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  1. Not anymore. Our situation just got too complicated with a rental property, dual and contract income, dependent extended family, and a kid in college. The first year (2 years worth plus some back clean up work) it was $1400 or so. This year it’s $455. Worth every penny. I feel lucky that we got out of that transitional year owing $5k.
  2. I think that experience (of ignored abuse, heartened and closed off emotion) is more common among children born of obligation/expectation and not a desire to parent regardless of where or how children are schooled. The absence of eyeballs only affects/can change things for those who have people that care enough to intervene in their orbit. Most of these kids don’t. Reading your description of your ex was triggering.
  3. I have neglected my garden for MONTHS and am trying to dig myself out of a hole. I haven't even cut back the dead growth on my switchgrass. My cabbage never headed (although it looks lovely and big) and now it's bolted b/c our daytime temps are in the 70s. Same for my broccoli and brussels sprouts. My kale, collards, and mustard greens are still ok...for now. Pests are becoming an issue again for the raised beds, not the plants in the ground. I planted some early girl tomatoes and jalapeno peppers already. I put my bush and pole beans in the ground (although no rain in the forecast the soil is still moist). I have volunteer tomato and dill seedlings from things that were left in the beds last year. In the past, I pulled everything out, added compost and mulch but I was lazy. I'm not sure what to expect for yields this year. I've been collecting grounds from Starbucks and will add some additional amendments as top dressing and hope for the best. I tried overwintering eggplant and peppers...we'll see if it works. My lemongrass overwintered, as did my artichoke plant. 'They' say we're are Zone 8a/b but judging from my results last year, I think we're fully Zone 9. Last month, I had a crew clean out my backyard beds and hack off a TON (under and over) from my camellias, azaleas, aucuba, euonymus and whatever else was back there. They look like bald headed stumps but they’re super hardy and will grow back just fine (tamed). This weekend, I got all of my decorative pots refreshed (my spike plants overwintered...it was soooo mild!!). I put in some flag grass, heuchera and sedum in the shadier spots, and next weekend I'll transplant some lenten roses. In the sunnier spots, I put in a couple of rosemary and lavender plants. My marsh marigolds are already in full bloom. I want to add a dwarf citrus tree in that bed too. Some of the liriope I transplanted two years ago are finally growing. Now, of course, I don't want them there, so I need to find them a new home.
  4. This part. These are skills that can be cultivated tho, even in adulthood. People who don't have them, as kids and as adults (varying degrees obvs) are challenging to work and live with. I think 'figure it out' as dogma was traumatic for me. It was a form of parental neglect. Teaching/Modeling how and when to ask for help is how I tweaked it for myself and our kids.
  5. This is hilarious b/c a neighbor once came over and asked DH if he could borrow ‘his’ compound miter saw. DH said no, but I’ll ask my wife if you can borrow *her* saw! DH hasn’t operated anything more powerful than a cordless drill in 27 years, lol.
  6. FTR- I am preparing to take over too, with or without DH. It’s hard on the ego for men conditioned to be ‘the breadwinner’. It’s even harder when you’ve indulged that fantasy too long. Renegotiation in progress. Misogyny hurts everyone b/c there certainly are policies that could help.
  7. and makeup, 😂. I resemble them…NOW. For me, the voice was theatrical and cringy but it was the whole package. She’s a U.S. Senator, one of 100 in the entire country, reduced to a ‘housewife’ to appeal to…me? No one I know who’s lived the SAHM life (and many have ample resources) is a shrinking violet with a whispery, plaintive demeanor. When our spouses are deployed, we do all. Those who have means, even ample means, don’t live in homes with subzero fridges with custom panels. Like, maybe your retirement home? Not real…we’re still in the trenches. It was just so…off. Is that really what half the county thinks women want to see and be?
  8. This. I’ve done both, before and after kids, and left significant $$ on the table in the process. I don’t regret that but it did leave me vulnerable for a long time(not now). Watching the ‘tradwife’/porn preference take root among inCels and radicals on BOTH sides of the political spectrum, and now living thru DHs untimely midlife crisis, is hard. I’m not scared per se (b/c my career is restarted and lively) but terrified for those who have few/no options if their relationships fail. The disenfranchisement or bust/ ‘die enceinte for the cause’ folks truly scare me. Everyone else is conquerable at my desk or at the polls.
  9. The fridge (I’m bougie and I know it) IMMEDIATELY jumped out at me.
  10. My SHEroes, raising *good* kids in obscurity and raising their profile only when their primary/hardest work was done successfully.
  11. This is my stance and EXACTLY what I said to our school board. They can bite me. My kid will have his phone. If he’s on it, bring down the hammer. Otherwise? All the bad words.
  12. Or, maybe they’re mature and intentional? Still, nothing a parent needs to comment on or be involved in.
  13. I would note that my child wasn't named, tagged, or specifically mentioned and keep it moving.
  14. 1994– I wore a shimmery dark green sleeveless fit and flare with a sweetheart neckline, floor length. If I still had it, I’d wear it today. 🥰
  15. Could be. It’s a big, public family and we have more than one NPD, all spawned from the same person.
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