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Desert Strawberry

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  1. I don't see this kind of relentless teasing very much. It feels passive aggressive, manipulative and mean. I think these are the same guys who complain about nagging wives and whose wives call them their "3rd child". It feels disrespectful and childish. I'm the joker and teaser and tickler in my family, but we talk a lot about limits, respecting "no", knowing when to stop.
  2. Do you mean physically touching you? Actual poking? I don't think I know anyone who does that. I sure wouldn't ignore it.
  3. We are big legume eaters. I make a wide variety of bean/pea/lentil porridges. If you use a mirepoix, salt and pepper, you don't need broth. I cook my beans in a crockpot (I have two) and freeze as mentioned above. My current pots are slow, sometimes having to cook for 24 hours. Planning ahead and having a back up dish handy just in case ( somebody unplugged the pot, bumped the knob, forgot to turn it on, put it on the wrong setting). My family loves cajun red beans and rice (no sausage), Cajun white beans and rice (no sausage), Homemade refried beans ( nothing like the canned) with Mexican rice, bean burritos, and Our tacos usually have well seasoned pintos or black beans. Pureed white beans with a spoonful of mayo makes a good base for creamy dips, healthy cookie dough and brownie dips. Sweet bean concoctions are usually made with chickpeas, but that tastes like hummus with sugar to me. White beans are more neutral. My best advice is to season like crazy. Bland beans are so boring. Try a variety of Cajun, Mexican, Indian, Greek, Southwestern, etc seasonings and see what your family likes. Adding different flavors help a lot with boredom. I can cook bean every day, and everyone will happy as long as it takes many forms. Tonight we're having a coleslaw pasta salad with white beans and corn. Later this week we'll have burritos.
  4. I have found that it was really helpful to my boys to explain that it's not that everyone else is suddenly horribly irritating and trying to annoy them. It's that the hormones that make them grow -and the growing itself- makes them more irritable and sensitive. They were really unaware of that. Knowing it was actually them helped them to take better care of themselves, be kinder and more forgiving to their siblings, and to have a bit more perspective.
  5. I had this exact experience when I first joined Facebook. I was in my early 30s, married for around a decade, we owned our house, had 3 kids, etc. Everyone I knew from high school was partying, "finding themselves", figuring out what they wanted to do with lives, thinking about maybe settling down someday, or not. It was weird. I felt like I was in a time warp. I was stressing over paying for medicine for a sick baby, housekeeping, homeschooling, pediatrician visits, grocery prices. Just completely different lives. Different stages of life. I can't say that I was at all envious, just really, really shocked. Where we were living, I was a bit behind the curve, not having married and had my first child until 25, while most people had started much younger. We were firmly in the home school community, devoting our lives to home and family. The idea of not having that was super disorienting. In the next few years, everyone found a partner, had a kid or two, settled down, and then we were kind of all in the same place in life. We just arrived at different times.
  6. Luna is 3.5. She has her speech therapy at the local public school. Last year she went to the regular elementary school. She was the youngest child receiving services there. There is a developmental preschool where she could receive OT and PT as well. This year she will be receiving group sessions at the preschool with another 3yo girl. I take her once a week for a 45 minute session. Our other option was to enroll her full time in Head Start, which is not something we wanted to do. My 9yo also received speech therapy at a public school at age 3. Similar arrangement, shorter sessions. Would it be possible for you, your dh and the nanny to continue the arrangement you have now, with one of you taking him to the school for therapies? Is there a developmental Preschool ( or regular public preschool) that he could attend? It sounds like you are not happy with the requirements of Head start.
  7. Yes. In general, parents do clean up after their children here.
  8. Oh yeah. I love them. I like to do each one for 3-6 months, then switch to something else. We have done: Kidstir Ipsy Dollar Shave Club Harry's Graze Degusta Lucha Loot Pin Culture Field to Cup Desert Box Tampon Tribe Lip Service Facetory Currently waiting for : Food With Love Birchbox If you haven't yet, check out and
  9. It's supposed to be fun. A little party. We haven't done it in a while, but I think we will start up again when the weather cools. I do most of the reading. They can read if they like. They like to recite, so that is also welcome. We only do it once a month or so, though we have tea nearly every day in the winter. A little treat-cakes, or chocolates, or finger sandwiches. A fancy tea. A few fun poetry books from the library. I think it's important to remember that the point is not to MAKE them do anything, but to give them the opportunity to enjoy a fancy little party with fancy little words, and fancy little manners. We like to finish up with a little painting after we've cleared the dishes. poetry inspires art.
  10. I'm only early 40s, but in the past year, I've really managed to perk up my appearance. I went to Sephora, cried a little, and asked for help. A very young girl was super patient and helpful in choosing a good skin care routine and products that work for me. I had neglected myself for so long, and moved to a different climate, I had no idea where to begin. I signed up for Ipsy. A monthly box with about 5 new products to try based on my preferences (I make up my eyes and lips, but nothing on my skin). I learned how to use each product. Many were things I didn't even know about. I love highlighter. I never would have tried it if it hadn't come in the mail. I only did it for 3 months, stopped, and used up what I had, learned what I liked and didn't. I'm thinking about signing up for another subscription ( maybe birchbox this time) because the subscription is so much cheaper than buying the products outright and I really enjoy receiving surprises. I regret cutting my hair, but I am happy that I found a good stylist and learned how to care for my hair in this climate. Cleaning up my diet, getting a handle on my emotional over-eating, learning about portion sizes, and actually following them has helped my appearance and my health. I have so much more energy, less swelling, less joint pain, fewer injuries, and better mobility. I can be more active with less pain and fatigue. My clothes fit better and I feel better about myself. Making sleep a priority might be the biggest thing. I go to bed early. Before my older kids. After having Luna. I lived in constant fatigue and sleep deprivation, first from her needs, and then trying to get some peace and quiet while my kids stayed up later and later. Now we all go to bed earlier, get up at a decent hour, and everyone feels better.
  11. I like to think I make up for being socially inept by being loving, fun, welcoming, and relaxed. If the house is at a normal level of clean, and the fridge isn't completely empty, and if you can slap together some extra blankets and pillows if you need to ( I doubt you will), you're all ready.
  12. I did a drug trial, years ago, before marriage and kids. It didn't work, and I had a bad reaction, but it was well worth and one of my three treatments did work. It was a low risk trial and super worth it. I'd do another one in a heartbeat. I think at this stage, you don't have a truly definitive diagnosis yet? So you can't say for sure that you would be eligible or that it would work, if I'm reading correctly? If that's right, obviously, you have to wait until you know for sure? If you are eligible and the other treatments are not working, by all means do it. I can't tell you what to do, but in your shoes I would absolutely do it. Yes. It's a chance worth taking IMO.
  13. Luna has this diagnosis. Tentatively. We don't know yet if she will level off as she gets older. She has possible atypical Prader-Willi. Some symptoms are low weight gain, FTT followed by insatiable hunger after age two. She's 3.5 and not overweight yet, but her growth curve is skyrocketing. Officially, though, she just normal and healthy. I think the only reason we have this sort-of diagnosis is because she had a lot of other developmental problems as well. I'm sure there are other factors at play. But if his medical care was in fact neglected as Scarlet has said, and his parents are pretty uninvolved/not advocating for him, then I doubt he would have a diagnosis. Though, in my experience, emotional/ psychological health is a much more common factor in obesity than physical health conditions, Scarlet has said that all aggravating conditions have been ruled out and essentially this is a matter of choices. Which I tend to think is true. But to be that overweight (and I am close) there has to be some disordered thinking somewhere. Especially if he has been given sound nutritional advice and is just not interested in following it, or able to control binge behavior.
  14. Well crud. I've been waving to all my neighbors. Most of them wave back ( not all). Now I wonder if they think we're friends or something.
  15. This thread has me a little teary, with a tightness in my chest. I would not be able to handle living in such a cold, unfriendly environment. I'm a warm, chatty person. I'd feel like the OP for sure. In our small town south of Phoenix, people are super friendly, Everyone knows everyone, their family, and all their business. But I've been struggling a bit building a friend network, because while people are generally pleasant enough, ( and my friends are all midwesterners), my husband pointed out that no one goes out of their way to make you comfortable like in Louisiana. And I suppose the same was true in Cali. There are levels of friendliness, and I think we all need a certain amount.
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