teeniebeenie6 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) ETA: He's been found. Oh it is such a relief. His girlfriend messaged me to say she got a hold of him and he is in a recovery house. Thank you so so much for all the prayers and kind wishes!! My younger brother had a really hard childhood and sadly turned to a rough, drug ridden lifestyle when he became a teenager that has continued until now. He is 22. I have lived really far from him for the last 10 years. My Dad messaged me a few days ago to ask if I had heard anything about him because he noticed he hadn't been on facebook. I checked and his girlfriend wrote a message on his page saying she hasn't been able to get a hold of him in three weeks. He has always talked glowingly of her. I have called everyone I know that knows him and no one has seen or heard from him in weeks. To make things more stressful a decomposed body was found near where he lives. My Dad says think positively and doesn't want to contact the police at this time. I on the other hand can't kick an ominous feeling. : ( Could really use prayers for my brother Wesley. Edited August 22, 2012 by teeniebeenie6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Oh my soul.....praying now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I'll certainly pray for Wesley and your family. But I want to encourage you to contact the police. If his own girlfriend hasn't heard from him in three weeks, it's not jumping the gun to file a missing person's report. Maybe he broke up with her and is avoiding her- and Facebook, too. I hope you hear from him soon- and I have a wayward daughter so I know how it feels to just not know what's going on in someone's life. It's crummy. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 you should file a missing person's report. It is something you can do. There's very little else you can do. I will pray here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeniebeenie6 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Share Posted August 21, 2012 Thank you both! I'll certainly pray for Wesley and your family. But I want to encourage you to contact the police. If his own girlfriend hasn't heard from him in three weeks, it's not jumping the gun to file a missing person's report. Maybe he broke up with her and is avoiding her- and Facebook, too. I hope you hear from him soon- and I have a wayward daughter so I know how it feels to just not know what's going on in someone's life. It's crummy. :grouphug: I don't know how to file a missing persons report because I live in Ohio and he lives in British Columbia. I was hoping my Dad would do it but he won't at this point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Praying. Do contact the police. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Thank you both! I don't know how to contact the police because I live in Ohio he lives in British Columbia. I was hoping my Dad would do it but he won't at this point. His girlfriend could file it. ETA: you could call the local police and ask if you can file a report from your distance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Oh, I'm so sorry! My little brother is an alcoholic who goes from one halfway house to another. You are living my worst nightmare. I'm praying for you and your brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Praying. And I agree, contact the police. Ask them if it could be him, and file a missing person's report. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoot Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Oh my. :grouphug: I agree, call the police and see what can be done from your location. Tell them everything you know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susann Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Prayers and hugs! Please contact the police!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Even if they can't file an actual report they will probably take all the info. Give them a couple of names and see what happens. Your dad could be fearing the worst and not wanting to take any chances of hearing it. I'm so sorry. :( :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Call the police in bc. Tell them what you just told us. I know it's scary, but it needs to be done :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 (edited) :grouphug: I would contact the police. the fact you have found no one who has had contact in at least three weeks is ominous and I would want know for certain. eta: even if the body is too decomposed for a visual ID, they can either confirm or deny ID by using dental records. Here's a link for the rcmp in BC http://bc.rcmp.ca/ViewPage.action?siteNodeId=26&languageId=1 Edited August 21, 2012 by gardenmom5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: fwiw, op's dad may be avoiding the police, not because he fears the worst, but because db's absence is likely linked to use of illegal substances. so if they find him, charge him and he does jail time, op's dad may think it better for him to stay lost until he is ready to be found.... and if it turns out that the ominous feeling is sadly correct, there isn't much anyone can do to help him now. i'm not agreeing or disagreeing, but trying to see it thru different eyes. maybe message him on facebook privately and say you're calling the RCMP if you haven't heard from him by thursday? then if he's dropped out of sight on purpose, he gets to choose what happens next? :grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I am so sorry. Certainly I will pray for Wesley--and for you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2one Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Call the police and tell them what you said here. Taking the ostrich approach isn't going to do any good. And if, as a pp mentioned, your brother is into illegal substances and is picked up by the police, maybe it will help straighten him out a bit. In any event, you'll have at least done the only thing you really can do at this point. Oh, and prayers for you and your family. I can't imagine what you're going through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momma_Bear Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Praying, I can't imagine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeniebeenie6 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Share Posted August 21, 2012 We use a tracphone for local calls and magic jack for long distance. My magicjack has been really buggy. I emailed with information about my brother and recent pictures including ones with his tattoo and called with the magicjack. The lady was so nice and got done half the report and the phone crapped out. She tried to call me back but when I pick up no one is there. I am going to try to skype my Mom and get her to do it. I think my parents are going to be super ticked at me, but I just feel so uneasy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Just agreeing with the others, please contact the police. I'm sorry, what a difficult situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Praying for your brother, your family, and you. May you have peace. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 We use a tracphone for local calls and magic jack for long distance. My magicjack has been really buggy. I emailed with information about my brother and recent pictures including ones with his tattoo and called with the magicjack. The lady was so nice and got done half the report and the phone crapped out. She tried to call me back but when I pick up no one is there. I am going to try to skype my Mom and get her to do it. I think my parents are going to be super ticked at me, but I just feel so uneasy. Let them be ticked. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKidAcademy Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Praying..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Oh my...I'm so sorry. Praying for your entire family now. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Please find a way to get in touch with them, even if you have to borrow a phone to do so. I can't believe someone hasn't already. Praying for your family! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kb44 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 You are doing the right thing in contacting the police. Stay strong, and know that it is the responsible thing to do. If your parents are ticked, well, they will get over it. Sending strength and positive thoughts to you, and praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Please keep us posted! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: Praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Sending good thoughts your way. I hope you find him soon! I would also call the police in his area and see what they think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 BTDT> My son was missing for 3 years. I didn't know if he was dead or alive. The thought of him being safe and healthy in a prison somewhere was a comforting thought. There is a database where you can check to see if your loved one is in prison and another to check and see if their SS# is in use. I wish you the best of luck. I know how scary and painful it can be. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsbaby Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I am sorry. My younger brother went through a really hard period in his life and this was our biggest fear. I will say a prayer for your brother and your family:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you and your brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Oh man. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lulubelle Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Prayers for your brother. I hope he contacts someone soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soonermomma Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Praying for you and your brother. Update us when you can.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 praying... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheApprentice Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 praying.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connections Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 Praying for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oak Knoll Mom Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: Please update us when you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 Sometimes the police know where they are. If he is still involved in drugs, or just recently, he could have had an outstanding warrant, and just not called to tell anyone where he was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 Praying.:grouphug: hope you get some answers soon.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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