is now IN my garden and plastic panels everywhere. It’s currently still too windy to try to secure it better than what it’s already caught up on. 😞
  12. Underdeveloped frontal lobes get some leeway, imo. And I’m not opposed to some degree of risk taking, just to be clear. Skydivers, skiers, ATV riders (where they are supposed to be) etc. make some degree of adventurous sense. Accidents are bound to happen, and everyone knows it. I don’t like it when people recklessly put others in harm’s way to save their butts (or, sometimes, to retrieve their remains.)
  13. I just don’t get it. A group of low-experience vacationers goes out into the marshy woods on a forecasted cold, rainy day. This results in many people conducting a search in the dark, cold, rainy, marshy woods with a feels-like temperature in the 20s. For hours. Like, why?!? Where are the brains? In the same vein, don’t go out on a kayak during a PA winter without a life jacket and swimming skills. Or even with. And definitely don’t complain about response time in the middle of nowhere with volunteers only and on a holiday. Also, don’t get drunk and argue with bears. Or store flammable items near baseboard heaters. I needed a good vent this morning.
  14. In many places, you’re required to show income of 3x rent, so they (general) may not even be able to get into a small 2br apartment.
  15. Okay, that was my question. I’m not personally familiar with such areas. I guess I’m aware of places like, say, Detroit, but I don’t know much. From what I can see, it seems there needs to be a big public/private joint mission to make a few square miles both affordable and accessible. You can’t attract low-to-moderate (or higher) income earners without infrastructure in place, but the infrastructure isn’t economically sustainable until you attract people to the area. Entities need to be willing to take the risk.
  16. Which areas of the US have 5 mile long tracts of land that are ecologically buildable and not currently in use? In my own immediate area, the largest unused but buildable lot is just shy of 40 acres. FWIW, if my EMTs can work on people inside of crushed cars and inside of animal hordes trailers, I think they could handle a tiny house just fine.
  17. I’m not inside that club, so I can only extrapolate from limited observation. The remaining adult sibling, who had always been in a codependent relationship with the NP, ended up in a very tumultuous (and still codependent) dynamic with them, much like we see in an emotionally abusive romantic relationship that seems impossible to exit. I don’t know what that looks like today, but it was bad a few years back. Like, court orders issued due to grandchildren involved. But that’s just 1 anecdote in the world of NP stories, and involves a whole slew of mental health issues all the way around.
  18. Quoting not to address the specific scenario given, but a jumping point. The majority of the land area in my township is owned by the conservation district and another government entity for supplying water to other areas. This is frustrating to our local government because it restricts our tax base. BUT, a large portion of that land is unbuildable, and the area around it would negatively impact those wetlands if built up. Anyway, I’m just saying I support building more affordable housing, but not all raw land can be considered for that purpose. We know enough now that we shouldn’t be bulldozing giant swaths for large houses on postage stamp lots, but some places allow it anyway. It’d be cool to see some quaint apartments go up instead of more strip malls or warehouses. Or a tract of 20 moderate homes on a half acre each rather than 10 expensive houses on an acre each. (Typical lot sizes for my area, to accommodate septic and well.)
  19. If they have access to a new scapegoat, sure. But there can still be an obsession with the old one. In my experience, the scapegoat and golden child were interchangeable depending on who met the criteria at the time. So GCs should watch their backs. Well, assuming a GC who acknowledges the problem.
  20. Nothing definitive. Dh spoke to a human at Chase. They said they have no record of a loan with them, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t referencing a loan elsewhere. Also, we “wouldn’t be” getting their Credit Journey communications if we didn’t have an account with them… and we don’t have any open accounts with them. They said it looks legit to them but sounds like phishing. ?!? So still waiting on dh’s full credit report! The main reason this freaks me out is b/c I have an evil MIL whose address once showed up on my mortgage account. No one ever got to the bottom of it for us. (They did remove it after many months, but wouldn’t tell us how it could get there.) She’s evil enough to steal her son’s identity.
  21. They aren’t the *whole* problem, that’s for sure. But like anything else, there is a domino effect. My neighborhood (like an HOA) prohibits STRs. My old neighborhood (also like an HOA) basically encourages them. Their home prices and availability still impact the prices and availability over here when it comes to non-STR buyers.
  22. It’s a valid question, but it’s one that was asked and answered in the 40s/50s. Should the answer be different today? Of course, at the time, it was mainly geared towards white families, so it has to be different in that aspect. But it was also geared toward everyday workers with single income households, so that’d be nice to uphold.
  23. Well, it’s definitely an American thing (not saying only an American thing) that mental health care is difficult to obtain, expensive, and varies widely in quality, which is more likely to be the issue in the given scenario than rights. I do happen to be an American that (semi-privately) stomps my feet about the restrictions that are put on my property. I acknowledge that I was aware of them before moving here. They still tick me off. But I do believe my rights end where the next person’s health, safety, and sanity begin, which can mean not doing certain things on my property.
  24. For me, it’s really hard to address those gray area questions ahead of bigger (to me) issues. I loved utilizing home rental companies for taking family reunion vacations. We usually went down the (NJ, obviously) shore or secluded “cabins” in the woods. Perfect (imo) rental locations. Now there are a ton of strs in my residential area. They’ve driven up prices and basically ruined neighborhood dynamics. I don’t really affix quantitative elements to “too big/too much”. Qualitative, definitely. We shouldn’t exploit workers or extort customers. We should protect the planet. We shouldn’t be able to buy politicians. We shouldn’t have greater tax benefits for millionaires than we do the impoverished. I have a house getting listed soon. I have zero interest in making even more money off of it as a str. But I have little control over whether it will be purchased by someone who does, and that worries me for my neighbors’ sake.
  25. @bolt. This is the English Muffin recipe I use. I do add a bit more flour until it feels right to me. I have to bake another batch today! https://preppykitchen.com/english-muffins/
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