MedicMom Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 He's having a rough few days. Stable, but losing weight and having a hard time keeping his heart rate up. It may be an infection. Regardless his oxygen had to be increased quite a bit just to help his heart rate. They wouldn't let me hold him today. I know there are lots of ups and downs in the NICU. I also know I am emotionally drained and exhausted. Last night an acquaintance actually told me I was lucky I didn't have to go through the "miserableness" of the third trimester. I would have killed for four more weeks. I am just drained already from the pregnancy; now I just have to find the strength for a few more months. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 That was so heartless. I'm sorry. You are doing great. We're praying for you and your baby here. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I am speechless at that acquaintance. I am sorry to hear that Caden is having a rough time. :grouphug: and prayers. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Sending prayers, hugs and hope your way. I'm so sorry your acquaintance made that comment. I guess they were just trying to find anything to cheer you up and didn't think it through. I hope they weren't intentionally heartless. You have been so strong for so long. I wish you and your wonderful baby and your family could just enjoy each other and rest. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 (((MedicMom and Caden))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Praying for your sweet little boy. And for strength for you. That's such an insensitive thing for anyone to say. I hope she realized how awful it was later. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 People say all kinds of things without thinking how it may sound to the other person. Please be assured of my prayers for Caden and you and the rest of your family. I had a baby at 32 weeks and I know how tiring the hospital routine can be. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Insertcreativenamehere Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Having been through a long and traumatic NICU stay, I'm sorry. It is so hard! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 ((Big Hugs!)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Aw, sweetie, I'm so sorry! For your friend's cranial-rectal inversion moment and, most especially, for Caden's difficulties. Tender :grouphug: for all. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MrsWeasley Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :(. ITA with the people who make careless remarks about the difficulties of the end of pregnancy. I would have done anything to have my kids be full term. It is stressful having a NICU baby and especially recovering from a c/s. Continue pumping milk (if you are), drink water, eat occasionally and sleep as much as you can. I pray he's just having a little off day and gets better soon. They may test for infections or do X-rays so don't be surprised if that happens. It's sometimes standard just for babies acting a little different. (Hugs). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Many hugs and prayers, mama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Still holding you and baby Caden in my thoughts. Try to slough off stupid comments. I think "we" (culturally) are so far removed from the ill and fragile, it is common to say stupid things. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioSamba Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Some people just feel compelled to put a happy ending or positive spin on every story. I think it comes from fear. I'm sorry she said that to you. I just prayed for Caden. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: I'm sorry about what your friend said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Both my babies were NICU babies. Sending lots of hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Much love to you both. I got similar comments when my oldest was born prematurely. Sometimes, if you don't know what to say, maybe say nothing? Sheesh. I couldn't even look at a very pregnant woman for a couple years... Wait until someone makes an offhand comment about scheduling their c-section a 'little early because it doesn't really matter" and you want to scream "Trust me, every day inside matters and is there for a reason" Ahem..yeah, still sensitive.... I hope you get to hold him tomorrow. Can you at least hold his hand? I read the first three Harry Potter books to my little guy so he could hear my voice. It made his heart rate more stable. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Prayers for you and little man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: Hoping there's somebody nearby to make you a nice cup of tea and to make :angry: faces at people who make dumb comments. Somebody pointed out to me that if DS had arrived one more week early, we would've gotten a tax deduction for him for the previous year. I pointed out that he would've needed it spent on medical care, since that was probably the week in which he developed the ability to breathe unassisted. <_< 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 (((MedicMom & Baby Caden))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 (Hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Still praying here. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedicMom Posted May 8, 2015 Author Share Posted May 8, 2015 I know in six months this will all be a distant memory. Fortunately that person is really an acquaintance that I haven't even seen in like fifteen years. I am sure she just didn't know what to say. It still hurt. And I know I am exhausted and pumping every four hours around the clock doesn't help, plus all the post partum hormones. But sometimes I just need to vent. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 You're a good mom. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hkpiano Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 So sorry you're going through such a stressful and scary time! Ignore thoughtless comments! Stay strong, mama!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 sometimes people just say something they think will be comforting... but.. it isn't. So sorry she didn't think first before she spoke. :grouphug: continuing to send up prayers for you and Caden. How is your recovery going? Hang in there... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I'm praying for you and Baby Caden. (((MedicMom))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Sending thoughts of strength and healing for you both. Physical and emotional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I know in six months this will all be a distant memory. Fortunately that person is really an acquaintance that I haven't even seen in like fifteen years. I am sure she just didn't know what to say. It still hurt. And I know I am exhausted and pumping every four hours around the clock doesn't help, plus all the post partum hormones. But sometimes I just need to vent. Can you skip a middle of the night pumping so you can sleep? Even every other night? It will make a difference in how you feel. Or do you wake up all uncomfortable anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: I hope you and Caden have a good day tomorrow. Sending you strength and fortitude. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 From Danestress' thread on awesome cancer cards... Hope you will overlook some inappropriate language for some humor therapy. Third card down, signed: "Thinking of you, Caden and all your sweet tired family, hugs & prayers, Seasider." http://www.slate.com/blogs/the_eye/2015/05/06/empathy_cards_by_emily_mcdowell_are_greeting_cards_designed_for_cancer_patients.html 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PuddleJumper1 Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: hugs and prayers for you and little Caden Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xahm Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 I'm praying for you, Caden, and your family as well. Thank you for sharing. I hope no one else ever has to face what you are facing now, but you are helping me learn how to better support others when they do. God be with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Sending prayers, hugs and hope your way. I'm so sorry your acquaintance made that comment. I guess they were just trying to find anything to cheer you up and didn't think it through. I hope they weren't intentionally heartless. You have been so strong for so long. I wish you and your wonderful baby and your family could just enjoy each other and rest. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'd bet they were just being really clunky in trying to cheer you up, too. Don't take it personally! I'm praying for you and Caden here. Both of you need rest and strength. The NICU is a hard, hard place to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 He's having a rough few days. Stable, but losing weight and having a hard time keeping his heart rate up. It may be an infection. Regardless his oxygen had to be increased quite a bit just to help his heart rate. They wouldn't let me hold him today. I know there are lots of ups and downs in the NICU. I also know I am emotionally drained and exhausted. Last night an acquaintance actually told me I was lucky I didn't have to go through the "miserableness" of the third trimester. I would have killed for four more weeks. I am just drained already from the pregnancy; now I just have to find the strength for a few more months. Oh such an insensitive comment... Hope and pray that bubs gets stronger soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 (((Medic Mom and Caden))) Keeping you all in prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Medic Mom, I thought of you & your precious son when I saw this sweet photo series... Picture series captures the 'incredible healing power of a mother's touch' with images of women cradling their babies in an intensive care unit (Daily Mail article) &/or NICU Photo Series Captures Mothers' Healing Touch (blog from Children's Healthcare of Atlanta) Wishing both you & your son some happy, healing holding very soon. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Thinking of you and Caden. Hang in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 I continue to keep you all in my thoughts. The roller coaster ride of NICU is exhausting, emotionally and physically, sending many :grouphug: . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Hoping tonight is a smooth night for you both. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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