PuddleJumper1 Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry you're going through this. Keeping you in prayer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, I am so very sorry. I wish the world made more sense. ((((hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry, that must be incredibly painful. You have been amazing through this entire thing. Deep down, he knows you will still be there for him when (not if) he needs you. Stand strong, mama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Rose, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know there's likely nothing anyone can say that would be helpful. So, I'll just let you know I'll be thinking of you and your son and wishing the best possible outcome for your whole family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: How devastating. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so very sorry. My prayers are with you and your entire family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotSoObvious Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh Rose, I am so sorry. As an adoptive momma, I can only imagine the pain. My hope for you is that he is able to heal and grow and will reach out again as an adult. You've all been through so much. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so very sorry, Rose. My heart breaks for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Oh, Rose. I have no words besides I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Strawberry Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry. I pray for peace in your heart and wisdom for your son. I pray that he feels your love, and comes home to you someday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Ariel Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so very sorry for you! I will keep you in my prayers! :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm another mom with a broken heart for your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I am so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpecialClassical Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Praying for God to comfort your heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane in NC Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 Like others, I hope that over time the young man will see the light. In the meantime, may you and your family find peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 That's awful! I'm sorry for your loss, Rose. I hope someday you're son heals enough to realize what he pushed away and reconnects. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WagsWife Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Rose, I had been following your story with your son, but I must have missed some major posts, the last I had known he was living with your niece. I am SO sorry! I can't imagine the grief you are feeling. It is very sad and scary that your parental rights were thrown away so easily. Lots of prayers going up for you and your son! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 (((Hugs))) I am so sorry. Your memory of signing his adoption papers brought tears to my eyes. Hoping and praying someday he will understand and come home. Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Paperwork and legalities are one thing, but you're still his mother in the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I'm so sorry :( :( :( :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisB Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: How heartbreaking! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I'm so sorry it's turned out this way. <hugs> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gisel_le Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug:I'm so sorry. Y'all have been through so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: There is nothing to say, just :grouphug: and I'm in tears for you and your family. I still hope that someday he really understands how much you love him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 My heart goes out to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EndOfOrdinary Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I was a 16 year old who moved out of my parent's house against their wishes and did not speak with them for 2 full years. Relations were very spotty for the years of 18-20. At 20 I became pregnant and decided I needed to try and mend my family issues. At 30, I now have a fairly normal relationship with my father. My mother and I are attempting. All this to say, quite a few things can change from 16 onward. Sometimes people need space to grow up - both the parents and the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I'm so sorry, Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 4, 2014 Author Share Posted May 4, 2014 I was a 16 year old who moved out of my parent's house against their wishes and did not speak with them for 2 full years. Relations were very spotty for the years of 18-20. At 20 I became pregnant and decided I needed to try and mend my family issues. At 30, I now have a fairly normal relationship with my father. My mother and I are attempting. All this to say, quite a few things can change from 16 onward. Sometimes people need space to grow up - both the parents and the kids. Again, thanks to everyone's kind words. EndofOrdinary, thank you so much for your words of hope. My gut tells me we will see him again. I'm not sure it's going to be soon but I will dream of the day I open the door to see my boy again. I do think he is a boy who needs his space. I took a couple days off work but know I have to unstuck myself from this funk, for the sake of the rest of my family and myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I am so, so sorry. What a painful outcome. My heart hurts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I am so very sorry. I will be praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Rose, I am so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I am so sorry. How heartbreaking. I will be praying for you and your family. (Hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2OandE Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I am so sorry. My heart is aching for you. Sending prayers and hugs your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 You know, if it wasn't happening to us I wouldn't believe the things we've experienced. I feel like a made for TV movie. I keep thinking back to all things we could have, should have, would have done differently with our poor broken boy. But we didn't know how broken he was. I am heartbroken for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyLittleWonders Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbollin Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 (((((Hugs)))))) Your love for your family is phenomenal and shines though in your posts. After all he has put you through over the years, many parents would be relieved to finally be free of the anguish that comes from raising a child with RAD. But instead of silently walking away...You keep fighting to keep your family intact! You and your family are wonderful people and seem to have truly unconditional love and the most amazing, forgiving hearts. I really hope your son continues to maintain contact and returns to have a relationship with your family. Try to not beat yourself up with the what-ifs in life. You care so much and seem to have great instincts with your kids, that I am sure you were doing a better job raising him than you are giving yourself credit for. One thing to remember, is that you would have not figured out what was wrong, had you not tried everything you did over the years. Getting the proper diagnosis, care and therapies are all based on figuring out what didn't work....as well as what did work. The fact that he continues to have a bit of contact with your family, shows that there really is a bond there. He is just trying to figure out how to work out the details of that, in the upside down world of how his brain processes needs vs wants. Tons of virtual hugs, positive thoughts and warm wishes of peace for you and yours as you all start to heal from such a very hurtful week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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