AbcdeDooDah Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 I just invited all my kids to get together to celebrate my graduation with my AA. Thirty years after I started. I’m pretty darn proud of myself and want to celebrate. Now I feel embarrassed. Dh has not been very supportive of me going back to school and has not planned anything. I feel like when I tell him, he’ll get defensive and ask if he was supposed to plan something. I don’t want to be passive-aggresive, I just want to celebrate. 25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawyer&Mom Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Either plan your own party, or tell Dh exactly what party you want and that you want him to plan it. If he doesn’t get on board, plan your own party. Don’t give him an opportunity to disappoint you on such a wonderful occasion. Nothing cheesy about throwing your own party. 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 (edited) My first response (& I apologize upfront-but..) Darn diddly right I'll be throwing myself a party and if certain persons in my family make a fuss, they can't come. Congratulations to you!!! PS I'd absolutely do it myself so that I can control it. I have passive aggressive people in my life that would love to mess it up. Edited June 4, 2021 by MooCow 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 9 minutes ago, AbcdeDooDah said: I just want to celebrate. If they don't seem excited enough, then go BIGGER!! Take a cruise!! You definitely deserve to celebrate. All the way. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congrats!!! Throw yourself a party. Just invite your husband as a guest, just like your kids are guests. You could just tell him gifts are not required. My husband is not the kind who plans party. He would be happy to eat leftover party food. My husband would think buying a gift is expected unless I tell him otherwise. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations! No, it’s not at all cheesy to throw your own graduation party! Have fun! 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Another vote to GO FOR IT! CONGRATULATIONS!!! You deserve a party!!! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AbcdeDooDah Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 Thanks, everyone! I am going to keep the plans and not feel bad about doing it for myself. 🎉 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations! And great job! No, it's not cheesy to throw your own party. You deserve to celebrate. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations on your accomplishment! You should definitely throw your own party, it's definitely worth celebrating! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Of course you can invite your kids to celebrate with you! Congratulations on your AA! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations! Definitely do something to celebrate your accomplishment! 🙂 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 DO IT! I also graduated with an AA late in life. I went to the ceremony to walk the stage. I felt disappointed about my husband’s behavior, too, because he came for the ceremony with one of my sons but left before the end to make kid’s baseball practice. I came off the stage looking for my people and only my daughter was there because she could drive independently. I felt hurt that he didnt make an exception on sports for something I was so proud of. I felt very minimized. 2 1 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
historically accurate Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations to you! Enjoy your party - you deserve it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Have the party!!! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Definitely have the party!!! Congratulations, too; that's an accomplishment to be proud of for sure! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
history-fan Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations-Give yourself an awesome party-well deserved!!!! And have fun! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 You should totally give a party for yourself! Congratulations! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations!!! Have the party, you deserve it. 🎉 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali in OR Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 This is so worth celebrating. Congratulations, and enjoy your party! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Nope, not cheesy, many congratulations!! and enjoy your party. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AbcdeDooDah Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 6 hours ago, Quill said: DO IT! I also graduated with an AA late in life. I went to the ceremony to walk the stage. I felt disappointed about my husband’s behavior, too, because he came for the ceremony with one of my sons but left before the end to make kid’s baseball practice. I came off the stage looking for my people and only my daughter was there because she could drive independently. I felt hurt that he didnt make an exception on sports for something I was so proud of. I felt very minimized. I’m sorry. I totally get that feeling. After I told him about it last night it went exactly how I thought it would. Oh, well. No ceremony, which feels a little disappointing, but the school is doing an online slide show. I will walk in two years after my BA! 🎉 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations, @AbcdeDooDah! Enjoy your celebration. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinball Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 13 hours ago, AbcdeDooDah said: I just invited all my kids to get together to celebrate my graduation with my AA. Thirty years after I started. I’m pretty darn proud of myself and want to celebrate. Now I feel embarrassed. Dh has not been very supportive of me going back to school and has not planned anything. I feel like when I tell him, he’ll get defensive and ask if he was supposed to plan something. I don’t want to be passive-aggresive, I just want to celebrate. That’s awesome!!! Great job! i think it is fine to throw yourself a party...for any reason, LOL...but it is definitely OK to throw yourself a grad party! i hope you have a wonderful time! if you feel like sharing, what did you get your degree in? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theelfqueen Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 I think it is AWESOME! You deserve to celebrate! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 I agree. Throw yourself a bash. Or, if everyone else is pooing on your big day and putting a damper on the fun, take yourself (just you, yourself) out for a fancy dinner! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AbcdeDooDah Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 23 minutes ago, pinball said: That’s awesome!!! Great job! i think it is fine to throw yourself a party...for any reason, LOL...but it is definitely OK to throw yourself a grad party! i hope you have a wonderful time! if you feel like sharing, what did you get your degree in? Criminal Justice. I want to be a victim advocate. 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinball Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 18 minutes ago, AbcdeDooDah said: Criminal Justice. I want to be a victim advocate. That’s is so cool! im proud of you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippymamato3 Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 (edited) I don't think it could ever be cheesy to invite your kids to celebrate your accomplishments (or anything else.) I bet they are very proud! I hope you are inviting friends too! Edited June 4, 2021 by hippymamato3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congratulations!!! You definitely deserve a celebration. 🎉 Sorry your husband isn't being supportive. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Everybody chant with me: Throw it! Throw it! Throw it! Throw it! Throw it! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Party, of course! If you have party poopers in your life, well, that's their problem. You still get to do it up right, whatever that looks like for you. Go for it! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AbcdeDooDah Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 13 minutes ago, Seasider too said: That’s so interesting! What’s your next step towards achieving this goal? I'm transferring to a 4-year in the fall. I will need to seek out a volunteer opportunity in crisis/advocacy while I work on my BA. Many places hire from their volunteer force, or I can apply to a county court system. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Congrats!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Defensive husbands...ugh...btdt... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted June 5, 2021 Share Posted June 5, 2021 re victim advocacy 19 hours ago, AbcdeDooDah said: Criminal Justice. I want to be a victim advocate. 18 hours ago, AbcdeDooDah said: I'm transferring to a 4-year in the fall. I will need to seek out a volunteer opportunity in crisis/advocacy while I work on my BA. Many places hire from their volunteer force, or I can apply to a county court system. That is WONDERFUL. I'm having a little virtual party over here on your behalf. Well done, and good luck on the next stage of your program. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted June 5, 2021 Share Posted June 5, 2021 I don't think it is cheesy. It is a celebration of a major achievement. I had an incomplete general sciences minor from 33 years ago. I have my B.A. in both music ed and piano performance, and a minor in philosophy, but missed two classes towards completion of the science minor which was my other passion at that time, and still is. So in the summer of 2020, I called my alma mater and talked with them about the possibility of completing it, what it would take, if my credits from way back then would still be counted, etc. Apparently, they were more than happy to take in some tuition and fees! LOL. I thought they would say no. Credits were not an issue since so had graduated with a BA, and had also taught middle school science at some private schools off and on over the years. So we found two online classes that would meet the requirements, I took those (and they even discounted tuition which makes me think that they were lookIng at not filling all their freshman spots for fall and were thinking just get money, any money) and voila, minor was complete. Then I followed up just for fun with two aerospace engineering courses from another university. Holy cow! After years of being out of school and 32 + years since Calc 1, those classes kicked my tush. But, I not only passed, I worked my tail off and earned A's. This was just huge to me. Huge! I wanted to have a party because to me, this was just a really happy, difficult achievement! The pandemic prevented me from having anything remotely close to a party. However, dh made steak and snow crab legs, baked potato, roasted garlicky green beans, and GF cheesecake for me, and one of our collegians was home at the time so I guess we will call it a three person party. As a side note, I am still taking coursework just for fun, just for personal enrichment, and my favorite so far as been a human space exploration and ethics course. I think you should do what makes you happy. This world is a really place a lot of the time, and we have been socially conditioned, we women, to be in constant give mode while downplaying our own achievements and ignoring our own needs. We all need to stop doing to that, and find joy for ourselves. We are healthier members of society when we have more balance in perspective and less worry about what others think. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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