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    Wife to Steve, Mother to Sacha (1/09) and Ronen (8/13)
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    On a sailboat in the Pacific Ocean (generally in San Diego)
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    Retired litigator turned SAHM turned nursing student

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    On a sailboat in the Pacific Ocean (generally in San Diego)
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    USC football, wine, fiction, travel, horses, fashion, Judaism, sports cars, ink, EDM, feminism, philosophy, board games, and gangsta rap. Not in that order.

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  1. I've had 4 dogs in my life. First, cocker spaniel puppy died of parvo. My idiot parents boarded him too soon when we went on vacay and I guess he didn't seroconvert to his Parvo vaccine, or he didn't have the full series. I don't know the whole story because I was in elementary school, but we were devastated when he died. Second, cocker spaniel lived until my mother finally had him put down at age 18. He was a great dog, but it was time. Third, cocker spaniel you would have sworn was a puppy right up until he got a tumor at age 14. He was an amazingly athletic dog. Thankfully, the cancer took him quickly. He loved to sail with us, so we buried him at sea. Fourth, our current cavalier, who is the sweetest, cutest, laziest dog (that doesn't do a lick of dog things) I have ever met. He has acted like a 10 year old dog from the time he was a pup and sleeps like 20 hours/day. He weighs 12 lbs and snores louder than anyone in our house. The only issue with my last cocker was that he was not good with kids, so we needed a dog that was going to be bomb-proof around kids and easily transportable with our life in the RV and on the boat, so we switched to cavaliers. So far, he doesn't have a murmur and neither do his parents. His relatives are all very healthy, but he was the runt of the litter, so I knew I was taking a chance on him. We used to feed him fresh or frozen raw, but this is the pickiest dog on the planet. He gets bored with whatever I feed him. Currently, he gets a mix of Stella & Chewy's freeze-dried raw chicken patties, Farmina Natural & Delicious Wild Boar Grain Free Kibble, and some Weruva Grandma's Chicken Soup wet to entice him. I don't even want to think about what we spend on his food. Since we mix up his food so much, and buy high quality stuff, I'm not too concerned about deficiencies.
  2. I would have to know more about the background and history of his behavior to really get into it, but query whether he exhibits this kind of passive aggressive behavior regularly to control things. If you ask for X (and it is a reasonable request), he should give you X, not Y. And certainly not Y with a side of guilt for being too emotional about not getting X. All of it could be no big deal (though I tend to agree that this is a boundary issue), or it could be a symptom of something larger. I don't know enough about the relationship to say. Just something to think about.
  3. My husband has always done as much if not more than me (to be honest) in the raising kids department. We absolutely parent differently, but we both parent. I have never given him instructions on how to take care of the kids when I've run off to get a pedicure or whatnot. I just left a bottle of pumped milk or formula, when the kids were babies, and walked out the door. We took turns getting up at night to change diapers or to put babies back to sleep when they cried. He was a champion swaddler. He wiped butts. He still wipes butts. When there wasn't a changing table in the men's room, he would politely knock on the women's bathroom door and announce that he needed to change a diaper. The women never complained. Honestly, if you've got a husband who is, in effect, a babysitter IMO you need to train him better. And if you think that equality in parenting doesn't matter, or that people don't change, yadda yadda, you are really selling yourself (and other women, including any daughters/future daughters in law) short.
  4. Re vaccines: I had my first child around the time that Sears' Vaccine Book was published, so spacing vaccines and worrying about the aluminum load in the standard schedule was all the rage. I consider myself an intelligent person and an excellent researcher, but let's be honest, as an attorney, my background in immunology was just not there. I followed Sears' alternate schedule with my first and thankfully, I live in the first world and benefit from generally good herd immunity, so he survived. Fast forward to my second, more research had been done to address Sears' concerns and to ensure the safety of the standard schedule. I also had my second in Mexico, where they take their vaccines very seriously. He was vaxed on schedule (for free, I might add, thanks to the Mexican healthcare system). I am now in nursing school, have had far more education in immunology, and consider myself a vaccine advocate, as a matter of public health. Re the death penalty: I was strongly in support of the death penalty prior to law school. After becoming a lawyer, and seeing the disparate effects of poverty, untreated mental illness, and systemic racism in our criminal justice system, there is no way in good conscience that I could support the death penalty in our country (and I believe it to be unconstitutional). Re affirmative action: I condemned AA policies in my youth, believing them to inadvertently hurt the people they were trying to help (for a variety of reasons). On balance, I now believe that the benefits of AA programs strongly outweigh the drawbacks (again, for a variety of reasons). Re politics: I was a staunch libertarian in my youth. Like Farrar, my positions have softened over time. I'm now not completely sold that private enterprise is going to be the salvation to every problem and see a much larger role for a responsive government to play. I'm still a government skeptic, in many ways, so I have a hard time finding the right balance philosophically and in practice (in the voting booth). Even though neither party was really a fit, I was a registered Republican my entire life. But, I became so disgusted during the last election that I reregistered and voted as a Dem for the first time.
  5. By the Onion Sea is an excellent suggestion. If you want to study on your own, I have some textbook recs that are commonly used in schools/universities: There is also Russian Step by Step on Amazon that has decent reviews, but I don't know anything about it:
  6. Thank you for the update, but please don't disappear! I am so happy for you. 🙂
  7. These rivalries are serious business. You're either with us or against us. If you're born in LA, they separate us at birth. (I'm a third generation Angeleno, currently in SD because my Canadian husband couldn't handle the west side.)
  8. Yup. Neither of my parents went to college. I went to USC because they were the only school that gave me enough merit money to be able to attend without the help of my parents (who, moronically, had not saved money for college when they had the money to save). I was awarded the highest merit scholarship at USC plus an ROTC scholarship, which made it possible to do all on my own. USC notified me by sending me to a fancy pants dinner at a home in Hidden Hills and gave me a dozen roses -- six cardinal and six gold. At the time, USC wasn't quite the academic powerhouse that it is today, so I eventually transferred out to Claremont McKenna. I was gunning for HYS for law school and CMC sent 25% of its students to law school. It was a good decision, but I don't regret my time at USC at all, and will always bleed cardinal and gold. People love to hate on USC, but the Trojan family is real and it is powerful. Fight on forever!
  9. Exactly. It says right on the accommodations page that these tests are supposed to be done before age 12 or 13, as I recall, precisely to avoid this type of scenario. Someone is being bought off inside to approve these accommodations.
  10. I'll throw in another (even with the caveat that I *love* college football): the extent to which purportedly nonprofessional athletics plays such an enormous role in admissions to selective universities (which are supposed to be places for academic endeavors).
  11. I haven't followed the machinations of college rankings in quite a long while, but there was definitely a period of time where USC had overtaken UCLA. And that was because the UC schools had become so underfunded and overcrowded that people were having a very difficult time graduating in 4 years. You will not find that issue at a place like USC, which is still an enormous research university. I would honestly have major reservations about my kids attending any UC school for those reasons.
  12. Yep, President Sample changed USC for the better. Not like this current batch of ninnies, who all need to be fired. The place is in shambles ATM.
  13. Because, let's call a spade a spade: this is about consolidating and perpetuating class and privilege at any cost. We send PoC to prison for falsifying addresses to attend public school in Atherton so they don't ever get access to that kind of privilege.
  14. USC has become increasingly competitive over the years. It still had much more of the party school reputation when I was there in the early 90s (which is why, despite my undying love of all things Trojan football, I transferred out to attend Claremont McKenna), but has definitely moved up the rankings in the last 20+ years. Especially if you are in Southern California, people go to USC for the powerful alumni network, and that applies to ugrad as well as grad school. So yeah, connections/Daddy's money + crappy grades isn't going to cut it anymore. You need these elaborate schemes to get in.
  15. Man, that list of addresses in the NPR piece: Greenwich, Atherton, Newport Coast, Beverly Hills, New York, Menlo Park, Del Mar. I mean, if you can't legit get your kids into fine schools with those addresses, and the concomitant advantages that come with that kind of privilege, you either have some dumb a**/f**k up kids or you really aren't trying very hard as a parent.
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