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  1. I'm not the kind of person who leaves their babies with other people normally. I hate to. But I've left this little one in the y childcare since as soon as he was three months old, which is their rule. My husband is deployed and I have three older kids, the oldest being six. It's not ideal, but he's very healthy, I don't leave him if I see they are crowded, and my sanity is important, too. I would rather be able to leave him with my husband, not only because that would mean my husband was home. So if you feel like you need to, you should make that call and don't feel guilty. A less than perfect situation is sometimes the best we have, and that's ok.
  2. I've had success with getting little thorns/bits of something out using duct tape. Put duct tape across the area, then pull off. If that falls, soak your foot and then do the duct tape while your foot is still pruney. It's not a perfect method, but it's an easy thing to try
  3. There's a simple game that my friends and I played in college that you could adapt, provided you have at least one more literate person who can play, too. (I'm looking forward to when my second learns to write well enough that we can play this as a home-school game.) Each person writes a sentence, and it's best to have a lot of interesting detail in the sentence. Then you pass your sentence to the person next to you. That person draws a picture based on the sentence. Now everyone passes these pictures to the next person, and that person must write a sentence based on the picture. You continue doing this around the circle until everyone receives back the thread of sentences and pictures they started. I played this with English Language Learners, and then I'd assign them a vocabulary word or two or grammatical structure to incorporate into the original sentence.
  4. To be clear, the people doing this are people I generally like a lot. They just get really excited about their faith and ideas about it, and their church has a lot of people like them and not so many older, calmer people direct the energy. They've had experiences with the opposite kind of church, where there are very few people with enthusiasm about Christianity and lots of older people there to need 15 committee meetings to decide whether the church should sing 2 hymns and a praise and worship song or just 3 hymns, then pat themselves on the back for how quickly they moved (exaggeration, yes). I know where they are coming from, but the weirdness they jump to still seems weird, and when their kid tells my kid something off the wall, I don't want to do anything to underminemyself, the parents, their faith, or their future faith. It's tough.
  5. That's a good idea to look into! Not one we thought of. I'd love for him to have that job for sure. Actually, I'd love that job. I'll see what he thinks.
  6. He really considered this, but I doubt at this point he'll make a change involving redoing that much undergraduate work. He'd be happy to do a graduate program, but I'm not going to encourage working full-time while also a full-time student again. Been there, done that. More schooling will, hopefully, come with some kind of teaching fellowship or similar so he can leave the job he hates.
  7. I've found some success holding it in my palm for a bit, then pushing it onto a painted surface with my thumbnails.
  8. It's actually this that makes me consider saying more, if it comes up, especially if the parents are around so that I'm not seen as secretly undermining. Just something like, "that's cool, but I think God saves his miracles to be special things. He commanded us to fill the earth and subdue it, which I think means we are supposed to study and understand things. We wouldn't be able to do that very well if God was always breaking the rules he wrote!" That sounds really casual and not at all rehearsed, right, haha. I'm very thankful for a college Bible prof who taught different ways "Bible believing" Christians interpret Genesis. That had a big impact on keeping me from feeling like I had to leave the church.
  9. Not in my circles(the conservative Presbyterian I grew up with or the moderate mainline protestant I am now), but I don't know about others. I'm guessing they didn't invent it in a vacuum, though.
  10. That's the scripture that sprang to my mind as well. At least it's not putting anyone in danger, which makes it much better than snake handling to me, or less bad, I suppose. That's a good go-to line. I've used similar in other situations. Then I have to follow up with "we can discuss the why's later" because I have kids who really want to understand everything.
  11. In the pictures it seems to. I don't know how long for, nor whether it is longer than they would stay if pressed against similar surfaces without the command.
  12. Some extended family we will be seeing soon that have kids roughly the same ages as ours have been practicing their faith in the holy spirit by commanding pennies to stay on the wall when they place them there and then let go. I'm a practicing, believing Christian, but this is not part of my practice at all. To me it feels like claiming God is helping you do magic tricks, but to then, I gather, it is a way of exercising their faith to strengthen it. I am fine chatting about it with the adults if it or similar comes up. We have a good, respectful relationship and can disagree about things without fighting. What about with the kids? I don't know what to say if it comes up, particularly if both sets of kids are around at the time. Any advice? My husband isn't around right now to talk through this with, and he won't be back by the time we get together. I sometimes need to process things verbally to keep from making them a big deal in my head; that's the main reason I'm posting. It's his side of the family, if that matters.
  13. He's pretty sure that being a detective wouldn't really be satisfying, but he might try to switch to that to get the last couple of years he needs for certain pension benefits to kick in. He is considering teaching and going to grad school. Working for the state department or similar in economic development is his dream job at this point, but he also has certain goals in the military he wants to hit, so he doesn't want to leave the guard just yet. This latest tour might be changing his mind about that, though! I'm pushing him to talk to his old college advisor for grad school advice (graduated 2 years ago, so he'll still be remembered clearly), and we'll talk about the time line for a state department job. A lot of these other ideas are also interesting, so I'm looking to see what's available in our area. We are in a big-city suburb, so there are plenty of opportunities for change. Thank you all! I want to help him find something that will be challenging enough that he will be able to be happy. His brother also owns successful business and wants to hire him to do some kind of analysis which is outside his area of study but could fit the bill. We'll be talking about the pros and cons of that, too.
  14. For my husband. Please don't quote as the following info is more specific than I would like to leave up long-term. He is currently deployed in the National Guard, but his normal full time work is policing. Basically, he hates it. The hours are bad, he doesn't like sitting on a car so many hours of the day, and the leadership is not always top quality, let's say. He'd like to make a major change into a new field. The question is, what? An ideal job for him would involve a fair amount of communication and interaction, lots of problem-solving, and chance for physical exercise (or good enough hours he could exercise on his own time.) He's a brilliant, brilliant person who is happiest with lots of mental and physical exercise. He has a major in international studies and economics, which he earned while policing full time, serving in the guard, and having his first three kids. He can learn to do pretty much anything without significant difficulty. He's basically the smartest guy in the room in almost any room he goes in, but that doesn't make figuring out a life path easier. He is good at working with others, patient, and kind, but he gets very frustrated when there are outside restrictions that keep him from doing his job well. Working abroad is absolutely a possibility for our family. His references world be excellent. Money is always good, but we don't require a lot for our lifestyle. Does anyone have any ideas either of jobs or ways to figure out a career path? I know there are folks offering help to veterans to find jobs, but my impression is that they are focused on reducing unemployment, not on matching people with long-term career happiness. If I'm wrong about that, please me know. Thank you for any help you can share.
  15. I did as a teen. (Early 2000s) My period were extremely irregular and tended to be very heavy and come without warning. I don't remember all the details at this point, but I know I went to a pediatric endocrinologist to rule out the most likely causes and found I had elevated testosterone levels for no reason that was readily apparent. BCP helped the symptoms, and when I went off them as a young adult, my cycles were long but close to regular and not horrible. My mom told me I would be getting "hormone pills," but I realized when I got the first pack what they were and that she didn't feel comfortable calling them birth control. My acne was probably better on them, but not perfect skin. Lots of girls I knew were on them, but I didn't go around asking for medical reasons, so I don't know them.
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