Chris in VA Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 (edited) Thanks for all your support. Edited February 6, 2012 by Chris in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Country Mouse Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so sorry Chris, may he be guided to what is best for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 ((Chris))... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ciyates Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry you are going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am absolutely praying for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: A thousand hugs and prayers for you, your son, and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Praying. Praying. Praying. I have been there -- my heart hurts for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Prayers for you. I'm sorry it's so hard. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wyndie Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Down_the_Rabbit_Hole Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I will probably delete this thread in a few hours, but wanted to ask for prayer. Ds has a deadline due to his behavior, now. He has to leave the house by Tues. We've given him two weeks. He's completely out there, iykwim, with old behaviors and worse. We are still offering 2 mo rent, up to a certain amt we feel he could maintain if he got a job. That offer has been on the table since July. No movement, continued old behavior. Now he's doing it here and on the property. Dh is getting a court order so he won't be able to come home at all until he gets into treatment or has a plan to, and has another address. Ds says he "loves his life" and does "whatever I want to, whenever I want to." There is a "pack" of young adults who he hangs with, and they spend all day and all night at each other's homes, drinking, drugging, having s#x, etc. He is gone for days at a time, doesn't check in at all. It's really bizarre and foreign to me. They are so lost. He has no phone, no job, no license, is on prob (his PO doesn't care, apparently), and now will have no permanent address. We asked him what should we do with your stuff. Answer--I don't care. We will store his bed and dresser and the things in his closet for him, but we are setting the alarm on Tues and he will not be allowed here by the court. I will have to call the police if he tries to come. This is so hard. It doesn't feel right. It is not the way I want to parent. I feel we have no choice. Dh has to protect the property, and we have to protect ourselves and dd. Prayers pls. I do not want to call the police on my own son. I do not want to turn him away. He is so, so in the pit. But he's 20, and we have offered and tried and counseled and gotten help, and loved him thru all we can, since he was 12 and this started. This boundary is incredible difficult for me as I tend towards enmeshment with my kids and enabling. I told dd what would happen and she cried, but then she said, "Sometimes it takes drastic measures." Pray he will not show up for our Super Bowl party tonight, pray for him to stay alive, pray for my heart and for dd and dh. Thanks for all your support. Chris, Many prayers and hugs. I ABSOLUTELY understand what you are going through. This is one of the hardest things a mother has to deal with. You love him so much. You love him so much that you will do what is right even if it breaks your heart. Prayers for peace to your family. Prayers for direction and prayers of protection on him. Laurel Please feel free to pm me if you need to talk more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: I'm praying for you and your ds. This must be truly hard. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: and prayers. You are not alone in this struggle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Oh, Chris. I'm so very sorry. Know that I will be praying for you and your family :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Heading to church now. Will pray for your son. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Hard though it may be, you are doing the right thing. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Prayers and :grouphug::grouphug: My heart aches for you. You are doing the difficult but right thing, Mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry to read this. I thought things were going differently. I'll add you and yours to my list. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 You have my thoughts and prayers, my dear. :grouphug: He does as well. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I cannot imagine.....praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug:, and you are doing the right thing. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chepyl Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unscripted Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Absolutely. You and your whole family have my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in AL Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Aw, Chris, my heart aches for you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aelwydd Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 That's really tough. I wish and hope for the the best for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Another Jen Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Chris, I know how hard this is. Waiting for someone else to hit bottom is exhausting and heart breaking. Just know that you are not alone in this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so, so sorry, Chris. Praying for peace for you, and miraculous intervention for you ds. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Praying for peace in your heart. Praying for God to grip your son's heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 5, 2012 Author Share Posted February 5, 2012 Thank you. Hearing it is the right thing is so hard. I want it to be the wrong thing. I know that's weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Chris, I'm so sorry. Praying for you all. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in MI Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 (edited) :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I had five cops take my son out. I cried and cried. But I wanted to tell you that it worked...not the cops, but our not tolerating him being stoned and drunk in our house. I couldn't let my littles live with that fear. He's better now. It was rough, but he's got a job, car, license, insurance...he's growing up. Got a great job he can do the rest of his life if he sticks with it. Its not perfect, but it's better. He's made some decisions I'm downright proud of. And the space gave us to room to communicate with love. Keep praying. It works. Edited February 5, 2012 by justamouse can't edit on the fire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 5, 2012 Author Share Posted February 5, 2012 Thank you so much for this hope!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I will tell you that I know people who have come through addiction and have great lives now. But, they absolutely need to want recovery. They all needed a residential rehab and a new start somewhere else to make it happen. But, it can happen. Sending love and prayers.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 praying (((hugs))) Thank you for sharing this story. You do not know who you might have helped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am so sorry. How terribly this must hurt your mommy heart, even if your brain knows this is what you must do. I am just so terribly sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiegirl Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Oh, Chris, my heart is hearting so much for you. :grouphug::grouphug: I am praying for you, your ds and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emzhengjiu Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Praying for you and your son! Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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