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Ravin last won the day on October 20 2016

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  1. So far today I've whacked the weeds in 2/3 of the backyard (that's as far as I got before the second battery for the weed whacker/lawnmower died), watered the garden, mailed DD her winter coat, and got a shower. Time for lunch!
  2. My mom didn't speak to my grandma the last few years of grandma's life because grandma had this nasty double standard of ignoring the adopted kids. I don't know what the right answer is, but I don't envy you the balancing act.
  3. In a nutshell: Not great. But it's entirely beyond my control at this point, so I just give her what reasonable help she'll accept and try not to dwell on it.
  4. I deliberately respondent to an old thread I'd started to give an update. It's not a zombie thread so much as a resurrected thread.
  5. I'm just now realizing how much I missed these threads! My big task for today was to work on cleaning/packing DD's room. I'm driving up to MT to take her stuff to her in a couple of weeks, and whatever she hasn't asked me to bring is going into storage so we can repurpose her room. I've gone through all but one box and three drawers of miscellaneous stuff in the room, filled another bag with trash, and done several more loads of laundry. The plastic cubbies her clothes go in have been washed down and filled with clean clothes (all her clothes were on the floor and dirty and/or dusted with glitter, whether they'd been worn or not). I've got things sorted into categories, including "clothes"-all going "shoes"-all going "books" -all going "craft, art, and scrapbooking stuff"-all going "mathoms wrapped in bubble tape" -all going "unrequested mathoms" -all in boxes/bins in the closet that will be repacked for storage later. "personal care, beauty, and pharmacy items" -all going. "linens" -all going. "kitchen stuff" -all going "outdoor stuff" -all going (this box is already staged in the garage to load in the truck, along with the box of her Christmas decorations).
  6. I knew from years ahead of time that DD was probably not college bound. I have followed her lead and tried to ensure she had and has the needed tools to pursue her chosen path, whatever it is. Right now, it's living far away from us while trying to figure out how to hold down a job and pay rent. At some point, it might include college and/or some kind of post-high school vocational training. We have tried to make sure she knows she has options. DS is probably college bound, but kind of young for us to worry too much about it. His current online charter is affiliated with a university so if he sticks with it through high school, there will be dual enrollment opportunities. If instead he decides to go to the local high school, there are dual enrollment opportunities with the local community college. Beyond that, we'll scope out that bridge when it's closer on the horizon.
  7. Thought I'd give an update. He's as much an introvert as ever, though still overall an agreeable kid. He's been schooling online since the pandemic started, we moved, and now his only peer interaction is through the computer. He doesn't seem unhappy, and though he misses his sister, we are all less stressed out since she moved out last month. He does take a Vitamin D supplement now, on his doctor's recommendation after lab work.
  8. My likely-college-bound kid is probably going to have to get there by way of Uncle Sam's Canoe Club (or, if he insists, some other service branch) the way I did. I pray for his continued good health. I should have my own student loans taken care of by the time he graduates high school, at least.
  9. One thing I found interesting from my 23andMe results was that my current weight was accurately predicted by my genetics.
  10. My husband has a disabled parking spot because he can't walk far. He is very obese. He is also, overall, quite healthy aside from his weight and sleep problems that have plagued him since he was in his 20's. He does have one knee that is in bad shape, and causes him pain daily; he uses a cane if he has to walk a distance, but there's not much that can be done about the knee unless he can lose a lot of weight first, and his ability to exercise is limited by the problems with his knee. At one point he got the weight off by fasting and walking miles every day, but it came back when he hit 40 and his hormones shifted a bit (lower testosterone). He does not eat to excess. He eats less than I do by a long shot. He doesn't always use his disabled parking permit, mostly places like on campus at the university where it saves him walking literally kilometers. Most places, if he can find a spot reasonably close he won't bother. He eats very little and the weight doesn't budge. He's looked in to surgery, but even if we could afford it (doubtful as our insurance doesn't cover it), he's been told he's not a good candidate for it. It's very frustrating. Growing up, my mom struggled with weight and health problems, and my father was extremely critical and emotionally abusive about it, even as he continued to smoke despite otherwise making a point of keeping himself very healthy/fit. I very much internalized seeing that as a lesson in what not to do. Would I rather DH be a couple hundred pounds thinner? Yes. But mostly because I don't like that he's in pain and has to deal with the limitations he's dealing with, and because I worry that it could shorten his life. Not because I think he got where he's at through some moral failing. People should own their own hardships in life. But they shouldn't judge others for how they handle theirs, because you never really know the whole story.
  11. Do they post requirements that aren't really necessary for the job? Do they automatically exclude anyone from consideration if they have a felony criminal record? Removing any question about felonies from the initial application could be helpful. Just because someone has committed a felony in the past doesn't mean they're going to be a bad employee in the present. How are they advertising? Maybe they need to broaden the search.
  12. Sounds outrageous to me. My DD's therapist is similarly credentialed, does similar-ish therapy (I think there's a little more substance to it, and we only do biweekly 50-min sessions), and her rate for insurance is $175/session. Because my insurance bites, they won't bill them, so I pay a negotiated self-pay rate, get the detailed bills, and submit to insurance myself as out of network for...eventually...getting some reimbursement.
  13. I think it stems from an unacknowledged sense of inadequacy with respect to the ability to adapt to rapid pace of technological change.
  14. To get DH's prodigious DVD collection to go away, I got on board with assigning space in what would otherwise be my craft room for a server to hold all those movies. Nothing else he has comes close to taking up an excessive amount of space, except books, and being a bibliophile myself, it would be rather pot calling the kettle black to object to his book collection!
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