Liz CA Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 The thread about a doc's office calling a dh instead of the wife who is the patient made me think about this. My dh is so squeamish - not sure it would be good to tell him everything blow by blow. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nukeswife Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, mine knows it all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, he knows every little bit. I'm an over-sharer :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 yes, but I really don't have much medical history. Mostly to do with having children, and he was there for all of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes he does. The good, the bad, and the ugly... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LBS Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I over-share too. Mine knows way more than he wants to. I want somebody to be able to tell what was going on with me, if I drop to the pavement. The thread about the doctor's office calling the DH? I came away from that, reminded about how peeved I get that the doctor's offices (and school offices, and others) now seem to try the home phone once, then go right to cell phones, even though I write quite clearly, EMERGENCY ONLY! They want the answer right that moment, not willing to re-immerse, later, when I call back? Poop. I always answer the cell phone, but I will tell them I'm driving, or out, away from calendar, so please call my home phone and, by the way, please highlight where I wrote EMERGENCY ONLY on the form. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelweiss Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Mine knows every last bit. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Of course. There's such a thing as privacy and one doesn't have to overshare in the moment, but I can't imagine keeping anything real or "medical history" worthy from him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Pretty much though his "attention to detail" tends towards work and not home! So, I think that though he has been told the details, he'd be only good for an overview. :D DD and my sister would be far better in this regard. But then, dd has not only ALWAYS been detail oriented, her paramedic training and pre-med classes have made her even more so and her retention is amazing after all of that memory work. (If you can survive A & P and Pharmacology, your mother's entire medical history is a NO BRAINER!) :lol: Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Well, I certainly have SAID a lot. However, my hubby probably doesn't *know* a lot. He just can't assimilate it all very well. That is okay as long as he is supportive :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, mine knows it all. There is good reason for him to know and I trust him completely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Well, he's been told. Now, if he'd remember, esp in a crisis, is a whole 'nother matter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Mine knows every sordid detail. He remembers things I don't, thank goodness, and on our many ER trips he's often had to test that knowledge in the triage area. :) Thankfully, our days of multiple ER trips are over, but it sure was nice to know he had my back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, but we've been together since we were teens. He's been *around* for my entire adult life. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yup. And he knows where I keep our medical notebooks with all records. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 My husband has heard my medical history over the years, but I am not at all sure he would be able to relate it to someone else in an emergency. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 We both know everything. I think that's important in case of an emergency. Dh should become more familiar with the kids' medical histories, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 He knows it all...I know it all. There has never been a reason not to share. I think our health and decisions made about it are just important to be open about as money or anything else. His health has an effect on my life just as much as my own. (I mean, after you've changed your dh's colostomy bag, what is there left to hide :lol:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cin Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Dh knows mine, and I know his. We have no other family, and we both feel that in case of an emergency, somebody should know. jmho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrogMom5 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 He knows but probably wouldn't remember most of it to tell a doctor. Denise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomemom Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 The thread about a doc's office calling a dh instead of the wife who is the patient made me think about this. My dh is so squeamish - not sure it would be good to tell him everything blow by blow. ;) Yep! I WANT him to know. He loves me and I want someone who has my back when/if something happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DusksAngel Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, and until we had the latest little one, went to most, if not all, of my appointments. I love having a second set of ears. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Well, he's been told. Now, if he'd remember, esp in a crisis, is a whole 'nother matter. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Absolutely! He knows more about me than I do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margo out of lurking Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Okay, I'll be the odd one out here. Yes, dh knows mine (whether he remembers it or not is another matter). I do not know every intimate detail of his. He has serious ongoing health issues. He does not care to discuss, and I don't push it. I occasionally see various doctor reports, with his knowledge, but I don't talk about it further. Of course there is more to this, but this works for us. I'm fine with it; he's fine with it.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, he knows every little bit. I'm an over-sharer :D :iagree: Me too! :lol: I'm sure much of it is in one ear and out the other, but he is always supportive. I had several scary doctor appointments this year. Dh went with me and sat there taking notes, writing down all of the numbers and big words. :lol: It was comforting to have him there, and nice to be able to focus on the doctor instead of taking my own notes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 He knows everything there is to know about me and vice-versa. And, oh boy, does he love hearing the details of my annual OB/GYN appointment. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virg Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 My DH has been told. I don't know how much he remembers. I feel like I should type something up now... lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Pretty much though his "attention to detail" tends towards work and not home! So, I think that though he has been told the details, he'd be only good for an overview. :D DD and my sister would be far better in this regard. But then, dd has not only ALWAYS been detail oriented, her paramedic training and pre-med classes have made her even more so and her retention is amazing after all of that memory work. (If you can survive A & P and Pharmacology, your mother's entire medical history is a NO BRAINER!) :lol: Faith Sounds like my hubby's family! He comes from a lot of brainiacs -- doctors, surgeons, nurses, researchers, etc. His grandfather was head of surgery and his uncle was a top surgeon whom we see every holiday. It cracks me up to see him (he is retired now) intrigued with ds and my rare liver disease and our participation with the FDA Drug Study. His mind never forgets from the previous year. And yes, my hubby (and his family) knows all of my medical history!! I know theirs as well. I have no choice with his family!! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I can't imagine this stuff not being shared between us. I would not feel right keeping it from him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jillian Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep. He's also seen my insides (during my c-section). DH knows everything....we have no secrets from each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, I can't imagine not sharing everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I have several health issues and am on medications for them. It is in both of our best interest to be informed about each other's health and medical. He has always gone to appts with me as I am a total wuss about going in and avoid it at all costs. If he didn't go with me, I wouldn't go at all. I almost died with my 5th baby. I am so grateful dh was there. He questions *everything.* I was out of it and unable to communicate with medical staff but dh was lucid and knew my history. He was able to tell them what they needed to know. He has always been the one to look at each med a nurse brings in, asks what it is for, asks for side effects and risks, and has even refused meds on my behalf that weren't safe for me for whatever reason. Reaffirms my belief in keeping him 100% in the loop. The added bonus was that after I made it out of the hospital with #5, he was able to intelligently fill me in on everything that happened. (He has never let me be in the hospital alone. And I have spent quite a lot of time there. He feels it is risky for a patient to not have a healthy, lucid advocate watching out for them to help prevent mistakes.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I tell dh pretty much everything. Could he convey all pertinent information to a medical professional? I seriously doubt it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, all of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Dh is an RN and knows and understands my history. He may forget details though because I have a long and rather complicated medical history. I know dh's history but again may forget details because his medical history is pretty long too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 For the most part. There are some details he doesn't need to know, and I can't see any reason to tell him. I waited for about 6mths to tell him that I was referred to a specialist for an autoimmune disorder. He had just lost his job, and his aunt is severely crippled by Lupus. It wasn't anything he could do anything about, so I waited to tell him. A packet from the clinic came to the house, and he questioned it. I just said I was referred to a different doctor....he didn't question it, and I didn't offer more information. It wasn't until I started to have a bunch of medical tests, that I told him. If he had something private that he wanted to talk to the doctor about...I wouldn't think twice about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyrooch Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, mine knows everything. I know all of his too. We make it a point to ensure that we are always listed on each others medical release forms so that we can have access to each others medical information if needed. Also, every time either of us goes to the doctor we always let the other know first thing what was discussed and what the doctor said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloversandlions Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, he knows it all, although there isn't much to know, really. Except for my weight. Ahem. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, he knows it all - he just gets it mixed up at times. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LidiyaDawn Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I've told him pretty much everything…but I doubt he'd remember much of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 He knows it better than I do, and fills out all of my medical forms for me. I hate paperwork. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes. And when I was dealing with chronic fatigue earlier this year, he was my auxiliary (non-fogged) brain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NavyWifeandMommy Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 DH and I know everything about each other. There are no secrets. Why wouldn't you not want your spouse to know your medical history? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
historically accurate Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yep, he knows it all. I know his as well. And the kids. (how am I ever supposed to keep all of this straight?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vettechmomof2 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 yes and vice versa! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Yes, of course. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 most of it,yeah I think he does.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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