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  1. I've seen how much work goes into starting a business, so I would consider it a family affair if dh were starting one because otherwise I'd never see him. Not that I'd be his business partner, but I'd be around, so I'd know his business partner. He or she would know us and our kids, would be invited to family things, etc. In that kind of situation, I wouldn't care about his partner's gender. If I suspected that the partner would encourage my husband to be unfaithful, I would suspect he or she wouldn't be a trustworthy business partner either.
  2. The preschool my daughter went to in France had one big open room with a walk about 4 feet high in the middle separating the girl's area from the boy's. The toilets were all open to each other, but there were stalls for the teachers. There may have been low dividers between the toilets, but I don't remember. This school served ages 2-5ish, so teachers had to be able to monitor everyone. I'm not sure if the older kids found it uncomfortable, but my 3 year old didn't care.
  3. I have a recurring dream bordering on nightmare like this.
  4. xahm

    VBS This Summer

    We were supposed to be doing it this week. The children's director had planned for social distancing. The kids were divided into small groups that they would stay with all week. Teachers would rotate rooms while kids stayed put. Siblings were going to be kept together in mixed age groups. No assembly. Craft packs preassembled then left at children's places at the table so no sharing of supplies. Masks on everyone, all the time. (Except my toddler as he's too young, but he was going to be with me, well back from others.) Our church leadership decided it wasn't worth the risk, so it was cancelled shortly beforehand.
  5. As I was reading this, I had the idea, and it may be a bad one, of hiding away some of the toys in boxes in out of the way places, like way back under a bed, inside a rarely used pot, etc. Then, every few days, send them an email or give them a call saying, "look in the stock pot", or whatever. They open it up, and there's a beading kit, or silly string, or those pooping unicorns. Little things will be fun and exciting then, and they never know when or where the next surprise will be.
  6. I think this is good advice, but it also reminds me of when my oldest were 2 and 6 months (now 6 and 8, so not that long ago) and I was constantly sleep deprived but having a good time. They were both easy kids as long as we stayed flexible, kept them fed, and didn't let any strangers near the baby. An old family friend had a toddler in between the ages of my two and asked what method I was using to raise them. I came out with something about "we're doing what works and it seems to be working," and she responded back, "oh, we're raising kids God's Way." My sleepy brain was so confused. I was staring at her one child, trying to figure out how she was raising "kids" at all. I think I said something about how that's a good goal for all of us and disengaged as quickly as possible, which is easy when you have a baby and a toddler who are awake. After a while I realized she was quoting the title of a book and simply decided never to talk to her about child rearing. To answer the original question, at least around me, parents and babies are now just flooded with so much stuff! We had about ten beautiful, special blankets given to our oldest, plus the every day kinds. So many toys, clothes, feeding gadgets. It can be hard because new mom is grateful, but it comes to feel like a burden to need to enjoy each special thing. Granny gave this, Miss Ida gave that. For those in a small apartment, it can be a real problem, too. Consignment sale are overflowing with new and nearly new baby stuff at pennies on the dollar. That's not to say not to give your special thing, because those are meaningful, but just to share what many of my friends and I have noticed.
  7. I'd love to participate, but I'm not up to organize one.
  8. I've enjoyed watching the song contest and been interested by the politics involved as well as amused and sometimes impressed by certain acts. I don't remember to seek it out each year, though.
  9. My husband, who is a police officer, and I have been talking a lot about reforms that are needed, even before events brought this into national attention. Here are some of the things we've discussed recently. Police are asked to do too much with too little training. Our department gets far more than the state requires, but they still don't touch on many things the officers need to know on a daily basis, like, laws regarding custody disputes. This leads to officers using their best judgement but making many mistakes that have to be sorted out later, with very real affects on the lives of families (just one example). The main emphasis in much of their training is "you could be shot at any moment." Readiness is important, but incidents where officers go in on too high alert and make mistakes because of it are more common among newer officers. Training needs to be longer, with more information about laws and available resources, and then the on the job part of the training, where new officers ride with experienced officers, needs to be way, way longer as that's the most helpful part. Kind of like becoming a teacher, much of what needs to be learned can only be taught through doing. Unfortunately, right now the academies are all closed due to Corona and the last batch of recruits got graduated early. I suspect the next batch will be given an abbreviated course as well since by the time an academy can be run, the county will be desperate for officers. There also needs to be more help for officers to deal with the stuff they see. There are some resources, but they have to be sought out. They should be automatically offered and, in some cases, required. When dh returned from serving overseas, the first day here reported to work they had him running calls on his own. As it happens, he wasn't in an especially harrowing plane while he was overseas and wasn't having to process too much, but they didn't even check that. Other changes need to be made, like ending the war on drugs. Also, currently in our state, when police officers arrive at a scene of domestic violence where any injury or property damage has been done, they have to label someone the primary aggressor and take that person to jail. That law was made for good reasons but has had bad unintended consequences and hasn't helped terribly much to protect domestic violence victims.
  10. Is it the chain of home school academies, about ten of them, that has a big arts focus? I don't have any direct knowledge, but I am aquainted with a few people who've been involved in the one near me. They've enjoyed it, from what I know.
  11. One big thing to teach in the situation you describe is how to communicate when you don't know the words. Yes, as a teacher you teach lots of relevant vocab and basic grammar structures, but they aren't going to get close to fluent in that time, so they need to practice strategies, like using different words, miming, sketching a quick map, etc that will help them bridge the gap. Without practice it is too easy to either withdraw and give up on communication or fall into the trap of speaking English more and more loudly, hoping it will get through. When I went to live in Russia I only know how to decide the alphabet and really basic greetings. After two years, I could hold basic conversations about certain topics and understand a lot. (I was teaching English, so my growth was stunted in that much of the time I was required to speak English.) Midway through my time, I needed to buy a lightbulb, but I kept forgetting to look up that word when I was near a dictionary. I searched all through a store and ended up having to ask an employee using the words I did know "I have a lamp, but there is no light. I need this." Then I mimed screwing in a bulb. It worked like a charm, and I'll forever remember how to say lightbulb, even after all else is forgotten.
  12. I enjoy having discussions, including with those who disagree with me, if the other person will push back and challenge my thinking and will appreciate it when I do the same. It helps if they are widely read or experienced enough to have formed ideas based on something real. I sell those people out. I hide from most others. Right now I just set my toddler down and then go,"oh, better chance after him" or, if I want holding him "gosh, I haven't heard the baby in a bit. Better go check on him." It's going to be odd using that excuse when my youngest is a teen, but I might do it any way. I did get into a heated discussion with bil recently, but the things he was asserting were actually vile and obviously, if you knew about the fields of study, false. It didn't go well.
  13. Praying for you that God gives you wisdom and peace with your decision, as well as extra grace and trust in each other during this time.
  14. When I'm working with a child, I call it a "look pretty e." When the child hasn't encountered the word very often, I'll remind them "some words in English have an e that is only there to look pretty and doesn't change the sound. Even though you'd expect this to be a pinch-y e and the word to be pronounced air, this one we ignore. How would you say it, then? Good work, r." Later, if the child is looking perplexed, I just remind them "this is a look pretty e," and that's enough for my kids.
  15. When you have been in the school system, either as a student or a parent, you have a lot of assumptions about what should be part of school. The day starts with the Pledge to the flag, and desks are the best place to study, right? Well, it could be that way, but at home, it's all up to you. I'd like to invite those who are brand new or newish to homeschooling to discuss what things they would love to incorporate into their home school. What goals would you like to aim for in the coming year or years? Are there any aspects of traditional school you'd like to leave behind? Any that you feel are important to keep? Is there an area of study you think your child will be excited to branch into? Experienced posters aren't banned, of course, but please be gentle and don't rain on anyone's parade. If I say I'd love to teach my kids four foreign languages and three styles of folk dance in the coming year, no need to tell me my plan is odd and unlikely to come together, at least not in this thread.
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