Journey Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 when someone says "we are pregnant"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LAS in LA Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 yes. "We" are expecting. "I" am pregnant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Yes, but not for the reasons it bothers most people. Or maybe it is more accurate to say that it bothers me on many levels. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Yep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alphabetika Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't bother me, exactly, but I think it's dorky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I let dh claim the "we" part. I was a horrid pregnant person, he deserves a medal for living through the time with me. I'm not sure if he ever used the term, but I have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't particularly bother me. I'd be happy for the family, not bothered. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't particularly bother me. I'd be happy for the family, not bothered. :001_smile: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 The phrase doesn't actually bother me too much, but the couple times I've heard it, it's been said by very irritating men. Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 No, it doesn't bother me. I just says to me that the father is taking an active role in the pregnancy and is really excited. I think if it as an expression, not a declaration. Dh didn't use the term, but I don't think much of it when I hear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotAVampireLvr Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 yes. "We" are expecting. "I" am pregnant. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janie Grace Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't bother me, exactly, but I think it's dorky. Yup. That. It's as if they don't feel secure that dad is going to be an important part of the whole thing, so they need to bring it into the semantics of the announcement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Nope. Doesn't bother me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlbuchina Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Of all the things to get irritated by... :D Naw, it doesn't bother me. I know they mean that they are expecting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 when someone says "we are pregnant"? I often find myself saying, "When we were active duty," even though I have never been a member of the armed forces. We both had out parts to play and even though he was in the military and not me, it was a team effort. Pregnancy is the same way. It is a life transforming team effort, and if some goofy dad wants to say that, he has earned the privilege. I do think it is goofy, but I am glad he recognizes that he is half of the parenting team. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy_of_4 Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Nope, doesn't bother me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 No, it doesn't bother me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 yes. "We" are expecting. "I" am pregnant. T.H.I.S. 'We' were never pregnant. I don't remember dh getting stretch marks, morning sickness that lasted all day for months, raging hormone fluctuations, not to mention all the 'fun' doctor visits/tests/checks. And let's not even START on labor, mmmkay? No. WE were not pregnant. :glare: :lol: (My dh would NEVER have used that term. Yes, I fully admit I was not a fun pregnant wife. But he fully admits that if men had to bear the children, we'd never have had any. :D) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shinyhappypeople Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 No. Not in the least. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It's a bit funny and cute but it doesn't "bother" me. I try not to let much someone chooses to say truly bother me. :) Hoprefully a bit of a "Whatever!" goal. Doesn't always work. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I often find myself saying, "When we were active duty," even though I have never been a member of the armed forces. We both had out parts to play and even though he was in the military and not me, it was a team effort. Pregnancy is the same way. It is a life transforming team effort, and if some goofy dad wants to say that, he has earned the privilege. I do think it is goofy, but I am glad he recognizes that he is half of the parenting team. :iagree: It doesn't bother me. OTOH, if a man said, "we're in labor," I might feel differently. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Nope, I see 'we' as a couple and it takes two to tango. I would imagine the average person would realize that the male partner is not physically carrying the child and the meaning of 'we are pregnant' is quite clear and not offensive to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't bother me, exactly, but I think it's dorky. :iagree: :lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Not at all. I know what they mean and I'm happy for them. I don't see why it should bother me when I (and those who say it) are well aware that it's just a figure of speech. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I know what they mean, but it still sounds dorky to me. Actually, it only sounds dorky if I think about it. I probably wouldn't notice if someone actually said it. :lol: Dh was very excited to be a dad, but he would never have used that phrase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeneralMom Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Yes, it grates on me because it is incorrect. We are not pregnant, I am. We are expecting a baby. I would never, however, correct someone just internally cringe. (I am a very easy pregnant woman, very easy labours, by the way, so this doesn't stem from it being hard on me) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I agree it's dorky, but I can live with it. But the all-time phrase I'm most annoyed by is: "Hi, I'm so-and-so, and this is my lover, so-and-so." :ack2: Thankfully, that one seems to have gone out of fashion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 It doesn't particularly bother me. I'd be happy for the family, not bothered. :001_smile: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Not even a little bit. I did have a bit of a :001_huh: moment when DH called his parents to announce that "we got out of surgery just fine" after my c-section. But he was excited and I was on drugs, so I let it go. He was in the room and I'm pretty sure he meant that I was done with surgery and we were now with the baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janie Grace Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I agree it's dorky, but I can live with it. But the all-time phrase I'm most annoyed by is: "Hi, I'm so-and-so, and this is my lover, so-and-so." :ack2: Thankfully, that one seems to have gone out of fashion. WHAT??? People actually said that? :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Not at all. I know what they mean and I'm happy for them. I don't see why it should bother me when I (and those who say it) are well aware that it's just a figure of speech. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arghmatey Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
armymomma Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Sounds dorky too me. I think it sounds so much nicer when a husband gives all the credit to his better half and announces that his lovely wife is pregnant. Gee - this is her moment to get a little attention! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Sounds dorky too me. I think it sounds so much nicer when a husband gives all the credit to his better half and announces that his lovely wife is pregnant. Gee - this is her moment to get a little attention! Totally agree. I'm picky like that and wouldn't want DH to piggy back on the ordeal. It is a huge sacrifice, journey, change, and challenge that a man does not feel. I want to take the credit for going through it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I blink a bit at the phrase because my thoughts are, "Really? "We" are gaining weight, throwing up every day - maybe several times every day? "We" are watching our feet disappear as well as our ankles? "We" are facing labor pains and then the lovely postpartum blech?" So for me it is not "we" are not pregnant but "I" am pregnant. "We are expecting a baby" sounds much better, imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Doesn't even hit the radar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Yes, it bugs me when it's the DH/father announcing it. But I'll admit to having run into a real 'winner' of a guy who would use phrases like that. One of the times he really got my hackles up when he said, "I don't think WE 'LL need on of those [epidurals]." (because he didn't want to spend the money). He's now the ex of my friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeganCupcake Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 yes. "We" are expecting. "I" am pregnant. I have never thought of those terms as meaning two different things. I thought of "expecting" as simply a euphemism for "pregnant", not in the literal sense of "we are waiting for a baby to emerge from her uterus". :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Nope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Not at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iucounu Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 It's totally fine, iff uttered by female royalty or Siamese twins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LAS in LA Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 It's totally fine, iff uttered by female royalty or Siamese twins. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sputterduck Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 No. Why? Why not just be happy for people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Not at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 No, not at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Yes. I prefer "we're pregnant." :D I don't think dh ever said it, but it doesn't bother me. If it helps the husband feel more involved, why not? He did have something to do with it after all. And he has to deal with a hormonal, most likely puking wife for 9 months. But I do understand having a pet peeve that other people don't get, so I won't judge you. :Angel_anim: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Not even a little bit. I did have a bit of a :001_huh: moment when DH called his parents to announce that "we got out of surgery just fine" after my c-section. But he was excited and I was on drugs, so I let it go. He was in the room and I'm pretty sure he meant that I was done with surgery and we were now with the baby. Dh called his sister after we had Dd8 and told her that he made it.:001_huh::glare: We are pregnant may be my least favorite phrase. Why not just say "we are expecting?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Nope. Doesn't bother me. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 I often find myself saying, "When we were active duty," even though I have never been a member of the armed forces. We both had out parts to play and even though he was in the military and not me, it was a team effort. Pregnancy is the same way. It is a life transforming team effort, and if some goofy dad wants to say that, he has earned the privilege. I do think it is goofy, but I am glad he recognizes that he is half of the parenting team. :iagree: What we go through, we go through together. I have to admit, I would rather deal with pregnancy than deal with some pregnant women I have seen. :blink: I do agree it sounds kind of silly though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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