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  1. Of course I don't think that children should be left with neglectful parents. :rolleyes: However, I think the courts *default* should be that both parents should have equal time with their children, assuming both parents are not neglectful. That would be the IDEAL for children. Both mothers and fathers are equally important in their children's lives, and should have equal input into them, provided that both the mother and father are not neglectful. In your case, you should have taken dad back to court if he was being neglectful to the children. My mother used to smoke pot in front of us when we were with here for visitaition. I was five years old. It's not just dads that can be neglectful. My point is that courts are still skewed towards giving mom more rights than dad SIMPLY BECAUSE they're mom. That's not right. Both parents should have equal time to parent their children if they are fit parents. THAT is what is best for children.
  2. Well, I must say that *in general*, I agree with the above. I believe that if a woman stays home to raise the children, and therefore has no income, that in the case of divorce, a husband should be required to supply alimony for a length of time. I don't, however, agree with child support at all. I think the default should be that the children split their time EQUALLY between homes, and no one pays anyone child support. JMO, which is likely influenced by the fact that 1)my father raised me and my two sisters from a very young age with NO child support from my mother at all, and 2) my dh (even though he wasn't married to her, they do have visitation and support agreements) has never missed ONE child support payment, is a wonderful father, and yet the courts still did/do not allow him to have his children half the time. His kids, according to the court order, spend roughly 1/3 of their time here at dads. It just isn't fair, IMO.
  3. You are very gracious.

  4. :grouphug::grouphug: Praying! :grouphug::grouphug:

  5. Hey, haven't seen you 'round the boards in a long time! Hope all is well with you and yours!

  6. Thank you so very much. :)

  7. Such a sweet lady you are. I wish we were IRL friends. I really enjoyed your post about Aaron. You have so much grace in your responses in the thread as well. I just can really identify with you. God bless your day today.

  8. I totally forgot to address the 'little sister is dry at night before me' part. If you don't make a big deal about the fact that your ds is still wet at night, then he won't feel bad about little sister being dry. Zee started staying dry at night at age 3. Dss, who was 9 at the time, was still wetting every night. In fact, Dss (at age 14) and Moose (at age almost 6) started staying dry at night at about the same time. In our house, staying dry at night is something that happens when your body is ready to. That's it. It's not something one can make themselves do. Therefore, it's kind of a non-issue. That's really the only way we could deal with it.
  9. Joann, I know what you're going through. I really do. My dss had enuresis until about 6 months ago. You'll see from my siggy that he is FIFTEEN years old. It runs in his mother's family; she and all her siblings wet the bed into their teenage years. So, when Moose was still wetting at night at 5, I really started to worry. I mean, I realize dss had no control over it; but the thought of Moose struggling with that for ten more years was kind of saddening to me. Blessedly, Moose just started staying dry all on his own at about 5 1/2. Before he turned six, he was reliably dry at night. I feel kinda embarrassed to admit, but I was SO relieved. The little advice I can give: I NEVER let on that I was 'worried' about it. I was honest with Moose. I told him that it wasn't his fault, and that he would stay dry at night when his body was ready. (You wouldn't imagine the things that dss's mother did to try and get him to stay dry, and NONE of them worked. I had been down that road before, and had some experience. So I knew that at age 5, there wasn't much to be done about it.) I had Moose go to the bathroom right before getting into bed. And I limited drinks after dinner. This was just to cut down on the 'flooding out of the pull-up'. I spoke with his pediatrician at his 5 year check up, and explained my concerns. She was reassuring, and basically told me to just let his body grow out of it at it's own pace. She said if at age 8-9 he was still wetting, then we'd look into medication and/or alarm. Seriously, I almost cried when he just started staying dry all on his own. I was SO relieved. And it was sort of a 'all of a sudden, he doesn't wet anymore' thing. I mean, he wet every single night. And then, he just quit. So I really get it. But try your best to hide the anxiety from your dc; as you know, there's nothing he can do about it, and stressing him/making him feel bad, ashamed, whatever does not help in the least. Not that you're doing that; just wanted to encourage you.
  10. You are very brave, thank you for defining "grace" for me today. :)

  11. Dude, quit spamming our boards!

  12. "Evangelism."HUGS for that sister!!!:grouphug::grouphug:

  13. Thank you so much. I am been busier with school (and still feeling like I'm failing most days), then the holidays, and now I'm trying to add up business expenses and pay taxes before December closes in preparation for our accountant. In general, I am taking a break from the boards -- just feeling sort of unsure of where I fit into a lot of things these days. I hope things are well with you. :)

  14. Haven't seen you around much, Nest. Hope your December is going well. :)

  15. See, there you go! Hope you are having a good winter!

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