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  1. 1. Would you consider this room a mess

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To me, it’s “normal†messy. My family room looks similar on any given day.

 

ETA: funny, I’m looking around the room and we even have a back roller sitting in the middle of the floor.

 

I voted yes, but I actually feel different about “is this messy?†vs “is this a mess?†To me, the the second statement is stronger. I would say it’s messy, but it’s not a mess. Just to be difficult.

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I vote messy mainly because it looks like someone sleeps on that sofa, and they could have at least folded the blankets!

 

But I can’t imagine that anyone would consider the room to be tidy. It’s definitely “lived-in,†at best. :)

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Things like that give me the heebee jeebies. I cannot have that kind of clutter on the floor and feel good about my space. It would have to be shoved to the sides, stacked, etc. I don't think it's a lot of stuff, it's just the placement.

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I'd have said the first photo looks messy, the third tidy.  I'd say it probably didn't take long to tidy it.

 

But I would not say it looks like a tip.  To me that tends to mean a mess that would be more difficult to tidy, because there is so much and maybe no place to put it, or requires a lot of sorting things.  

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Yes it’s messy. I think that’s obvious.

 

But that doesn’t mean it’s unacceptibly filthy or anything. It looks like a normal lived in house. It’s literally impossible to keep a house 100% clean 100% of the time. Life happens. And that pic shows exactly that. Life happens.

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It's messy (and it looks like my living room), but it's not a disaster.

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Depends how you define "messy."  To me it looks like "today's mess," which is only worth noting if it is still there tomorrow in addition to tomorrow's mess.  :P

 

If I was having company in 5 minutes, I would consider that room messy and clean it up.

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TO add - I'd see that almost as a room in use.  Like, my kids are around playing and such.  Usually I would tidy it at least before supper, and maybe at lunch too.  But if I tried to keep it tidy even when kids are playing around it would seem pointless.

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What's a tip?

 

Like a big industrial garbage can, the kind you put construction waste into, or outside a shop in the alley.

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It would be beyond messy and creeping into disaster range for us. But it's also not to the point that I'd think anything about it in someone else's house. I can't be mentally peaceful in that kind of clutter, but I know it doesn't bother others. So . . . shrug.

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To me it is messy and would give me anxiety being in it. Now, if my kids were young and in the middle of playing some game that required stuff being strewn around, then fine. 

 

But I would be moving the jacket hanging on the door and definitely putting away anything that is not being used right at the moment.

 

And the rug ... its pushed to far into the hearth. That would make my OCD start yelling haha. Although in the "neat" picture it has been removed so maybe it caused someone else too much anxiety too  :laugh:

 

I cannot sit and relax in a messy room. 

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The first photo is definitely messy; I could not function in a house like that.  The second photo is "lived in" but I still couldn't function.  

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I vote messy, but that’s by my standard in my own home. In actuality, if I were a guest in that home it wouldn’t bother me at all and I wouldn’t be thinking, “What a messâ€

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I would be thrilled if my living room was that tidy. I don’t think it is “company ready “ but no, I don’t think that it is messy. I don’t live in a house that looks like a magazine picture.

 

 

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Not reading other replies first.

 

It’s really messy, yes, but could be tidied very quickly. Nothing about that would be out of the ordinary for daily living. I’d be calling a halt and cleanup to that before moving on to other activities but that’s not out of the realm of what would happen with a few hours of playing.

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Like a big industrial garbage can, the kind you put construction waste into, or outside a shop in the alley.

 

In the UK a tip is where the town's rubbish gets taken and piled up - a garbage heap.  The industrial garbage can is a skip.

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Not as messy as my house. :) But yeah, still a little messy. It needs like three minutes of straightening up and then it would be tidy. I would not be uncomfortable if I went to someone's house and it was that level of messy. I would actually feel happy that they were comfortable having me over without needing to make their house perfectly picked up.

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1.  There are things out that could be put up so it is "messy" in that sense.

2.  All of these things could be easily and quickly straightened up even if there was no designated place for them to go so not "messy" in that sense.

3.  All of these things could easily be provided with a designated place because there are not that many things laying about that really need a designated place so this is easy to address.

 

In other words, while the room is a bit messy it is something that could quickly be taken care of, either for that afternoon or with a longer term solution in mind.  This is not hoarder level in any way, shape or form so it would not bother me to have that room in my house one iota.  I could probably have it straight and looking much neater within a few minutes.

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Way too messy for me! But I like a super-clean house AND I don’t have children at home anymore. Just a lap dog and he’s neater than all the people that live here. He has middle class doggy privilege, LOL.

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Messy is a tricky word for me. We usually talk about tidy or untidy and dirty or clean. That room looks clean but untidy in the first picture. Once she tidied up, it looks clean and mostly tidy, though her space isn't sleek or anything. Loose blankets draped on a sofa are always going to look slightly untidy to me. But that's okay - we do things like that here too because we actually live here with kids.

 

None of y'all who think that's horrible should ever come to my house. 

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In the UK a tip is where the rubbish gets taken and piled up - a garbage heap.

 

So what we would call a dump.  No, it's definitely not a dump.  I think some people lack life experience if that makes them think "dump."  :P

 

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For me this is super messy. I couldn’t breath if my living room was so messed up. Other rooms I can close the door and ignore them, but living room has to be tidy if I am to survive a day.

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It is messy but it could be tidied up in five minutes.  My question is more: does it matter?  If it matters to the individuals who live there, then that's their decision, but I don't see any moral imperative to be tidy.  Is the word 'messy' pejorative?

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I think it is messy because it seems those are items that an adult left behind. If the items strewn about were toys, and underneath the child clutter was tidy, I wouldn't think a thing of it.

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It looks like normal messiness from daily living, which could be tidied away in just a few minutes.

My house usually runs this level of messy on a daily basis.

 

I don't love it, but like the original photo poster, no matter what I do it always seems to come back to that state. Like a set point. :p

 

(As I look around: my kitchen is in the middle of a big reno project, and we've reached new levels of messiness. Plastic tacked up, dining set in middle of small living room, tools and such piled everywhere. I long for normal messiness!!)

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The article said that Mom thought it was neither messy nor tidy.  I'd kind of agree with that.

 

It's a lived in room, that would take less than 10 minutes to put in shape.    

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There's normal messes of living (stuff you have out, stuff you didn't find a way to deal with, new stuff coming into your house) and just plain being a slob and not having basic habits. A jacket on the door frame?? Really?? That's being a slob and not having a place to put your coat and making the effort to put it there.

 

I expect messes to happen, new stuff to come into the house, projects to be going, but I also expect people in my house to have basic habits like hang up your coat.

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So, did anyone else read this thread and decide to go tidy up a bit?  Or was it just me?    :blushing:   FWIW, my living room is normally similar to picture 1. 

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It looks a little bit messy but since there’s not a lot of stuff in the room it would take less than 5 minutes to make it tidy.

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So, did anyone else read this thread and decide to go tidy up a bit?  Or was it just me?    :blushing:   FWIW, my living room is normally similar to picture 1. 

 

No. I vowed only to invite relaxed people to my house.  Which I already do so I'm good.  I'm always trying to tidy and declutter and tackle my house but if my house looked like that I would go enjoy my people, play a game, go on a hike, bake something yummy. . .     If I knew someone was coming over I would take the five minutes to tidy to "company ready" levels but if they showed up unannounced then I wouldn't sweat it.  My personal opinion is that life is too short to try to live in a magazine.  But as someone else said, we all have different standards. 

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Yep, that's a mess. I wouldn't care if someone else's house looked like that, but if it was my house, it would make me all antsy. I have zero ability to tolerate clutter and disorder in my own house.

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To me it looks a little messy but nothing terrible and it could be easily tidied. I'm wondering if those on this thread having a panic attack about its terrible mess cope with going to other people's houses or do you just steer clear of them because I would say there are quite a few untidy houses around these days with so many having such busy schedules. 

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In the UK a tip is where the town's rubbish gets taken and piled up - a garbage heap.  The industrial garbage can is a skip.

 

Ah, interesting.

 

I wonder if they are related words.

 

Anyway, I think the sense of a dump is abut the same.

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I personally have no opinion or judgement on other people’s homes, unless they veer into hoarder territory, which I consider a mental health issue.

 

I like a very clean home to live in. I was raised in a clean home and so have many decades of experience. It comes very natural to me. I also would like to point out that one can have a very clean home and still value and enjoy their people.

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There's something discordant? about that room. Even with every item picked up, I think there would still be something jarring about it. With the white, white walls and dark furniture and rug on the floor, it just doesn't feel comfortable. Because of that, every item that is out of place seems wore than it is. I have a throw blanket (or 2) on my couches, but they don't seem as messy. The room just doesn't feel joyful for some reason.

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It’s messy but not disgusting or anything.

 

I wouldn’t be able to leave things like that. It’s not the items on the floor that bother me, maybe because with kids there are almost always things out. It’s the large things draping all over that make it look so cluttered. The jacket on the door, the blanket on the couch (that’s even there in the second picture), socks or scarves on the couches, the blanket on the floor. Those are the things that bug me because they look like they don’t belong in the room and were just dropped there.

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A Mess?  Nah.  Somewhat cluttered, sure.  But cluttered like, "We used this room today."  Not cluttered like, "We don't have enough space for all our STUUUFF!"  If that makes sense.

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I personally have no opinion or judgement on other people’s homes, unless they veer into hoarder territory, which I consider a mental health issue.

 

I like a very clean home to live in. I was raised in a clean home and so have many decades of experience. It comes very natural to me. I also would like to point out that one can have a very clean home and still value and enjoy their people.

 

yeah but just ftr clean is not the opposite of messy 

 

homes can be messy and clean 

 

they can be organized and dirty 

 

fwiw, I was raised by 2 neatfreaks. It didn't take. I can tolerate a pretty significant amount of art and life and creative and pets clutter before I go squirrely. I like it when dh goes all minimalist and starts organizing and clearing stuff but it only lasts like a day or two before the rest of us create a chaos of stuff everywhere.

 

but certainly - I have no judgement of people who manage to create and maintain order in their spaces. It's all good. 

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I personally have no opinion or judgement on other people’s homes, unless they veer into hoarder territory, which I consider a mental health issue.

 

I like a very clean home to live in. I was raised in a clean home and so have many decades of experience. It comes very natural to me. I also would like to point out that one can have a very clean home and still value and enjoy their people.

 

I said that I would feel comfortable leaving it that way to go "enjoy my people" in the sense that I would feel comfortable going out (or in) to do stuff without feeling like I had to clean or tidy first. It was actually just one thing in a list of things I would do.   I never said that people with cleaner homes don't enjoy their people.  Keeping house is important to me - otherwise I wouldn't have a daily tackle list - but it is not something I enjoy.  And for me and MY standards, my "family ready" house is different from my "company ready" house.  That room looks "family ready" to me.  So I would do stuff with my family. 

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