mafi39 Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 Last Wednesday my sister became a widow. My. Bil died in a car wreck. It's been awful for our whole family. We are all close. She homeschools and the children are 7 and 9. They lived on a very very small income. Her husband was disabled and drew a small check. I know the money the kids will get will be very little. We had planned to start school back July 30 but I'm thinking we will need to wait until mid-August. Just to give the kids some time. I am planning on taking over her teaching duties until she feels like she can handle it. Have any of you ever dealt with this? Are there any single widow homeschool mothers on here? I hate to see her hurting and I know she needs time to grieve. Thanks for reading Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug: Wendi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hthnmamax2 Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am so sorry. I will light a candle for your sister and the family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warneral Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers. Edited July 19, 2012 by Sue in TX double post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSMom2One Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I, too, am sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to your sis, her dc and for your family. You will be in my prayers. :grouphug: Blessings, Lucinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers to your family and your sisters family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geo Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I had a friend who became a widow while still homeschooling her youngest child. It too was a sudden loss, her dh fell off a roof while working. It took her quite awhile to get to the place of prior, normal functioning...about a year. She then gathered herself together and faced having to place the youngest in school, and got a full-time job. A local christian school gave her son a full scholarship to help ease the transition. You might think about checking into something like that for her. She had a hard time speaking without crying for the first year. Love on her. Pray for her...and let her hear your prayers, it's a comfort just to hear what's in people's hearts for her. I'm so sorry for you all.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am terribly sorry for your family's loss. She should definitely visit the SS office. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am sorry for your loss. :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MommyK Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I will be praying too. I just cannot imagine. I'm so sorry for your family's loss :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so very sorry. I will be praying for your sister and her children, and you and your family, too. I haven't been in that position but have known a few single (divorced) moms who continued to homeschool. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so sorry! Many :grouphug: and prayers for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 Last Wednesday my sister became a widow. My. Bil died in a car wreck. It's been awful for our whole family. We are all close. She homeschools and the children are 7 and 9. They lived on a very very small income. Her husband was disabled and drew a small check. I know the money the kids will get will be very little. We had planned to start school back July 30 but I'm thinking we will need to wait until mid-August. Just to give the kids some time. I am planning on taking over her teaching duties until she feels like she can handle it. Have any of you ever dealt with this? Are there any single widow homeschool mothers on here? I hate to see her hurting and I know she needs time to grieve. Thanks for reading That's so awful. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sevilla Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am very sorry for your family's loss. Both of her children should qualify for Social Security based on their father's death, so it is possible that if they were already living on his disability income her income level may not be as terribly affected. I'm assuming there was no life insurance policy in place? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I am so sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FourOaks Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 Incredibly sorry about your family's loss. :group hug: HSLDA has the Home School Foundation Widow's Fund that you might want to check into. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug: You just never know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amydavis Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I just wanted to say how sorry I am. I cannot even imagine. Hugs and prayers to your sister and her children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 so very sorry for your loss. May your brother-in-law rest in peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiCO Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 My dh died of cancer when my dds were 6 and 11 (in September.) I was homeschooling both of them at the time. I sent dd 6 to school right away, because I felt that was in her best interest. With dd 11, I just focused on the basics that first year, and enrolled her in school the next fall. I had a family business to run, and I could not (can not) do a good job with both the business and the girls' school. Your sister should get to the SS office, just to see what her daughters can get. There is also a one-time death benefit (which is very small.) :grouphug: to your sister, my heart goes out to her. Make sure she gets continued support over the next 4 years, at least. I found that help tapered off after 3 months, and after a year people expect you to just be "over it". Well, you never really get over it- and I was not anything resembling healed emotionally for 4 years. But everyone grieves differently- I hope you sister heals faster than I did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry for the loss of your brother-in-law. Praying for you all. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 Prayers for you entire family. I know of at least one widowed homeschooling mom here on the boards, and there may be others. I hope she will post here or PM you, but she might prefer not to discuss her situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm so sorry for your whole family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I'm sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 :grouphug: I wish I had some advice... just take time, and encourage to take her time in making any major decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mafi39 Posted July 17, 2012 Author Share Posted July 17, 2012 Thank you so much for your kind replies! There was no life insurance, their only car was completely totaled in the wreck. Thankfully many people have given her money and we were able to pay half of the funeral expenses with that. Our church is taking up a special offering for her Sunday so I am hoping it will be enough to finish paying the funeral expenses. Our church and another church found a used van for her and each paid half for it, praise God!!! she will have a vehicle at least. She is so grateful for all the help but is in such a fog right now. It's starting to get hard for her this week. She isn't sleeping and is exhausted. The worst thing she could do would be to put the kids in school. The oldest went for one year and it was awful! They both have learning delays and school would be overwhelming for them. I was a ps teacher (in a previous life) :) so I can handle teaching them if I need to. God is definitely carrying her right now. I don't know how she is putting one foot in front of the other. God Bless,McKinsey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristinannie Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I'm so sorry to hear that. I will pray for all of your family during this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda82 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I'll pray for the family!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alpac Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 How heartbreaking! I am so sorry!:grouphug: I am so glad to hear that the churches are stepping up to help. And she is very blessed to have you in her life. Praying for all involved! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 No advise. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry to hear this. I am not a widow but I am a single mom homeschooling. I have no gems of wisdom regarding the grieving, but i can say that homeschooling as a single parent is completely doable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Last Wednesday my sister became a widow. My. Bil died in a car wreck. It's been awful for our whole family. We are all close. She homeschools and the children are 7 and 9. They lived on a very very small income. Her husband was disabled and drew a small check. I know the money the kids will get will be very little. We had planned to start school back July 30 but I'm thinking we will need to wait until mid-August. Just to give the kids some time. I am planning on taking over her teaching duties until she feels like she can handle it. Have any of you ever dealt with this? Are there any single widow homeschool mothers on here? I hate to see her hurting and I know she needs time to grieve. Thanks for reading :grouphug: oh, how awful. Prayers for your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
godsaggie Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Oh my...I'm praying for your family. 15 years ago, my sister was widowed unexpectedly. It was such an awful time for our family. We had to take it day by day. My nephews were so young...it was such a loss for them. A few years later my sister actually remarried. It was a long hard road to healing, but we all made it. I wish you and your family all the best.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamturner Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Praying for you all. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paula in MS Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I'm so sorry for your loss! I know it must be incredibly difficult to lose someone so sudden. I lost my first husband to cancer when my dd was 3 and was a widow for a number of years. I would recommend that she not change her life drastically unless it is absolutely needed. Her kids need her at home right now. She might be surprised at what kind of SS she could get. She would qualify for herself as a non working care giver as well as for her children. They are also very fast at getting the ball rolling (about a month), so it is important that she doesn't wait to go apply. If she could live on this income, it would enable her to keep the rest of their lives on track without making major changes right now. Praying for your family.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: No advice, but my heart grieves for them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-2-7 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry for you terrible loss. I have no words of advice but wanted to offer my condolences and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug: my condolences to your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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