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Ravin last won the day on October 20 2016

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  1. I like designated seats, because it makes it easy to ensure a group can sit together even on opening night without waiting in line for 12+ hours. That said, I wouldn't go to a theater anymore unless I was doing it as a group activity. My couch is more comfortable!
  2. This sounds like an executive function deficit masking strategy. A very familiar one as I used it a lot as a kid and see DD do it too.
  3. PeachyDoodle, I get that the behavior and the privilege are connected. But, what about the underlying reason for the behavior? One thing I have found with my daughter's issues is that reason-based consequences aren't going to have the desired effect on behavior stemming from emotional disorder. If she will go through the process of internalizing the consequence and guilt and still be unable to change her behavior, then she may need more help with the behavior than 'natural consequences." That's not to say you should cave and change your mind about the consequence. Rather, could you sit down with her and help her come up with a plan to improve things? Would she be open to that (once she calms down after the bad news)? Such a plan is most likely to succeed if it's her idea and she has help making it happen.
  4. If he needs to bring in income for the summer, he needs to get over himself. I graduated from law school in May 2015. The bar exam was near the end of July. When none of the clerkships I applied for panned out, I applied at the Walmart where I'd worked before starting law school (and during the first summer of law school while also doing an externship), and spent the summer stocking shelves (my bar review course was online). We needed the money--any money. I was also job hunting for a career related job, which I found and started in August. I worked at Walmart right up through the weekend before starting my attorney position. He's probably too late for hiring deadlines for things like summer camps. There are plenty of gig jobs around--he has a car, he could drive Uber or Lyft, UberEats, be a Shipt shopper, etc.
  5. seemesew, Moving to a better paying school district is definitely going to be the simplest thing to do. Another option might be for you to look into career options for yourself. I realize that's easier said than done when you are up to your ears in homeschooling 5 kids, but it's entirely possible to find a part-time career that's worthwhile and balance it with home responsibilities, especially if both you and your husband were on board with the idea. I know it's a bit off topic of what you asked. That said, I don't think a second career in law is a crazy idea. He'd probably have to be willing to rack up student loans and you'd have to live on them for a few years, but the long-term salary outlook would weigh in favor of it, especially with income-based repayment options and so forth. I went to law school with several former teachers who were pursuing a second career--some in education law, some with no plans to tie their law careers back to their teaching experience.
  6. Justice. They have juniors sizes up to, like, 23 I think.
  7. Eh. Tattoos are one way of signifying memories. She could add on to it, cover it, or just get a new tattoo when/if she's in another relationship. I haven't gotten "Daddy's girl" covered on my ankle yet even though my dad and I do not see eye to eye AT ALL and I transitioned, but I don't regret the tattoo even though it's kind of complicated and problematic now. I might eventually cover the "girl" part for safety reasons though. Maybe with his birth/death dates after he dies. I just thought of that...mostly I don't think about my tattoos and forget they are there except to make sure I get them when I slather on sunscreen.
  8. I have seven tattoos: Back: a raven and an owl Right upper arm: eagle with American flag right ankle: spider right ankle/lower calf (above the spider): butterfly with image of a tiger in its wings left ankle: rose; says "Daddy's girl." left breast area (above and towards midline from nipple): valknot I got them all while I was in the Navy, though I've thought about getting others. The raven, owl, rose, valknot, and spider were all done in Orlando, the butterfly and Eagle on Saipan, iirc,
  9. See, this is part of why I can honestly say the Navy helped prepare me for parenthood. Sleeping in a room with a bunch of people I don't know well doesn't phase me. And wrangling 9 yo girls is much easier than wrangling junior sailors. I totally get doing things that aren't your cup of tea so that the kids will have fun. (A GS Council Tea Party I attended with DD comes to mind). Your DD won't remember that you hated every minute of it. She will remember that you were there. And that's important. Good for you!
  10. We enjoy tent camping, and have been enjoying camping with our Cub Scout Pack and Girl Scout Troop the last year and a half. DD sleeps on a cot, DS and I are fine on mats. However, next time we go up into the pines, I want to take a hammock and see how that is! My favorite thing is that everyone has to unplug for a while.
  11. I will raise an eyebrow at the lack of jail time. However, 10 years of probation is, as a practical matter, a whole lot of rope to hang himself with. He will face revocation proceedings and probably more serious consequences for ANY offense, and in many states any probation violation resets the registry clock as well, even if it's not a sex offense. The purpose of sex offender registry is supposed to be to protect the public, not to punish offenders, and so should be evidence-based on the individual's recidivism risk. The lower level registration appears, from my understanding of criminal justice research on recidivism plus what I know of the case from the news, to be evidence-based and targeted. Odds are, if he doesn't re-offend in the next decade, he's not likely to at all. People do change. Not all types of sex offenders are at high risk of re-offending.
  12. You could scan them first.
  13. I don't watch any TV that involves "personalities." I get my news from NPR and stick to scripted television for the most part (and not even much of that these days). Every now and then I'll binge watch a home improvement or reality show that catches my attention, but not if the people in them annoy me.
  14. Take him to the ER. When my DD escalating to "has a plan" and disclosed it to her therapist, she gave us two options: have the county MH crisis team come in, or take DD to an ER. We chose to go to the ER at the children's hospital because that hospital is familiar to DD and she was more comfortable with that option. We were advised on a safety plan and told to get her in to her regular psychiatrist ASAP. The next week, our totally awesome PNP then made an adjustment to her meds and she's doing much better. An ER visit should trigger referrals, if it's documented that you reported the escalation to a plan and the psychiatrist isn't taking suicidal ideation seriously. Counseling along with meds IS a good idea, fwiw. But if a kid is on meds and escalating suicidality, those meds in my experience need changed/adjusted.
  15. My DD has a mood disorder, and we have had to be careful about what ADHD meds she takes. Some are flat-out not good options when there are other issues. She has also always taken them along with other psych meds. Currently she takes focalin, which works well for her, and she's on 3 other meds for anxiety/mood. My younger brother who is adopted (and drug-exposed in utero to meth) has ADHD with rage issues, but has been doing very well with the right other psych med put together with the ADHD medication. At the eval, be honest, make sure they get a very complete history, and hopefully they can help you find some better solutions!
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